to be fed up of people expecting their new babies to be sleeping through?

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It is so frustrating.

babies are supposed to feed frequently and wake in the night.

even more annoying are the idiots who suggest putting solids in the bottle and trot out the never did mine any harm line...

YANBU - I also hate the whole 'Is he/she good?' question meaning 'Are they sleeping through'. Makes me sad to think that a baby doing what comes naturally - waking frequently to feed etc is considered 'bad'.

Got into a bit of bother on a local forum for saying that putting solids in 4 week old's bottle was not a good idea and linking to the guidelines. Lots of very defensive people out there!

Of course newborns don't sleep through...I don't know anyone in RL who thinks they should. On the flip side, I am amazed at how many mums whinge that their toddlers and pre school children get up through the night...I find that ridiculous. Kids of that age should be sleeping through and I don't get why so many mums are up at 5.30am everyday with them!

Lordy me, I know someone with a six week old who is continiously complaining that she doesn't get enough sleep. I want to say horrid, horrid things to her!

YANBU.

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Ffs phone has a mind of its own again. I have a very lovelt friend who has been complaining that her 3 week old isn't sleeping through. She's 3 weeks old, she's not meant to! That said, friend is used to 8 hrs minimum. I think the baby was a shock!

I think that good night time routine, and an expectation that a decent night needn't take months to achieve, helps babies that are old enough/strong enough to sleep for 6/7 hours without a feed do so.

'Comfort feeding' and social time during the night was not for me, and my 3 were all going from 11pm till 5 ish am by 7 weeks. Luck or judgement? I don't know. BF, full term, average weight babies, btw.

Oh I don't know, when I was pg, I fully expected my first dc to sleep through. Of course she didn't. But I spent a lot of the first year praying for the day that she did. Sleep deprivation is horrible, as we all know. Theres nothing wrong with complaining about it, you're not in a normal state of mind when you are walking around sleepy fug all the time, desperate for just an hours uninterrupted sleep.

I used to worry when mine slept through! My fear of cot death meant I wasn't bothered about the nighttime wakings!

My first was a dream baby...woke up, fed, straight back to sleep and slept through the night from 3/4 months. My second was a nightmare but I got her sleeping through the night from 7 months. They now sleep 12 hours straight, but I have a strict bedtime routine that I stick to. Sleep deprivation can cause serious harm to mental health.

I hate the 'is he good' thing.

I didn't expect ds to sleep through but would've liked more than 45 minutes in one stretch for the first few weeks!

YANBU - agree it's normal. I was overjoyed when mine started waking just once in the night - made a massive difference.

I'm glad I've had my children this way around - DS1 is 2 and has never been a 'good' sleeper. He was still waking through the night until he was about 18m, but now goes from 7.30-6 most days. I was expecting that sort of thing ('cos that's what babies do) and was surprised how many of my friends had babies who slept through from about six months. DS2, on the other hand, is 21 weeks and hardly ever wakes during the night! He occasionally has one, big feed at about 4 then goes back down, but it's usually 10.30-6.30. I was bothered by it to the point I asked the HV if I should be waking him!

I suppose that's a rather long winded way of saying that some babies do sleep through from early on, but it's madness to expect them to do it...

YANBU.

Babies wake up during the night, they cry, they feed. It's what they're supposed to do!

Of course sleep deprivation is hard! But what do people expect? It's pure luck if a baby sleeps through at a young age. Putting solids in a bottle is not the answer and is a choking hazard.

Its so tough though that sleep deprivation. Sometimes people are just having a moan.

Its not that they are actually expecting the baby to sleep through, are going to put rusks in the bottle, do controlled crying or anything else to make you clutch your pearls.

They've heard the tales of those that do sleep through early and wish their dc would just let them get some flipping sleep!

So YABU

YANBU at all.

If baby sleeps through, yahoo but I don't expect it. Our baby is four months and slept for six hours blocks for a couple of weeks and then goes through a phase of waking a lot. Yes it is tiring but totally normal. I just get on with it.

All babies are good !! Their little personalities are forming everyday and they need to communicate in their own ways,

Yeah.

A 6-week-old baby I know is being swaddled within an inch of his life, in a heatwave in a very hot flat, just because his parents want him not to wake up during the night. I don't want to frighten them, but I do worry about that baby overheating and not waking up ever. Cot death is still very common in that country and- ugh, horrible.

YANBU. I have a lovely 4 week old dd. when I see people they invariably ask 'is she sleeping through?' NO OF COURSE SHE'S NOT!!! 'Oh dear, you poor thing' they say - Please don't pity me, I'm not an imbecile, I knew she wasn't going to sleep through the night!!!
I thought the nonsensical comments would end with pregnancy- maybe I just know too many stupid people!! :D

YANBU
I frequently come across people who wean early, over wrap, add solids to the bottle to get small babies to sleep through.

i thought the nonsensical comments would end with pregnancy

Brace yourself pickle they've only just begun.

YANBU, there is a difference between routine and sleeping through.

DC5 is only 2 weeks but has a routine of feeds at 9pm, 1am, 4am, and 8am give or take 20 minutes.

Hopefully as he gets older and feed increase in amount he will drop the 1am feed as that is the one that does me in but not expecting that for a while yet!

I've got an acquaintance at the moment who actually is putting rusks and baby rice in the bottles apparently her baby is hungry she even reckons her HV has told her to do this.

And nobody can tell her otherwise.

"I know someone with a six week old who is continiously complaining that she doesn't get enough sleep."

If you can't complain about not getting enough sleep when you have a six week old, when can you?

Just because it's normal to be awake half the night with a 6 week old doesn't mean it's any fun or you shouldn't be able to have a good moan with your mates about how knackered you are.

"I've got an acquaintance at the moment who actually is putting rusks and baby rice in the bottles."

Does this make any difference to how well a baby sleeps?

I weaned mine at 6 months (never a DAY earlier, because I love the freedom of just going around with your baby and your boobs) but it never made any difference to how much they slept.