to get the rage at thin-ist comments?

[BasicFish]

Am I??

Seriously, just over the last few days, I've seen so many comments slating thin women and it's starting to piss me off. I would never dream of making sizeist comments, firstly because I don't think being a certain size (or not) makes you attractive.

But a brief list of the thin-ist comments I've come across this week.

"Most men don't go for size 8s"
"It would be like shagging a folding deckchair"
"some skinny little cow"
if he wants you to lose that much weight and be that slim, he must be gay"

etc..

If anyone tried to same the same about, say, size 18s they'd be slaughtered and rightly so. So why is it ok to pick on women who are slim? Not "anorexic" (unless they really are of course, which is a completely different issue), women who are just naturally slim and small. Why? WHHHYYY??

Hmm.. but what if it's not envy? What if people genuinely think my body is disgusting? How am I supposed to tell the difference? Or am I just supposed to put up and shut up?

Charitygirl Have read the article. Don't know if the "pity party" was directed at me, but it's not what I was aiming for in my op. And I haven't made any comments about skinny shaming and fat acceptance. All I've said is I think it's awful for people to comment on anyone's weight, regardless of what that weight is. So I really don't think it's necessary to point me to an article that says the same thing..

Tryharder "Thin women are envied, admired and treated well." Hmm. When you're told "where are your boobs? You look like you have your head screwed on backwards?" "You must be anorexic, you look awful." "No way are you 20! You look about 12 - a 12 year old boy?" "Are you a boy or girl? Can't tell, you haven't got any boobs!! haha!"? Really? Envied, admired and treated well?

LaGuardia "Stealth boast I am soooo skinny after all that Christmas food but you lot are all off to fat club"

Are you having a fucking laugh?
Didn't realise that you have to be a certain size to be allowed feelings

Basic fish, who gives a shit what someone else really thinks of your body. You don't need to put up and shut up, they just need to shut up!

Well exactly Boodles
But a (thankfully small) number of posters/people in real life think that because being thin is "a good thing" I should just ignore these comments and feel lucky I'm not bigger and getting comments about that. Er, no. Sizeist comments are all wrong. Does that make sense?

It does.

But Basic IMO it's also down to the media, they think it's fine to be completely lookist and a lot of people buy the shite papers and mags. If we all stopped buying the rags and clicking on the sites, maybe they'd realise that we don't like the bullying and lookism that passes for 'news'.

Aw thanks sugar hut :)

boodles that's a relief! I have a 4 yr old shouting at me as I type and trying to force me to be an Octonaut and bandage up his damaged tail fin.. losing my grasp on reality!

pp Very true! I feel kind of powerless against something that big but it would be a massive step forward.

Sorry, have only read the OP but I've had far more negative comments about being size 8 compared to when I was size 20. All the negative comments come from overweight family members. It pisses me off as I'm so proud of what I've achieved and so happy with the way I look (I lift weights too now so I gave nice muscle definition) and yet I can no longer post many photos of myself to Facebook because of family members commenting.

Bssh what a shame about fb. You look great and you're right to feel good about it.

Hi BsshBsssh how are you?

Thank you . Hello pp :)

I'm just thinking about our DD2 who has about 3 or 4 stone to lose and we are SOOO careful to not mention diets or anything related (it's got to come from her of course).

So when she manages to lose it we also don't know whether to make a big issue of it or any issue at all; any ideas how to manage it?

If she manages to lose it, I think a "Wow, you're looking nice and trim" would be perfectly acceptable.

But then again, we talk about weight in my house just like we talk about TV or the weather.

We've been careful not to make it a taboo or touchy subject...you know like sex was in the old days.

I still remember my Mum mouthing the words sex and periods when I was growing up, cos she couldn't bring herself to actually say them

It's just jealousy. Ignore it. I'm a size 12-14 and ok with that. Someone struggling to lose weight for years may well be jealous of naturally slim women and feel the need to be bitchy.

And I'm sorry, but this thread does smack of "I'm just naturally beautiful, why do women hate me?" Accept your genetic good fortune; ignore the haters.

DancingLady, I don't agree with that. Slim does not equal naturally beautiful for starters

Nor does it equal happy with body or absence of body issues

I think this thread smacks of nothing of the sort.

The OP hasn't mentioned whether anyone thinks she's beautiful or not, so I don't even know where that comes into it?

No it doesn't, but look through any celeb magazine - how many women in it are over a size 10? Society's ideal of female beauty is thinness.

And yes I agree that thin doesn't equal happy - but how many "help me gain a stone" threads are there on MN? Seems clear that there are many, many more women out there trying to lose weight than trying to gain it.

But I agree with the op that any comments about a persons size are rude and incredibly insensitive. A friend of mine went through a very tough time recently and went from a size 8 to a 6... I told her she looked great. The last thing she needed to hear was a concerned "oh you're SO thin".

My reply was to docket.

Dancing lady, That you can read a thread of people saying they dislike the negative comments they get and see it only as people showing off about their 'beauty' is really odd.

I don't disagree that the sentiment exists in magazines but not on the thread.