To not want my dd to be called a skid

[Thatisall]

Not a thread about a thread but a thread about a term used on lots of threads in 'step parenting'.

I've never seen step children referred to as skids in any other place, but it seems that the step parenting board uses it quite frequently.

Like skid marks? A bit off poo left behind in pants when someone doesn't wipe properly. Nice. Is this an acceptable way to refer to anyone's children?

Dsc uses less letters so would be quicker, so why use skids? Is it a reflection on how you feel about your dsc?

AIBU to find this offensive?

Also, as an aside, when typing my iPad tries to predict which of the D abbreviations I'm about to use and wants to correct them to the most often used ones, so anything that doesn't start with DS... something is usually a bonus.

LtEva hello nice to meet you.

Fair enough, but none of the acronyms work really(thb I usually type husband and son in full as D if it means " dear" is too Hyacinth Bucket for me and if it's "darling" too Ab Fab)

If meaning comes from what a person intends when they use an (arguably) offensive word and has nothing to do with what someone else chooses to read into it, how come other words are taboo? Such as certain racially offensive words? Or sexist words? We don't use them because some people feel offended by them. I'm a step kid and I find that word offensive. Does that not matter?

Well seeing as the step parenting board had offended you with skids can I suggest maybe it's not the place for you? Seeing as primarily is a place for step parents to get support on MN and where steps can vent about the difficulties of the situation they are in. Much like the general parenting boards. Why should the people who use that board have to worry about upsetting people by using general Internet language? Generally speaking most of the posters on Step parenting have to do enough tip toeing around in their RL. And indeed have to tread carefully when posting about step situations on pretty much every other board on MN due to the general hostility towards steps.

I sometimes called mine The Chilblains.

Jumping thats a pathetic response to someone saying they are offended by a term. Youve basically said "if you dont like it fuck off somewhere else"

Im not a step parent or step child but my dcs are atep children and i really value the perspective i gain from the step parenting board when a situation arises that i could be doing with advice on. I dont think the step parenting board should be exclusively for step parents just like the lone parent board isnt exclusively for lone parents. I could find myself a step parent at some point in my life and imagine i'd find things a lot easier (not easy but easier) if i'm coming into it with the perspective gained from years of hanging around the step board.

I like The Chilblains

There used to be a poster on here that called his kids "The Urchins". I thought that was great .....unless he was really saying it because he thought they were dirty and unkempt street kids.... Nah, don't think so.

Yeah I guess it could read that way if you didn't read it properly. I didn't say non steps shouldn't use that board. Just that steps shouldn't have to stop using widely accepted Internet language because someone has taken offence to it. Especially when they're posting on the step board for advice on a step situation.

In reference to the OP.

Has anyone called your daughter a Skid?

I agree..

I have to say though that even if this thread wasn't intended to step-parent bash..it was a little insensitive to post in light of the other thread running that contains such vile opinions towards step-parents.. It's not been a nice day for step-parents on MN today..

I hadn't heard the term until a few months ago..I didn't think anything of it.. Just presumed it was a shortening of step kids.. It's not the best turn of phrase to be honest and I wouldn't use it but I think it's easy to see when it is perhaps being used to be insulting or just an innocent quick way of writing by the tone of the sentence.

I read your post properly and my comment stands.

It's never a good day for step-parents on Mumsnet.

s-kids.

Oy. Like there aren't more important things to get het up about.

If this was about a word that could have racial or sexist connotations, a word related to years of feeling second best to others on a world wide scale, then I agree.

However, its about the word skids.

Jen s-kids isnt what OP was talking about.
skids is what she is talking about.

I agree with you OP and I have no sdc which I thought we used on here.
I have often seen sds or sdd also.
The term isn't a nice one and also reminds me that this term was used in my childhood to describe the real poor people on our local housing estates.
It is horrible and even though I have no real interest here, agree it is such a derogatory term and not fit to describe any child.

skid
sk?d/Submit
verb
1.
(of a vehicle) slide, typically sideways or obliquely, on slippery ground or as a result of stopping or turning too quickly.
"her car skidded and hit the grass verge"
2.
fasten a skid to (a wheel) as a brake.
noun
1.
an act of skidding or sliding.
"the Volvo went into a skid"
2.
a runner attached to the underside of an aircraft for use when landing on snow or grass.

skids

grease the wheels (or skids)
• informal , chiefly North American help matters run smoothly:
he used his budgetary skills to grease the skids for new projects

skid mark
Line breaks: skid mark
NOUN
1a long black mark left on a road surface by the tyres of a skidding vehicle:
there were no skid marks at the crash scene to indicate how fast he had been travelling
MORE EXAMPLE SENTENCES
2 • informal a faecal stain on the inside of a person’s underpants:
his undies had more skid marks than the Grand Prix circuit

just for reference.

Ok good you've clearly wilfully misunderstood my post then. I maintain that it's not unreasonable to say that if youre upset by things that step parents post then don't spend too much time on the board that is primarily there for their use.

Yeah I guess it could read that way if you didn't read it properly. I didn't say non steps shouldn't use that board. Just that steps shouldn't have to stop using widely accepted Internet language because someone has taken offence to it. Especially when they're posting on the step board for advice on a step situation.

Needaholiday your posts are ambiguous. If you 'really' felt it to be offensive, why do you then go on to post sych patronising justification of it's use ?

Is THAT going in yet ?

The word skid is not pronounced or read with two syllables. S-kid is but not skid.

Jumping not sure why you're repeating your posts- it doenst change anything.

So everyone who has explained why they find it so offensive can rest easy because Needaholiday says you've all just READ it wrong. Thread can be closed now eh ?

Ugh! I would never call my dss skid. I call the 3 children we have between us (dp and I) our sprogs. I do not differentiate between my dc's and my dss, they are a collective of sprogs we have :smile:

Skids just remind me of yukky pants :shock: