to think a grown man should be able to buy sanitary towels?

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My DH won't buy them for me. So even though he does our weekly shop if I need any I have to go out and buy them separately. He says it's embarrassing looking 'in that aisle'.

Today I'm suffering with a heavy period and cramps and need more towels but I can't be bothered having the discussion with him to try and get him to buy me some as I know he won't, so I'm going to have to go out and get them myself.

Do other men behave this immaturely when it comes to 'women's things'? Or is it just mine? If there was a male equivalent I wouldn't think twice about buying it for him!

My dad offered to buy my maternity pads just after id had DD. He rang me up whilst he was in the aisle saying

'Some have wings, some are plus, some are super plus I'm not sure what they mean but which ones do you need'

I would not put up with having a man that was squeamish about periods. (not saying LTD or anything, but i would educate my man till he was 100% clear)

My DH has always bought SanPro stuff if he's been out and I've needed it. He washes my cloth pads and lines them up on the radiator and bought my Mooncup in Boots (assistants didn't know what they were so he had to explain to two of them in his hunt for it).
It really is a non-issue. When you're in a partnership you just get on with things but I second cutting his t-shirt up to use as a san towel if he doesn't grow up and get you some.

I just don't see what is wrong with getting sanpro yourself. Nothing at all. That is not the point, is it?

Someone else is going shopping, you need some sanitary towels/ tampax/ whatever; you ask your partner to pick some up because you've run out.

How is that difficult or embarrassing or an invasion of your privacy?

KateSpade what a sensible and helpful dad you have.

TheAwfulDaughter I agree with you, particularly this:- "Periods are not shameful, and not dirty- and he is not much of 'partner' if even when he is in a shop with a SanPro aisle whilst doing the weekly shop, he will make her do a seperate trip. That's horrible behaviour."

I am aware of what the issue is, I have only replied because other posters appear to dislike what I have said and have asked me questions - I didn't realise I was supposed to slink off quietly as soon as I had posted.

Sorry about that.

The phrase "Man up" was invented for this sort of situation.

What a daffodil

What I don't understand about the "but it's private" stance is that we're not talking about doing anything more 'intimate' than taking a packet off a supermarket shelf! Good grief!

Grunt - exactly! :D

DH has no problem buying them but does need specific instructions. We discovered the Tesco maternity pads with 'mum' written on them are cheaper than the all-nighters so one time he bought 6 packets (we likes a bargain ) and the cashier congratulated him on the birth of the baby

Who is seriously happy with a dh who can't be left home with their children in case they start their periods in their care

Perhaps mothers shouldn't leave the house once their dds turn 9.

Heaven forbid the father has to go get his newly hormonal menstruating dd a packet of always. Oh the shame

Mine bought thrush cream for me yesterday, bless him.

My dad (1980s househusband, wife with full time job, 3 daughters) seemed to manage it just fine.

He may have been mortified, but was given the shopping list by my mum, as otherwise he was a crap shopper, and bought everything on it. No problem.

When I grew up I was taught that menstruation was something shameful and very private. Had to buy my own pads while being feeling completely embarassed. The girls at school seemed to think so too - and it wasn't THAT long ago. But everyone seemed to have a quite Victorian attitude about female body functions, maybe it was the same where OP's DH grew up. Well fuck that, fertile women leak old blood every month and something must be done about it, can't just walk around bleeding on clothes and floors and furniture.

DH has no more problem buying them for me than he does buying pull ups for our doubly incontinent 7yo.

And I keep them out in plain view, too - on the windowsill next to the loo. I occasionally find them lined up on the cistern, but DS1 has left them alone since I told them what they were for :o

How is it private once you are sharing your life and fertility together?

My DH only bought them after a MC or sickly new born, but that was because of our shopping arrangements.

My ex BF did a full shop for nightwear, toiletries and tenna ladies, when I had pneumonia and was admitted to hospital. He later bought me a combo of Tennas (because of coughing) and Towels.

My DD (18 and has PCOS) has just started staying over with her BF, they went on holiday together with just carry-on luggage. He asked about her Femfresh (she has found this is the only thing that she can use), he has a laugh about it, but in a jokey "first proper GF way", he didn't have a Mum.

They shop together, to cook together (Aww) and he has been fascinated by her condition, the issues it brings and all parts of being female, including Sanpro.

He, at 22, would laugh at the OP's DH, so would most of the men I know.

That's ridiculous. DH just laughed when I read the thread out. He certainly would buy for me.

YANBU. Why on earth would it be embarrassing? He's obviously buying them for his wife, not himself!

DH would have in the dim distant past when I needed them. He did make a bit of a schoolboy error when i asked him to buy me a packet of towels and he came back with pant liners because the towels looked uncomfortable.

DH would, no doubts at all - he would need to be told exactly what to get but the same is true of our toothpaste and washing powder etc!

as an aside, I once reported a stupid spotty teenaged checkout guy for sniggering to his mate on the next till as he scanned my loads of packs of sanpro stuff (I was buying several of each size while it was on offer)

idiot! it is no harder/ more embarrassing/funnier than buying loo paper!

That's ridiculous. It's all part of women's fertility - what on earth is embarrassing about it? He's a grown man fgs. YANBU at all.

My DH will as well, no problem. I usually just buy them myself but if I was short and he was going out, he'd buy them no problem. He has for SD as well.

I don't see the issue for him

Dh has no problem buying tampons and towels.

My DH will buy them for me. First time he did I gave clear instructions and asked him if he was ok with that. His reply was that it showed anyone looking that he had a wife.

He can be to comfortable with it though. Last time I bought some and he was with me the woman at the counter asked if I wanted a bag. He said 'no, she's going to wear them home'.

I happen to view periods in the same way as having a shit - it's a fact of life but one that doesn't need to involve anyone else.

But unless you never use public lavatories, and avoid using toilet paper and disinfectants and the shops to purchase said items, and you have a private sewage system and never ever require the services of a plumber, then your crap does involve numerous other people. And buying sanpro also involves other people, because someone has to make it, transport it, and then sell it.

I can't fathom why a spouse shouldn't be exposed to the purchase and handling of a packet when you're happy for it to be scanned in a checkout queue by a complete stranger, in full view of several more, tbh.