To be angry over this???

[LadyofDunedin]

My cousin was over for the weekend and we had a great time... But...

1. Her bank card is missing so she only had limited cash - I paid a lot, cooked dinner, drunk my wine (she came empty handed)

2. After she left I went to put a load of washing on and her towel is missing. She's not the tidiest, so I text to ask where is was hiding. She responds that she's taken it

There was no apology! It would appear it was not in error, and it is a massive bath sheet- can't miss it at all!!! Also heavy, and cost £££

So AIBU to be really angry that she's taken advantage of me, stolen this from me??

I texted back saying I want it back although am sure she will 'forget' it. She should really offer to post tomorrow.

I can't believe am so angry . My own cousin , and I know it's a towel, but it's ruined such a great weekend, and now am worried what else is 'hiding'

Can you please post that towel like I asked as you're not coming down? Please send recorded so doesn't go missing. I've asked three times, and now you're not coming back. Don't appreciate no replies. As you know it is a set, belongs to me and very expensive. Can you manage that?

Sent this

Wow cousin is seriously cheeky, and strange. Who steels a towel??

she was treating you like a hotel! Instead of Stealing the little bottles of shampoo and conditioner she took your mouthwash and towel

And doesn't return it on being promoted

No reply, no reply. What to do now. Honest to god

If she's ignored your previous texts, then yes she'll ignore this one too. I do think you need to be more direct!

I've a feeling this might have been mentioned upthread, apologies if so - are you able to go to her house and recover the towel yourself?

Just send her the rest of the towels to make the set (unwashed).

And buy yourself some new ones.

She's never going to reply.

Invoice her for a replacement bath sheet...

Stop saying please.

Next contact: "return the towel or I will start legal proceedings - CCJs dont look good on credit checks"

small claims

I hate freeloaders.

Has she STILL not returned it? Freeloading cheek! However if she sent it back now, would she be vindictive enough to ruin it or send it soiled? I think he may have to see her in the flesh so to speak and have it out with her about its the principle and that she abused the hospitality and went through the drawers etc of her own family.

Be prepared for ww3 though...

She stays 150 miles away, unable to collect locally - hence my request to post.

Considering asking my aunt to ask her now? DM may kill me though for starting ww3- though hardly my fault! B

I know I keep saying please, I feel it's too impolite not to.. Ironic, isn't it ???

Yeah, ask your aunt to help then. YANBU - the person who nicked your towel is! She started it!

Ikwym about saying please I don't think it's a bad thing to be a paragon of reasonableness and good manners under the circumstances though - it only highlights the contrast with the other party's behaviour.

I know, thanks OP . I just feel like crying

Had a lot of let downs recently and this is upsetting me a lot

I feel it is consuming me, and whilst it would be easy to let it go - why should I?

Damn right. Cheeky people only get away with being cheeky because people let them.

(this is assuming that your cousin is simply being cheeky and there isn't a whole other bit of the story that no one yet knows - not that I'm doubting you, OP, it's just that her behaviour seems to have been so very strange. Maybe she had to take the towel to wrap a poor naked goat that had accidentally overdone it with the Veet...)

Thanks OP.

I want to truth. This is so pathetic

I am confused.. why is the OP calling other people OP?

Maybe give her an out by asking if she took it without asking because she has spoilt it? But would that mean she says yes just to keep it? .

OtherPoster?

Phone her. If no response, ask your aunt. If it starts WW3 then at least she'll have something to talk about in her sad little life. Outrageous.

Sorry for confusing with OP

So what happened? Did your aunt get involved?

I've just read this

Other suggestions: write on her Facebook wall to shame her publically

Send her the link to this thread so she can see half the internet think she's a thief!

Shut up.

Ooh this could have been about me,

Only slight differences,

Changed ds dirty nappy at dmums in dmums bed

Grabbed OLD towel to protect bed from mess

Got mess on towel, yuck

Asked my dmum, you wash or I take home and wash,

She choose for me to keep,

Op your cousins a twat, move on, get lovely new towel set, and remind yourself you are saving money by not entertaining her ever again when she arrives without her bank card,

I'm actually not sure which is worse, the towel or the mouth wash?