to refuse to do dd paper round on new years day

[LucyLasticBand]

i did it the other day when she had a party away from home and wanted to ensure she had her christmas tips.
but new years day!
she should have cancelled it already surely?

she wants to go to a party in another town, requiring me to do her paper round and her dad to pick her up.
i have said no on both counts.

16 is old enough to realize that what adults do is negotiate. To look at a problem and try to find a solution. Yes, expecting her mother to do it or expecting her to do it for nothing is unacceptable. But asking, and offering a trade off? Yep, that's what a normal adult would do. And refusing to do something for someone else for no reason but a bizarre conviction that somehow being kind is weak, or because " they have to learn" is just grim.

I think negotiating with your mum to look after your pony for a special occasion sounds quite reasonable. Getting your mum to do a job for which you get paid doesn't, imo.

I've swapped swifts with people but I've never asked my mum to do my job for me. If I couldn't swap a shift it was tough shit. I've missed many parties and family events because I have had to work. As I said, it's tough shit, it's your job.

From being toddlers, parents teach children about action,and consequence
It's is graded and age appropriate to encourage personal growth,responsibility
16 is old enough to know if you don't turn in for work that's your call.asking mum to work it is inappropriate

Although actually the op has made her decision so it doesn't matter what we think anymore.

Nor does it curtail discussion

Ah. I think there is a fundamental misunderstanding of the nature of paper rounds on this thread. It is perfectly appropriate to ask someone else to do your round for you- it happens all the time. My ds did his friend's round for him one Sunday last term. The shop doesn't mind so long as the round gets done.

No fundamental misunderstanding at all.her job,her choice whether not to do it
Getting your mum to do your two paper rounds in order she can go out is inappropriate
But well at 16 your Going to chance your arm if you can,and she has. Twice

Jesus, what a joyless world some people inhabit!

Will no one think of the ponies or diabetic guinea pigs

Getting your mum to do your two paper rounds in order she can go out is inappropriate
But well at 16 your Going to chance your arm if you can,and she has. Twice

I don't see why it is inappropriate for a teenager to ask their mother for a favour in return for housework etc. The mother can always say no.

Suggesting that she won't learn about actions and consequences because her mother has helped her out so she can go to a NYE party is a load of crap.

Gee,you really cut to the chase with that lot of crap summation
Who'd have thunk it after 11and half hours

And for bold to work you surround all the sentence
Otherwise the impact is lessened

Don't engage, whatever-she's playing silly games. Nobody could really be that rude and obtuse!

You're not moderator,yo instruct how posts are read
you're also not so good at the really
I think you're being churlish that people don't agree with you

is this how to do it

god I'm shite at bolding too

No,bit like this
Will no one think of the horses

this way

yas

Hope you're back in bed feeling virtuous, Lucy. Happy New Year- and enjoy having dinner cooked for you the next few days!

thanks
i took the dog so that was two birds killed with one stone.
only problem is i went to bed at 11.30 cos i was knackered and so didnt wish happy new year to my other dd

but i am sure she will survive. she had a friend keepign her company.

anyway, I am being paid a fiver but shall still ask for some favours. or pehraps i should forgo the fiver and just ask for help in the house, tbh I would appreciate that more.

No fucking way.