to feel that it's quite nitpicky here these days?

[SherlustHolmes]

I've been a prolific poster on here for seven years under various names (Cod. Lavender. Moldies. Shitting elves. Pirates. That fucking bat.)

In the last few months I've been nipped at for so many things - posting style, choice of words, posting in the wrong place... And today I made a mistake and got pulled up quite rightly but then got pulled up again when i tried to rectify it and didn't do so exactly as one poster had suggested. Their point was valid but it kind of eclipses the issue in question.

I've always loved that Mumsnet posters don't allow inaccuracies and are quick to correct them. And I've always tried to take criticism on the chin. But it's been so frequent recently that I've committed minor infractions of unwritten rules, I feel pretty fed up and got at. In forums I've always tried to ignore or overlook errors - I suppose it's easier to ignore them than to go out of my way to correct people, and for what purpose? It feels like there are plain clothes posting police in here.

Has anyone else noticed this or have I randomly become hypersensitive?

It's only issue if you let it gave resonance and get to you
The joy is mn us lots different folk,different styles,that's it's not all mind that preposition

Well, I'm going through this whole thread and making notes on any inconsistencies I see.

Anyone not up to muster will be receiving a PM from me very soon. And will then be thrown to the ground, vewy woughly.

You have been warned!

Someone called me illiterate,that was funny

But inevitably the nit picky ones make mistakes,then get in pure state with face

I agree - recently, it's like the default response is to be a nasty bastard to the op.

I wouldn't mind if it were funny, but it isn't - it's just...horrible.

I very rarely start threads because I know I'd be shot down by some nitpicker about my use of hyphens or something.

I don't believe in picking holes in peoples spelling and grammar. I do find the 500 line OP with no paragraphs a bt hard on the eyes though. I do think the story telling trolls are getting a bit much though, and was disappointed to see MNHQ positively bigging up some cock troll via FB. I don't come here for that sort of shit.

It's a tone thing, I think. I don't mind being told I'm wrong but do it with

But post as you wish,don't give this stuff credence.Pile in,post

I totally agree about nit picky infact I could call it worse I got shot down in flames in a thread and I gave my opinion but these two Katie Hopkins wannabes wanted to know why i done what I done again I told them but they would not let it lie! And I was being nice

Scottishmummy yap away in Scottish ill understand

It's pish, is what it is :(

I think I will try to take a break from it. I guess when it drains more than it gives it's time to get out.

Yanbu - I would prefer if here if you could block users. A few spiteful and bitter cows love to do this.

I wonder if when they meet up with friends for coffee/dinner etc and are asked what they've been up to they proudly say they've been on mumsnet correcting spelling and cross matching posts?

MN's done to the dogs, I tell you, gone to the dogs!

(Repeat post every 2 months).

It'll change again over the course of this week, as the school hols have ended.

The MN 'house style', as with every place which has a distinct jargon, is important in forming and maintaining a sense of community. So refraining from using text speak or certain contractions like 'n' is frowned on - and always have been. That's not a recent change for the worse.

Nor is jumping on a op for things which are tangential to the post.

What might have changed is the tone in which it's done.

If you're trying-to-hard to fit the MN stereotype (which is an external creation) I think you can be abrasive in the wrong ways. But most posters settle down, drop the tstspk, lols, huns, hubs etc.

And MN carries on like it always does.

I inadvertently found a way to curtail any comments on my spelling or grammar. As soon as I changed to this username they stopped.

I think I'll probably still post if I want to know how to get dogshit out of my Afghan rug or whatever but I need to find somewhere less annoying for my chat. It's rubbish when things you like change for the worse.

Ive just had someone tell me they doubt me , (based on thread that turned a bit odd ) , so they checked my history as my attitude was wrong (in their opinion ) and not how they think someone who has Sn child should be .

