To not want my dd to be called a skid

[Thatisall]

Not a thread about a thread but a thread about a term used on lots of threads in 'step parenting'.

I've never seen step children referred to as skids in any other place, but it seems that the step parenting board uses it quite frequently.

Like skid marks? A bit off poo left behind in pants when someone doesn't wipe properly. Nice. Is this an acceptable way to refer to anyone's children?

Dsc uses less letters so would be quicker, so why use skids? Is it a reflection on how you feel about your dsc?

AIBU to find this offensive?

hasn't kids for children been in common usage for the past 30 years?

I hate it but you can't disagree much here any more without being called PO.

I don't really care how long the word "kids" has been around. I personally find it an ugly word. I don't like slang generally and don't use it. Kids are baby goats and skids doesn't mean step children to me.

It isn't used by the majority of SPs on the site, DSC most definitely the more widely used abbreviation here.

Thanks for bringing another SP thread into AIBU though, it's about time we had good step mother thrashing, I was beginning to think we were acceptable for while there.

I don't think yabu op. I think it's a horrible term.

beverley. That's not fair at all. In fact if you read through the comments that don't like the term, a number of them are step parents. My dh is a step parent, when I told him about the term he was equally disgusted. There are some amazing step parents on MN, there are some shit ones too. There are some amazing 'birth parents' on here....and some shit ones too. I take exception to this term for step children, doesn't mean I'm bashing step mothers.

TBF OP it does look like you (and others) are assuming that SPs who use Skids have negative feelings towards their stepchildren, which in turn is looking like a bit of step parent bashing

I don't like it either. It sounds so negative that it also makes me wonder about the poster's real attitude to the children in question. The posters who use it seem to have no problem referring to their own children as 'DD' 'DS' etc- yet when it comes to stepchildren, instead of opting for the fairly obvious 'DSC' they opt for 'skids'.

toys. Don't you see, that's my point?! Why use a term that has negative connotations when dsc is shorter and more obvious given how we describe other people on here. Using it does make me question whether they have negative feelings towards them.

Using it does make me question the feelings of the step parent. Not all step parents use this as has been pointed out, so those that do, do make me wonder.

But, as has been demonstrated on this thread it doesn't have negative connotations to everyone.

It wouldn't even occur to me to think of shit if I saw Skids in the context of step parenting.

perhaps its a regional thing. Everyone uses Kids to mean children where I live (only posh people say Children ). I use "the kids" when talking about my DC sometimes, IRL and on MN, so Skids doesnt flag up as anything untowards to me.

toys and disliking the use of a word doesn't equal 'step parent bashing' to everyone either

I know OP, I know, but have a read of your OP again and you might see why Beverley said what she did.

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Nope can't see it. I'm questioning reasons for using an offensive word that quite a number of people including other step parents find offensive. I question whether it has anything to do with how you consider those children. Still not bashing all step parents. Some are great.

It's not a term used widely on the stepparents board. It's not nice. It doesn't fit with the rest of the abbreviations / acronyms commonly used on MN. But I don't think it has the connotation you're applying to it.

If you are allowed to read what you want into others' words then surely others are allowed to read what they want into yours.

Some step-parents are 'good' and some are 'bad' (and some a mixture like parents). Some say skids and some don't. There is no dividing line with 'skids and bad' on one side and 'DSC and good' on the other.

People who say skids mean whatever they individually mean, not what you decide to hear.

I don't know anyone who refers to their children as "kids".

I agree if the usual abbreviation is "d" followed by the appropriate initial I don't see the need to use "skids".

YANBU it makes me cringe. I automatically start reading their posts in a certain tone and if DDs dads wife ever referred to her this way id probably give her hell for it.

Hi Caitlin, you know me now. I say kid and kids (or more often 'that bloody kid' )

It's just slang, it doesn't mean anything bad. Shorthand is all. Plus you can say 'SKid' out loud, whereas DSC doesn't work as an acronym. I'm sure the posters that used SKids are doing it for the same reason - there's no reason to automatically think the worst of someone, is there?

I agree skid sounds a bit yucky, but to me it sounds better if it is s-kids instead. Though I don't know what's wrong with SC or DSC, or, y'know, actually typing 'step kids'.

I think the poo meaning just doesn't occur to most people who use it though, OP, they aren't trying to be offensive.

If they refer to their own children as kids then its not so bad.

Its when you see one harping on about DD, DS, MY DCs... And then the SKIDS. Its a bit

People dont actually say 'skids' (in reference to step children) outloud in conversation do they?

oh I think it's cute to be honest but then all of my kids have nicknames, dd3 is plop.

really really hate the 'lil man, princess' shite.

it's how it's said and meant that really matters.

Apologies OP. it appears I read something into your post that wasnt there. Guess you're not the only person who does it

If it's written SKids or s-kids then it's mentally quicker to say 'skids' than DSCs. I think it quite funny in a bike/car skid way rather than a poo way, but then I often refer to my DCs and DSCs as the little bastards or 'those pesky kids' so what do I know?