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To have felt like screaming at these women?

167 replies

endlesstidying · 09/01/2014 12:36

I was waiting for the bus earlier today with DS in his push chair fast asleep. Our local bus services only allow 2 prams on at once. The first bus already had 2 prams so I waited another 20 minutes for the next. That bus also had 2 prams. I asked hte driver to let me get on and fold the pram but he said no because his luggage rack was full. Both women with prams saw me and one even said "sorry we're not getting off here".

I decided to try and get a taxi and walked towards the next stop which was less than a couple of minutes walk. As I got towards the stop the bus which had been stuck at the lights stopped and both women got off with their prams. The bus went just in time for me to miss it. One of the women shouted "you'd have caught it if you run".

I said nothing but AIBU to have felt like irrationally screaming at them.

(no learn to drive comments please I don't for medical reasons)

OP posts:
whichdidyouchoose · 09/01/2014 14:21

I think it's a peculiarly British thing, this mean-spirited attitude that some people seem to display just for the fun of it or because they can or for whatever reason, (along the lines of bus drivers moving off rapidly when they see someone running for the bus).

LittleThorinOakenshield · 09/01/2014 14:21

Dawn I totally disagree with your post.

If We all lived and thought like that the world would be a shit old place.

MarmaladeBatkins · 09/01/2014 14:23

I always bring this up on these types of threads but I went to Paris when I was heavily preggerz and I didn't have to stand on a packed Metro ONCE. One day, I had three people bickering over who would give me a seat. Grin

This notion that the French are rude astounds me. As a general rule, it's the British that are the rudest fuckers.

Poogate · 09/01/2014 14:23

Farrowandbawl, the definition of 'selfish' is exactly what dawntigga's points illustrate:

Selfish
adj

  1. chiefly concerned with one's own interest
  2. relating to or characterized by self-interest

'Selfish' just about sums up her point of view in a nutshell.

LittleThorinOakenshield · 09/01/2014 14:25

This is turning into one of those who can be the most cunty to the OP threads.

Finding this annoying does not in any way mean you think the world revolves around you.

2tiredtocare · 09/01/2014 14:25

Isn't Mother Theresa in line for Sainthood, it's laughable that you would compare her actions to those of us who would walk a couple of minutes extra to help another out Farrowandbawl

MarmaladeBatkins · 09/01/2014 14:26

Mother Teresa was an arsehole.

Farrowandbawl · 09/01/2014 14:28

Which is also demonstrated in the OP.

THEY should have got off a stop earlier so I could have got on.

The OP was only thinking of herself.

2tiredtocare · 09/01/2014 14:28

Grin I'll have to defer to you there Marmalade not going to pretend that I know much about her life and arseholeness

2tiredtocare · 09/01/2014 14:29

Actually Farrow it's more they could have got off a stop earlier to help and they could have kept their mouths shut

HeinzDoofenshmirtz · 09/01/2014 14:30

Ha Ha Grin Marmalade

that just reminded me of 'That Bastard Ghandi'

MarmaladeBatkins · 09/01/2014 14:31

She was! A veritable rotter. I was aghast when I read some of the stuff she got up to.

So yeah, if we're going to be compared to saintly folk for being nice, can we have the new Pope instead? He seems a good sort.

RunRunRuby · 09/01/2014 14:32

I read the OP thinking you were angry at them for the comment about you running, which would be perfectly reasonable, and that others had misinterpreted your post. There was no need for the comment. It does sound misguided though rather than deliberately rude.

However, reading on it became apparent that you expected them to have got off the bus for you to get on. That would be a nice gesture if they had chosen to but it's not something you can expect other people to do. There could be many reasons why they didn't... maybe they were so caught up thinking about their own children and plans that it didn't occur to them, maybe they hadn't used that route before so didn't know how close they were to their stop, maybe one of them had a mobility problem, maybe they just didn't want to get off, maybe they were already getting off a stop or more earlier for exercise so didn't want to add more to their walk, maybe they had a long walk once they got off the bus... At the end of the day, they were under no obligation to do anything, however nice it would have been if they had.

I do try and think of others, whether they show me the same courtesy or not, but I also find it a bit grating when people expect other people to do things for them, unaware of the other person's circumstances.

whichdidyouchoose · 09/01/2014 14:33

Who mentioned the French?

meditrina · 09/01/2014 14:33

I think YANBU to wish they'd got off early.

But YABU to let it get to you. No-one is perfect when they're out with small children, and if you haven't gathered up all the stuff you might be wielding to keep DC amused/quiet/comfortable in transit (because you're timing it for when you plan to get off) but are beginning to think about it, you may not have the spare brain capacity to think and adjust in time.

LatinForTelly · 09/01/2014 14:34

YANBU. It would've been kind of one of them to get off a bit earlier for you. (And yes, they were rubbing salt in when they made their comment at the end. Either that or feeling guilty and trying to vindicate themselves. In a bit of a thick way.)

SirChenjin · 09/01/2014 14:34

Another one disagreeing with your post.

I think that fundamentally you're either a person who does nice things for other people even though it means putting yourself out a bit, or you're not - and never the twain shall meet.

HeinzDoofenshmirtz · 09/01/2014 14:35

C'était pas moi.

LittleThorinOakenshield · 09/01/2014 14:36

It's the combination of not getting off, AND the comment about running.

Making it plain they had seen her twice.

If they had said nothing, she probably wouldn't be annoyed.,

2tiredtocare · 09/01/2014 14:36

Didn't Ghandi assault his wife? Well I've learnt. New thing today Smile

whichdidyouchoose · 09/01/2014 14:42

Who is Ghandi?

2tiredtocare · 09/01/2014 14:44

Another violent dogooder

MarmaladeBatkins · 09/01/2014 14:45

I bet Ghandi wouldn't have been arsed to get off that bus...

CalamitouslyWrong · 09/01/2014 14:48

I'm not sure why the two women were supposed to know that the OP had been at the stop for ages and had already failed to get on one bus and had to wait for the next one. For all the knew she could have just that moment arrived at the bus stop.

Juno77 · 09/01/2014 14:48

I think this thread has been an interesting straw poll.

Would you do something nice for someone, at minor inconvenience?

Most people seem to vote no.

It's actually really, really sad.

Swipe left for the next trending thread