Ive been on mn for about 8 years , had a few name changes . Changed to droves when I passed driving test a few years back . Ive got Rl friends on here too .
Ffs ... they can check all they like . What they are going to find is loads of kids , some step kids . Me grumbeling about step parenting being very difficult at times , me grumbeling about dh being a twat sometimes , me grumbeling about a lot really . Some very funny threads ive been on . One ive started . More rubbish pointless threads ive started . A couple where ive been trying to learn to drive , a lot about dd being dx ( sn boards were a god send during that time ,hardly on there now ) . A few threads about neighbours from hell and ex h ... my ocd , and generally swinging between boasting about my kids and being frustrated by them ...search all you like , if I was bothered about people using any of it against me I would not have posted it on the internet .

But hey ho

It isnt the same as it was ... ive only been back a few weeks , after a flounce of sorts.
The feel on here has changed from direct & honest to something thats a bit nasty .

I like that Mumsnet has high standards for grammar, I think it's important and it's something that a lot of people ignore. BUT I completely agree that it's getting totally ridiculous now. There was a poster the other day who was looking for advice and apologised TWICE in her OP for poor spelling and grammar. I just thought it was a real shame that she was worried about people pulling her up on it, and distracting from her problem.

Totally agree with the sexist/ageist/disablist comment too, people are so quick to jump on those bandwagons. It really does put me off.

Mumsnet doesn't have high standards for grammar or literacy in general. What it does have however, is a group of self-appointed, arrogant, entitled posters who believe that their rude interventions in a thread are welcomed and appreciated.

I'd like MNHQ to put a stop to it actually. Think about how a poster must be feeling if they post that they are dyslexic. Whether they are or they aren't, they should not feel pressurised to defend themselves, nor be corralled into posting in a format that appeases obnoxious morons.

We should have a zero-tolerance of morons if anything. However it is spelled.

There was a thread the other day where the OP was asking AIBU, accepted she was but kept saying "excepted" instead, and people were actually SHOUTING at her ACCEPTED ACCEPTED etc.
I am a pedant, but I've learnt to let it go unless the person in question is being downright obnoxious themselves (I mean REALLY obnoxious, not just disagreeing) - but that was just bloody rude. Poor OP!

Yes it has got more nitpicky here. More PO, more reporting, more trigger-happy MNHQers - can't have a josh with hardly anyone any more, without someone getting all offended on your arse.

I saw that this morning Droves and thought about this thread. It's something that has just started happening recently- people checking up on people's back stories to try and catch them out. I have always just assumed that 50% of everything people posted was bollocks and was fine with that.
I have been reading a thread which I thought I might join but it was all a bit nethuns. Someone was writing their post from the point of view of a cute letter from their baby to their Mum. She is perfectly entitled to do it but it just wasn't for me.

Thumbwitch... I haven't noticed that it's not fun and that you can't have a joke around with people? It's just depends really, we're strangers here. It's one thing to say something like, "I can't bear wearing jeggings, they make my arse look huge", as compared to "I can't bear people who wear jeggings, don't they realise that they look huge?". I read lots of posts of the second example. Some posters just can't post without running people down, it's their reason for posting, they have to slap people down.

I too am a pedant but a silent one. It doesn't mean that I don't inwardly cringe but I keep it to myself. Not hard to do at all. How does picking up somebody's grammar or spelling make justifiable sense if their content is what has irked you? I don't understand that. Why wouldn't you just say, "OP, you're being an arse!" or whatever and leave their format alone?

If I see a thread as tobias describes, I'd backspace out of it as fast as I could, but s-i-l-e-n-t-l-y.

Lying did you not read the bit where I said "I have learnt to let it go"?

"jumping on the sexist/ageist/disablist bandwagon" is some people's "not discriminating on grounds of sex, age or disability, which are good things IMO.

Picking on people's parenting or grammar is just shoddy though.

I did, Thumbwitch... and then you qualified it with:

unless the person in question is being downright obnoxious themselves (I mean REALLY obnoxious, not just disagreeing), by which I inferred that under those circumstances, you were justified in pulling up a rude OP on their spelling, grammar, etc. I was asking why, what was the point?

If I misunderstood you then apologies.