To be angry over this???

[LadyofDunedin]

My cousin was over for the weekend and we had a great time... But...

1. Her bank card is missing so she only had limited cash - I paid a lot, cooked dinner, drunk my wine (she came empty handed)

2. After she left I went to put a load of washing on and her towel is missing. She's not the tidiest, so I text to ask where is was hiding. She responds that she's taken it

There was no apology! It would appear it was not in error, and it is a massive bath sheet- can't miss it at all!!! Also heavy, and cost £££

So AIBU to be really angry that she's taken advantage of me, stolen this from me??

I texted back saying I want it back although am sure she will 'forget' it. She should really offer to post tomorrow.

I can't believe am so angry . My own cousin , and I know it's a towel, but it's ruined such a great weekend, and now am worried what else is 'hiding'

I'd find that really annoying too.

A big towel isn't the sort of thing you take by accident. Would she post it back to you if you asked?

If she really felt the need to steal your towel, then how sad is that? Does she not have one? Is she really skint? Its not like stealing cash/jewellery is it? I would feel sorry for her.

Ah, the old 'missing bank card' ploy.

Has your cousin always been a freeloader?

And I can think of no plausible reason for removing someone's towel.

But if you love this person, what can you do?

I would feel sorry for her tbh. Of all the things she could hAve stolen she chose a big towel. Maybe she is desperate or something.

I would send the text telling her to post it. See what she says!

But she made it clear in the text that she took it accidentally. This isn't stealing.

What????

You are quite right to be annoyed. Cheeky bugger! Then to suggest that you are unreasonable by texting "are you huffing?"....words fail me.

I would be asking her to Paypal you the cost of a new towel.

She couldn't organise to post it. No point. No apology, very entitled, utterly lazy

As I've said re being skint- she certainly isn't- bought fancy car yesterday. She just prioritised differently and clearly saw the towel and took it! Couldn't miss it. As others have said, if she did want to wash it she would have said why, and apologised- or put it in my machine....

honey what part in the text exactly made you think that she hadn't taken if on purpose!!!!

but she made it clear in the text that she took it accidentally. This isn't stealing.

PMSL at this^

How the fuck can you 'accidently' pack a great big bath towel when you only have one bag?

OP, your cousin is a freeloading gobshite.

coffee are you missing the purchase of brand new fancy car yesterday ? This isn't about the money

This is about being tight, entitled, taking advantage of me, and stealing!!!

She must have coveted it.

Was it particularly soft and fluffy?

She's a very naughty person though!

You don't accidently pack someone else colourful bathsheet...

You have an embarassing accident, you rinse it in cold water on the pretext of having a bath/shower. Wring it out and leave it somewhere to dry, well at least I would

If she has just bought a big new car she is not skint! Have you any other family living nearby who could collect it for you? Those big bath sheets are very expensive-you could tell her what it cost and ask for money to replace it or just reply to her text with the word Thief! and see what she says.

And where love and cousins etc is concerned, of course I do!

but I will absolutely not be taken advantage of, or be stolen from - family or otherwise

Nobody accidentally packs a bathsheet. As for feeling sorry for her, seriously? Yes new cars are very expensive so the poor thing has probably been forced to steal from relatives to finance it.

but she made it clear in the text that she took it accidentally.

How is it possible to accidentally pack a massive bath towel? I really don't see how that's possible unless the cousin had a giant bag and had brought along a few similar sized and similar colour towels herself.

My mum has taken things she's used when staying, I think because I said "I've left a towel / some body wash for you" meaning "for you to use" & she's packed it in her bag & absconded with it!

I'd text her saying it is part of a set and you will either need it back or need a replacement, send her a link to something suitable on John Lewis and ask her to order you one

I have replied saying that towel will be returned to me, and it's being ignored. At which point I called DM to see if I really was being unreasonable!!!!

Maybe she is running an illegal Towel Ring.

Tell her to send your towel back QUICK! Then ask if she'd like you to send her a towel or two for her birthday? (You can get towel 'bundles' in M & S, Tesco, John Lewis sometimes. And - oh yes - tell her you want your towel back washed. As some poster suggested, she may have 'fouled' it somehow, hence her being embarrassed about leaving it at your place unwashed. (Just clutching at straws here to excuse her weird behaviour).

YANBU I would be tamping mad to be honest. Give it a few days and ring her to say it hasn't arrived yet. Put her in no doubt she must send it back - cheeky sod! It'll cost her a few quid to send too!

I am so mad! Towel gate!!!