To be angry over this???

[LadyofDunedin]

My cousin was over for the weekend and we had a great time... But...

1. Her bank card is missing so she only had limited cash - I paid a lot, cooked dinner, drunk my wine (she came empty handed)

2. After she left I went to put a load of washing on and her towel is missing. She's not the tidiest, so I text to ask where is was hiding. She responds that she's taken it

There was no apology! It would appear it was not in error, and it is a massive bath sheet- can't miss it at all!!! Also heavy, and cost £££

So AIBU to be really angry that she's taken advantage of me, stolen this from me??

I texted back saying I want it back although am sure she will 'forget' it. She should really offer to post tomorrow.

I can't believe am so angry . My own cousin , and I know it's a towel, but it's ruined such a great weekend, and now am worried what else is 'hiding'

The childish part of me would want to text her saying, 'THIEF!! You huffing?'

The adult part would text saying, can you post it back its part of a set. Best to do it registered mail so it can't get lost. These days it happens and then you'd have to buy another without being able to claim from royal mail. Ta love, good to see you!

Send her a link to a towel just like it and tell her to order you one and ship it to your house. Cheeky mare.

Yanbu

She sounds like a right sponging twat.

Update:

Defo defo on purpose judging by this text, am aghast!

I understand u like things to match well the towel was very soft when I was dryed my ass!!!! Think il have to get a set x x

That's very strange behaviour indeed. That's some towel!

She's telling you to fuck off. As in, your "huffing" about a towel is such a bore I dried my arse on it.
Why did you invite her to stay, out of interest? She's not someone I would ever have anything to do with again.

I assume it will be a cold day in hell before she stays with you again, eh?

She deliberately came without funds, she used your stuff, nicked something and utterly took the piss and now mocked you about it!

I know, she has taken the piss. She will be returning to pick car up, where I will get towel, damn it!

What a liberty .

By sa

Sod sounding precious. Think i'd be tempted to text her on the hour every hour with "Towel cost x, please paypal/transfer this amount asap".

I'm getting quite angry on your behalf!

She sounds awful. I would not have her to stay again.

Like WooWooOwl said, broadcast it. Any family near her who could be roped in to help? Esp her parents/your parents? Make a big deal of it being part of a set and that you can't just replace it (no longer available in that colour/size/too expensive) and ask her mum to pass it to your mum or similar so other people are involved and the 'nagging' isn't just coming from you, and make sure everyone in the family knows that she's nicked it - call it The Stolen Towel Saga or My Cousin, The Towel Thief, something ostensibly jokey, which you can refer to frequently without sounding like you're still complaining about 'just a towel' but just joking, honest... and thus still keeping it on her radar so she knows that you haven't forgotten.

I'd go further and make jokes to cousin/other relatives about watching out when she comes to stay or she might nick your bedsheets/curtains/whatever. That's probably mean but tbh I'd be mad if someone nicked my towels and they aren't even that nice!

It's crap isn't it!!!!!!

There's nothing more to do other than wait to see if it gets returned. Calls to post/ transfer money will be laughed at

It's ruined my weekend, which sounds overly dramatic, but so upset!

DM asked I don't raise with her mum as my aunty gets scary defensive and will go all 'you accusing my daughter if stealing?' When yes, actually, I am, that's what it was!

Again, I'll be made to look the fool, over a towel - big deal. I can hear it now......

I would text her and say 'look, I'm assuming that you took it with you because you shat on it/bled all over it and are embarrassed to say anything. Don't worry, i don't mind if you've got it in a mess, I'd just like it back'. I reckon she'll be so horrified that you think she's done something disgusting with it that she'll bring it back to prove she didn't.

Your cousin is a complete loon. I'd be absolutely furious if I were you!

Do you buy her birthday/Christmas presents? If so, you could text something like - "I'd really love to get my towel back from you as it's part of a set. Can you post it? If not, don't worry, hang onto it as your Christmas present for the next 10 years (it's an expensive towel dontcha know?)"

YANBU.

Are you going to allow her to stay at your place again OP?

I am intrigued by the posters who have experience of beshitted towels. I'm never managed to smear my shit on a towel. How does this kind of accident happen?

Nauticant

Believe me you don't want to know!

But maybe I've made a mistake in my post by stating accident. If we're not talking about accidental beshitment, I definitely don't want to know.

Okay, fluffiness is out the window after that last text. She's not nice and has no respect for you.

Plot your revenge

a bag of prawns under her new carseat?

I'm not surprised you're angry, I'd be furious. And actually It's the principle imho, not the monetary value of the towel. she STOLE it from you! my towels are cheap shit ones from Asda, and none of them match, and I'd be livid if this happened. Not because it would cost a lot or be a pain to replace. but just who steals from a relative who has hosted them all weekend, and then to top it off has the audacity to make out you are unreasonable?

I wouldn't have her to stay again. and I like the idea of the poster who suggested making a big family joke about it along the lines of 'make sure x doesn't nick your bedding / curtains / towels if she's coming to stay hahahaha!'

Ok op. You need to tell us where she lives. I'm sure a nearby mn-er would love a secret mission to nick it back off her washing line....