To be angry over this???

[LadyofDunedin]

My cousin was over for the weekend and we had a great time... But...

1. Her bank card is missing so she only had limited cash - I paid a lot, cooked dinner, drunk my wine (she came empty handed)

2. After she left I went to put a load of washing on and her towel is missing. She's not the tidiest, so I text to ask where is was hiding. She responds that she's taken it

There was no apology! It would appear it was not in error, and it is a massive bath sheet- can't miss it at all!!! Also heavy, and cost £££

So AIBU to be really angry that she's taken advantage of me, stolen this from me??

I texted back saying I want it back although am sure she will 'forget' it. She should really offer to post tomorrow.

I can't believe am so angry . My own cousin , and I know it's a towel, but it's ruined such a great weekend, and now am worried what else is 'hiding'

Get her one of these

Lol at the link!!!

I dried my ass on your new car. You huffing?

Actually, if you really wanted to be horrible, you could pee into a container, then when the new car arrives, pour it into the vents.
'I peed on your new car, you huffing?'

I can guarantee you she must have stained the towel (make up/ tan/ maybe she came on her period?) that's why she probably took it.
Coming empty handed though was slightly cheeky but it sounds like she's probably quite an unorganised person and probably doesn't really think.

I would personally forget about the towel- just give her the benefit of doubt and wait for her to return it. If she doesn't then the cost of a towel is a very small cost to pay to learn not to have her/make an effort for her again.

Do what giraffe says.

Have sex on the bonnet. Make sure you leave an arse print.

YouTheCat

Get some of those false eyelashes for the headlights and a 'honk if you're horny' sticker for the back window.

Towel-gate aside (loving reading this, OP YANBU), am I the only one wondering how you get to 30 with only one bank/credit card?! I'm quite boring and sensible but surely she'd have even one of each...? wonders if I'm a Bank Account klepto

Lastnight, I'm well over 40 and have only ever had my debit card. I don't do credit.

Hmmm kippers in the air vents

Kippers or prawn shells, which has better aromatic possibilities? Some stinky cheese, perhaps?

mad is your username a coincidence?!

Update: haven't heard from cousin in some time. As I still want towel back I texted to see 'any update on car' I.e. Where's my towel lady!

Cue a series of garbled texts I didn't understand.. The jist; the deal fell through- something doesn't make sense. The garage ran all the finance papers through in front of us, they wouldn't have let her leave, or waste such time if this was to be the outcome. She was very limited on information.

I said in that case you can post my towel, here's the address. Ended text saying 'no excuses'

No reply. Of course. This was Monday. Last night I text again saying still waiting for my reply

What now? Am like a dog ruth a bone. So angry, will not let this go, no one disrespects or steals from me,

Advice? Phone ??

Anyone??

Op I have to be honest I doubt u will see it again. I would suggest that if u buy this woman bday or xmas gifts then you don't bother this year and say 'you helped yourself to.my towel and toiletries therefore you get no.mire gifts from me.' I'd also tell all family members the truth that she is a freeloader and user and thief and to watch their stuff. And get her towels and toiletries if they need gift ideas.

One thing though you must stand up to your aunt. She.knows what her daughter is like and either she is the same or embarrassed to have user as her daughter and so gets defensive. And if she wants to stay again do not use excuses like 'im flying out' say no. If she asks why say 'because people who use and disrespect me and steal my belongings aren't welcome to my hospitality or my interest.'

In fact I'd text her that last part along with 'im unimpressed with you attitude and behaviour. I can see you have no respect for peoples belongings and couldn't care less about your family. Font contact me again- I don't associate with users and thieves even if I have the misfortune to.be blood related to them.

Yep. If she's ignoring texts, be more direct. Keep asking, and asking, in ways she can't ignore, until you get your towel back.

The texts about the car sound a bit bizarre - is she quite alright? Does she need some more support that she's not getting (I'm not saying you should be the one to give it, just wondering)?

I really hope you get your towel back. FREE THE FLUFFY EGYPTIAN COTTON ONE

But make sure you tell all your family first and want them she is a user. Tell them you will be civil at family events and that there is no sides to take- you just wont be used or disrespected.

Thanks guys

Am going to phone tonight and confront this. Am not being taken for a ride on this. Whilst you're right OP , she will never get back again, am not letting her get away with towel theft - as that's exactly what she wants

She seldom answers the phone, suggested text??? How about:

Can you let me know what you plan with my towel I've asked for back. As I've said, it was costly, part of a set, and mine to use. I need it. Don't appreciate being ignored. I've asked you to post as you're not coming down now, please can you do so and send me the tracking number.

Is your cousin Princess Margaret?

Don't get P. Margaret ref?

Personally I wouldn't bother giving any reasons why you want your towel back (costly, part of a set etc). They aren't necessary. The reason you want and expect your towel back is simply because it is YOUR towel!

Giving a long list of reasons actually makes the argument weaker imo - stick to the main point, which is that it is your property and she took it without your knowledge or consent, so you want it back.

I bet she does something devious like returning it with "fuck off cuz" written all across it in bleach

Thanks OP, what do you suggest then:

Can you send towel back ASAP as you're not returning. Asked 3 times now, please ensure recorded.

Should I say how annoyed I am ? Because I am raging!!!!!