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To have not put make up on dd?

292 replies

selfdestructivelady · 13/01/2014 10:11

We went to a children's birthday party Saturday. All the little girls had make up on and all the parents were saying how pretty each other's dds make up looked. Dd is 4 yo the others were aged 4-5 they had nail polish eyeshadow and lip gloss on.

OP posts:
pictish · 14/01/2014 16:26

I do and I think it's sad that children are no longer allowed to be children.

A sweeping statement that sounds good, yet means absolutely nothing.
You have no idea what goes on in my children's lives, so you can't hope to pin that on me can you?

LittleBearPad · 14/01/2014 16:28

I'm not looking to pin anything on you.

Put make up on your daughter if you want to. I won't put it on mine.

pictish · 14/01/2014 16:29

The motivation behind why I wear make up, is a world away from why my daughter enjoys wearing peelable nail varnish.
Twinkly fingernails make her smile because she likes glittery things, and that's all the depth there is to it.

pictish · 14/01/2014 16:30

So don't. Who's telling you that you should? Do what you like.

LittleBearPad · 14/01/2014 16:31

I do, and I don't feel the need to defend as you are.

Kendodd · 14/01/2014 16:36

I don't mind little girls (or boys) in make-up, I think it looks cute in fact, as long as it's a complete mess all over their face and it's obvious they have put it on themselves. I don't like little girls in well done make up.

I think make up is to make women look sexually attractive to men (someone please come and correct me if I'm wrong) this isn't appropriate and is sexuallizing (is that a word?) small children.

pictish · 14/01/2014 16:38

Of course I'm defending myself. Some of you are attempting to turn my daughter's dressing up fun into something unsavoury and wrong.
You're trying to tell me that I'm teaching my daughter that make up is the be all and end all of being a woman, and I'm telling you that I don't.
No more than being a sodding pirate is the be all and end all of being a woman anyway.
Perspective - get some.

projectbabyweight · 14/01/2014 16:40

Make-up = trying to look better.

Trying to look better = feeling not good enough to start with.

Is it just me?!

pictish · 14/01/2014 16:45

Make-up = trying to look better.

Trying to look better = feeling not good enough to start with.

Pirate = trying to look like a pirate.

Trying to look like a pirate = not feeling good enough as not a pirate.

My daughter is almost 5. Her motivation is that of a child.

projectbabyweight · 14/01/2014 16:48

My brain's melting, I'm off...

pictish · 14/01/2014 16:48

Point being - you are attempting to put adult motivation onto a 5 yr old girl who hasn't a scooby about any of that.
Who's being inappropriate now?

mrsjay · 14/01/2014 16:48

suggesting children wear make up to sexualise them is disgusting they are children

Bowlersarm · 14/01/2014 16:49

LittleBear if you are so concerned about chemicals in make up do you ensure all the products in your house that your DC use don't have chemicals in them? Shampoo, conditioner, soap, washing detergent etc?

Kendodd · 14/01/2014 16:56

"suggesting children wear make up to sexualise them is disgusting they are children"

I'm not suggesting that children wear make up to sexualise themselves or even that the adults who put it on them are doing so to sexualise them. I'm pointing out why women wear make-up and why it is inappropriate for children.

As I said though, I don't mind little children in make-up, as long as it's a complete mess all over their face and it's obvious they have put it on themselves. It's a bit like walking around in you mum's high heels when done like that.

LittleBearPad · 14/01/2014 16:58

I do pay attention yes. But I pay more to her bath stuff etc than the bleach I put down the loo. I wouldn't put toy make up on her skin as I have no idea what's in it and where it's made. Id rather use my own make up on her than Tinkerbell's glittery lip gloss or whatever crap toys r us sell.

LittleBearPad · 14/01/2014 16:58

I do pay attention yes. But I pay more to her bath stuff etc than the bleach I put down the loo. I wouldn't put toy make up on her skin as I have no idea what's in it and where it's made. Id rather use my own make up on her than Tinkerbell's glittery lip gloss or whatever crap toys r us sell.

pictish · 14/01/2014 17:02

Come to think of it - isn't it strange how we all encourage our kids to dress up as pirates?
I mean, historically, what do actual pirates do but attack, thieve, rape, pillage and kill? Why would any of us want our kids emulating pirates?

I'll tell you what this boils down to...fashion. Pirates are in, and girly girls are out. Simple as that...and that is proved here by the fact that no one can give me one good sensible reason as to why my daughter's peelable glittery nail varnish is the abomination they're making it out to be, any more than they can tell me why dressing up as a pirate is grand.

LittleBearPad · 14/01/2014 17:03

Bit obsessed with the pirates there.

People have told you what they think. You don't agree. That's your call.

pictish · 14/01/2014 17:04

It's ALL good fun.

pictish · 14/01/2014 17:04

Pirates are just a handy comparison that's all.

Tell me I'm wrong.

BeaWheesht · 14/01/2014 17:04

Bloody hell. Dd is 3 and sometimes wears nail varnish and uses a Chapstick which she thinks is lipstick. He wears them because she likes sparkly things, just like she wears her princess dresses and tutu but also in exactly the same way that she likes her Mike from monsters inc costume and her tool belt. It's just fun, really, life can be just fun sometimes, not EVERYHING has to be deep and meaningful. This kind of thing really really pisses me off, I'm a feminist, of course I am but I'm not going to look for fault in EVERYHING my daughter thinks, feels or experiences for the rest of her life, for that way madness lies.

pictish · 14/01/2014 17:05

Bea I agree wholeheartedly.

mrsjay · 14/01/2014 17:23

i wear foundation and mascara and eyeshadow to work sometimes kendodd not a man in sight am i trying to attract women then I have been married for 20 odd years am i trying to look attractive for other men nah

Bowlersarm · 14/01/2014 17:35

Perfectly put BeaWheesht

LittleBearPad · 14/01/2014 17:51

But none of you would sit at a party saying how nice each other's daughter's make up looked. Would you?