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Original poster

to refuse to do dd paper round on new years day

143 replies

LucyLasticBand · 31/12/2013 11:30

i did it the other day when she had a party away from home and wanted to ensure she had her christmas tips.
but new years day!
she should have cancelled it already surely?

she wants to go to a party in another town, requiring me to do her paper round and her dad to pick her up.
i have said no on both counts.

OP posts:
Fairenuff · 31/12/2013 11:32

I agree with you, why should you do her job? How is she going to a sense of responsibility if you pick up the days that are inconvenient to her.

Original poster
LucyLasticBand · 31/12/2013 11:32

exactly!
thank you fairenuff - I want your name btw

OP posts:
NoComet · 31/12/2013 11:33

Age?
I don't know about paper round, but living here lifts are a totally inescapable fact of life.

I'm sure the time will come when DH and I have to stay sober on New year and crack open the champagne on 12th night.

NoComet · 31/12/2013 11:36

Thinking about it, paper round depends on what she offered in exchange.

There's always lots of dusting and hoovering needs doing after the decorations come down.

A nice post Christmas meal to cook when parents are tired and fed up of being back at work.

Younger siblings to babysit?

curlew · 31/12/2013 11:38

Lift depends where you live.

Paper round depends how she asked.

Both a bit dependent on how old.

Danann · 31/12/2013 11:40

is she offering to pay you/do something in return for doing her paper round? personally if it meant a week of someone else hoovering or washing up then I'd be happy with that.

notallthere · 31/12/2013 11:40

Think you should pick her up... in plenty of time to do the paper round!

Original poster
LucyLasticBand · 31/12/2013 11:40

she is 16
she did of course ask nicely.

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Original poster
LucyLasticBand · 31/12/2013 11:42

i could of course offer her dad to pick her up. but think he would seriously refuse at a 7 am pick up

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Trills · 31/12/2013 11:45

Could you all negotiate/compromise?

She could start to learn that if she wants things from you she has to make the offer seem attractive.

Party away from home - can she stay with a friend until a more reasonable time?

Doing the paper round - what will she do for you in exchange?

curlew · 31/12/2013 12:31

I'd do it. But I'm doing my dd's pony tonight and tomorrow morning so she can go to a party. Which means wading round in mud and horse poo in a howling gale........

IloveJudgeJudy · 31/12/2013 13:56

I'd also do it (have done it, for 3 DC at different times), but I would want my pound of flesh in return, especially at such short notice.

Has she got younger siblings that might want the extra cash? You will, of course, get paid for doing it. She doesn't get the money if she doesn't do it. Otoh, doesn't she know anyone else from the shop to ask if they'll do it? DS2 did an extra round on Boxing Day as his manager asked him to.

WhoNickedMyName · 31/12/2013 13:59

Surely she should have notified the newsagent by now one way or another whether she was doing her round?

How odd.

Does she come and cover a day in work for you if you fancy some time off?

pixiepotter · 31/12/2013 14:00

My 16yo DD would not be partying til 7am in another town

curlew · 31/12/2013 14:04

"My 16yo DD would not be partying til 7am in another town"

Really? Why not?

GlitzAndGiggles · 31/12/2013 14:10

Pixie you're going to hate me but I used to go to parties at 9pm that finished at 10am the next morning when I was 16 and my dad was none the wiser. I'd tell him I was staying at a friends instead of getting wankered with my friends

Crinkle77 · 31/12/2013 14:13

Does she ask you to regularly cover her shifts?

MammaTJ · 31/12/2013 14:35

My 16yo DD would not be partying til 7am in another town

Do you, or have you had a 16 year old? It really isn't that easy and you have to pick your battles.

Crinkle77 · 31/12/2013 14:43

Pixie, the OP did not say her daughter would be partying until 7am. She said her husband would have to pick her up at 7am to start her paper round.

curlew · 31/12/2013 14:44

Not a matter of picking your battles at all - unless said 16 year old is partying in Weatherspoons! Surely a party at a friends house involving sleeping over is "partying til 7am"?

alistron1 · 31/12/2013 14:45

My 16 year old is going to a party in another town and won't be back until tomorrow.

I shall tell her that she's not allowed now ;)

Tbh - I wouldn't do the paper round, but I would notify the newsagent on her behalf. I did this for my DD a few weeks ago when it was her best friends birthday sleepover that was arranged at the last minute.

You have your whole life as an adult to be responsible etc, if you can't cut loose a little at 16 when can you?

Graceparkhill · 31/12/2013 14:52

Can you pick her up at 7 then she goes straight to paper round before retiring to bed?

Salmotrutta · 31/12/2013 14:52

I wouldn't have done a paper round for my DC unless they were ill or had an important appointment or something.

Unless they gave me their wages of course...

Graceparkhill · 31/12/2013 14:53

Or can she get a taxi straight to paper round?

Theodorous · 31/12/2013 14:55

I would do it, I want my kids to have fun and freedom. But then I wouldn't make them do it in the first place personally.

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