to feel that it's quite nitpicky here these days?

[SherlustHolmes]

I've been a prolific poster on here for seven years under various names (Cod. Lavender. Moldies. Shitting elves. Pirates. That fucking bat.)

In the last few months I've been nipped at for so many things - posting style, choice of words, posting in the wrong place... And today I made a mistake and got pulled up quite rightly but then got pulled up again when i tried to rectify it and didn't do so exactly as one poster had suggested. Their point was valid but it kind of eclipses the issue in question.

I've always loved that Mumsnet posters don't allow inaccuracies and are quick to correct them. And I've always tried to take criticism on the chin. But it's been so frequent recently that I've committed minor infractions of unwritten rules, I feel pretty fed up and got at. In forums I've always tried to ignore or overlook errors - I suppose it's easier to ignore them than to go out of my way to correct people, and for what purpose? It feels like there are plain clothes posting police in here.

Has anyone else noticed this or have I randomly become hypersensitive?

weedlady77 yes, you said at the time you thought we were Katie Hopkins-like at the time.

This site is a tiny corner of a tiny microcosm of society. The problem for people who struggle to spell or use grammar correctly needs to be addressed in school. Not here.
Anyway that's just my view. I am off now.
Why can't just love each other?

FGS, TENEMENT - YOU FORGOT TO PUT 'WE'

Joking.

I agree with you and the pp who said it was a 'joylessness'.

I've seen explanations of spellings or grammar that are gentle/informative. I've seen plenty that aren't. They are just a snide way of shutting the poster up or putting them down.

Thebigjessie and I meant it!
I wasn't rude to anyone but I got shot down in flames! I also said I agreed why people didn't like it but oh no some people were still rude!

I'm checking you spelt categorically correctly.

Yes you did.

You are free to go.

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Ohh I remember reading the accept/except thing. It really pissed me off because I read in my head in my own accent and the two words sound pretty much the same for me. It maybe could be pointed out once? But that was ridiculous. And really, really tedious.

weelady I'm sure you did mean it. However, while there had been some class-bashing earlier on in the thread, the people disagreeing with you, including me, were doing so on moral grounds. I thus disagree that your perception was accurate, and I would love to introduce you to other threads and forums past where your view would have been treated far less civilly.

What kind of response do you think you should have received?

You cant have it both ways can you? Either you love it and accept thats how MN is or you dont like that it happens at all. No-one knows your specific limit for how often is too often for correcting posters. There are new posters here daily who wont be aware of your limit. What do you expect to happen from this post? People to not correct anyone ever or to continue to do what you love them doing? Because unless you post your personal limits on every thread ever then no-one is going to know when they are close to reaching your correction limit.

^^ Is this the sort of thing you mean OP?

This is not a grammar and spelling forum therefore it is not polite to pick up on other people's spelling and grammar. You are not helping them you are making them feel small and by extension yourself feel superior. It is not good manners. Depends whether you feel spelling and grammar is more important than good manners.

Joyless is a very good word to describe MN now. I used to come off cackling with laughter now I am just dismayed that the world seems to be overtaken by the joyless and self righteous.

Sherlust NYANBU I'm fairly new on MN but it can get very unpleasant. I just ignore and hide the thread.

There are lovely like minded people on some of the telly and radio threads I (lightweight that Iam) tend to stick to those.

Though I did stick my head over the parapet yesterday in Chat; there were some pleasant posters but some stupid ones. (serve me right ).

Gosh how precious are some of you over the English language. Someone using text or abbreviates a word and it means the middle classness of the site is going down the pan.

Next you will want entrance exams and spag exams to be allowed to post on MN.

Language evolves, the way we speak evolves and a lot of people write how they talk. Also, a lot of people use their phone to write a post and so a bit of u, ur and n is going to appear on a message. I haven't seen one post in ALL text speak, where you have to decode the whole message so really don't understand the nit picking of an odd word which you know damm well what it means.

Maybe all the posts should be categorised into class, parenting style and attitude to life. So no one gets offended by grammar, parenting style or attitude to life

And the Po need to get out more.

