To have felt like screaming at these women?

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I was waiting for the bus earlier today with DS in his push chair fast asleep. Our local bus services only allow 2 prams on at once. The first bus already had 2 prams so I waited another 20 minutes for the next. That bus also had 2 prams. I asked hte driver to let me get on and fold the pram but he said no because his luggage rack was full. Both women with prams saw me and one even said "sorry we're not getting off here".

I decided to try and get a taxi and walked towards the next stop which was less than a couple of minutes walk. As I got towards the stop the bus which had been stuck at the lights stopped and both women got off with their prams. The bus went just in time for me to miss it. One of the women shouted "you'd have caught it if you run".

I said nothing but AIBU to have felt like irrationally screaming at them.

(no learn to drive comments please I don't for medical reasons)

Even if they would have had a very long walk to their final destination, clearly if the OP is able to cover the distance between the two stops on foot, without rushing, and only just miss the bus we are really only talking a few metres of difference.

I agree the comment makes it worse though - why should the OP have run, she surely assumed they were both staying on the bus!

I would have got off for you. As a mother who struggled with a pushchair on a bus, I would be considerate and help another mother struggling with a pushchair.

But then I'm not a cunt.

I would have gotten off. It doesnt sound like it was much distance to the next stop.

And the comment that you would have caught it if youd ran was just plain cuntish.

It seems few people will do I nice thing for another person if it means them having to walk an extra minute

Well, that's put you in a bloody minority today marm

There are a few of us about, Tantrums!

The first time I took my pfb out in his pram, I couldn't get on the bus as there was a buggy the already. The woman with the buggy saw I was being turned away and leapt up going "silly me" (or words to that affect) "I'm getting off at the next stop anyway so here you go".
Perhaps because my first ever experience on the bus was positive, it makes me want to help others. (I have had many less positive experiences since!)

Let's spell it all out for everyone.

1. Nobody has to do anything for you.

2. If you (they) choose to do something for somebody that was your (their) choice.

3. Nobody is thinking about you, they are thinking about themselves, just like you are.

4. YOU are the centre of nobody's universe except your child/ren. Even then you will cease to be the centre and be moved to the edges as they grow.

5. It's nice if somebody does something that makes your life easier please see number 2.

These are the facts of life that many people on here ESPECIALLY the PO need to grasp.

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dawntigga - I don't live in your world, which seems to be fundamentally selfish and self-centred. None of my friends do either. And I'm really, really glad about that. You must know some really horrible people.

If you reversed each of your first four points so they said the opposite, you'd pretty much have my own beliefs.

Dawntigga, speak for yourself.

Not everyone is thinking about themselves. Some people think about others. Not everyone is a total dick.

I really don't understand your post. You think other people should get off the bus at the wrong stop to let you on?

Seriously funny.

I fail to see how DawnTiggas points are selfish. They seem pretty accurate to me and show more common sense and insight than most of the posts on here.

If you believe they are selfish then you are either Mother Teresa reincarnated, have impossibly high standards, are lying to yourself or are constantly disapointed and annoyed with other people.

I'm always thinking about other people when I'm out and about. Just little things like holding doors open, waiting to let folk past, offering seats on buses/trains, letting people with one item go in front of me in a supermarket queue...

This just confirms to me what I've been saying for years; the world would be better if everyone lived by my example.

FIN.

I completely understand how you feel, OP, and I'm shocked at how many people on here can see no reason why those women might have be kind or thoughtful to you, like you would have been to them. I am NOT the centre of my universe - I am part of a universe with lots of other people in it, with their own needs and wants, and our universe is a hell of a lot better if we look out for each other in that.

What does 'entitled' actually MEAN? I keep seeing it used in endless contexts and it seems to be merely a term of abuse. What is entitled about feeling let down by the inconsiderate behaviour of other people?

It's horrible when you've been raised to be thoughtful and helpful then you realise that most other people have been brought up to be twats.

That was a shock for me when I realised that.

OP yanbu. Pair of arseholes. And the fact that some on here fail to see why they might be considered arseholes and think you are being entitled just about sums up all the reasons why I won't attempt the bus with my baby tomorrow.

He will be 4 weeks old and I had a c section. I really wanted to go to the retail park to buy a sling but darent in case I get in a similar situation. I can't collapse my pram and lify it safely while holding the baby. Will wait until dp is off over the weekend.

I would have got off for you too.

Other human beings can be a great disappointment sometimes.

OP yanbu. Pair of arseholes. And the fact that some on here fail to see why they might be considered arseholes and think you are being entitled just about sums up all the reasons why I won't attempt the bus with my baby tomorrow.

He will be 4 weeks old and I had a c section. I really wanted to go to the retail park to buy a sling but darent in case I get in a similar situation. I can't collapse my pram and lify it safely while holding the baby. Will wait until dp is off over the weekend.

Stay calm my child for the good book tells us: "let him who is without sin cast the first stone".
On the other hand it doesn't say anything about her, so you're entitled to shout "Thanks an effing lot!" at the pair of them.

froubylou Just because some of us can see why some people might have refused to get off the bus doesn't mean that we would all not get off. Understanding why someone behaves in a certain way does not mean we'd behave the same way ourselves!

When my kids were littie you couldn't take a pram in they had to be folded up and put in the rack. It took longer but you usually got help from other passengers.

Lots more room for everyone to get in as well.

Holding doors open and standing up for older people yes absolutly but think expecting and calling people cunts for not getting off a stop earlier so you can get in is frankly ridiculous.

That was a stupid comment the woman made. I dunno want her motivations were (it may have been well-meant) but in the circumstances, it sounds like she was trying to rub it in!

Sorry you've had such an awful time today with transportation.

I agree with you OP I would have found that really annoying.

Just one thing, if the bus was too full for you too fold maybe they weren't able to either?

It's the you'd have got it if you ran that would have boiled my piss.

Helpful, not.