I was expecting ok that's your view end off which I did with everyone who commented and like I said I agreed with you all to why you didn't like it, but it was dig dig dig I gave my reason why I done it but then it was"but why did you do"!!!

I actually don't remember you being one of the nippy ones

I agree that sites do evolve and it is me that appears to be out of step with what MN is at the moment.

chubby regardless of accent, they are completely different words with completely different meanings.

They sound the same in my accent too (don't they in all? Possibly not, I just can't think of an accent where they don't!)

It's odd that someone would continue to use an incorrect word after people had pointed out it was incorrect. Blatant ignoring of the correction and continuing to make the same error, over and over again, is really dumb.

bella411 Oh dear; I take the OP to mean that there is too much senseless unpleasantness on here which IMO is true.

Perhaps they just didn't appreciate the fatuous correction? To keep repeating that correction, hoping for a different result... surely that is the very definition of 'dumb'?

I smile when corrections are, themselves, incorrect.

Ppeat . That wasn't aimed at the op but at some of the comments which have followed!

Maybe they just don't give two shits Juno.

Or they could be making a point that they will type as they please.

Who knows.

Hi weelady

Are you referring to the ear piercing thread? I was one of the ones asking why you did it, simply because you hadn't given a reason (other than 'my family all does it'). I don't feel that asking you to quantify your reasons for something is anywhere near what people are discussing on this thread.

And as for 'KH-like' (I won't give the woman oxygen by using her name. Well, I missed that at the time. But I'd like to point out that I'm the least KH-like person you're ever likely to meet. And if you think people are being to rude to you but you think it's ok to call people things like that, you really don't have a leg to stand on. No one was actually rude to you, just asking you to clarify things - which you never did.

If you come wading in with 'well, I believe in this', on a site like this, people are going to ask why. I'd expect to be asked why and I'd answer too. That's not rudeness. If someone said 'well, you do this and you're a cunt', that's rude.

Anyway, as you were.

I agree with the unpleasantness, women criticising theirdaughters weight / thread shows some of the unpleasantness of how people answer a question. No one is allowed to say something negative about their own child or family member n if you think bad thoughts and type then but would never say them to said certain you are still an evil person.

lying yes, perhaps.

I suppose I should just accept that some people are quote happy continuing on an ignorant path of repeated errors. Personally I would be mortified (and confused why no one had corrected me!) but I guess we are all different!

But then I would tell someone if they had someone stuck in their teeth, for example.

Juno why is it pertinent then that you wouldn't recruit a member of staff who couldn't spell if you are not recruiting from this forum?

Do you honestly think getting pulled up on an online chat forum will improve someone's employment prospects?

I am still struggling to understand your motivation.

I don't get what spelling and grammar correctors get out of it at all.

I don't believe that anyone appreciates being pulled up on this stuff totally out of context to be honest.

Say your in a bar chatting to a friend

My husband stayed out all night
Did he dear, what a cad
I should of locked him out
It's should have dear, not should of.

weelady Debates and discussions, especially debates over moral issues, simply don't go like "oh that's your view". If people wanted to just say "fair enough", they wouldn't even enter the thread. Nodding politely is what people do with strangers at the bus-stop. In debates, people tell you what they actually think, and try and convince you to their point of view.

www.gaiaonline.com/forum/lifestyle-discussion/male-circumcision-and-infant-ear-piercing-your-opinion/t.89391563_1/

www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=633452

forums.digitalspy.co.uk/showthread.php?t=1836997

I rather like this post on digital spy "From what I've seen, if you suggest it's okay you will get ripped apart by wild animals. Mumsnet may be filled with matriarchs bleating on about breast feeding and crying it out and making most of us feel like shit but when it comes to sticking bits of rough cold metal through babies ears with an unsanitised gun, they do have their hearts in the right place. However the fallout of these threads is always a war zone!"

www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/general-coffeehouse-chat-514/news-current-affairs-topical-discussion-12/883618-tattooing-child-really-much-different-piercing-s-ears-discuss-all.html

There's not much love and peace.