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AIBU?

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to refuse to do dd paper round on new years day

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LucyLasticBand · 31/12/2013 11:30

i did it the other day when she had a party away from home and wanted to ensure she had her christmas tips.
but new years day!
she should have cancelled it already surely?

she wants to go to a party in another town, requiring me to do her paper round and her dad to pick her up.
i have said no on both counts.

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bigTillyMintspie · 31/12/2013 19:00

OMG, I hope she realises what a lovely mum you are! I can't believe anyone will want a paper that early on NYD - surely 8am would be more than early enough?!

I would have probably made her cancel her paper round/picked her up early enough to do it (but negotiate for a later start time with the shopkeeper)

scottishmummy · 31/12/2013 19:01

I cope with numerous things
I'm not impressed by hyperbole about selling ponies and diabetic guinea pigs

whatever5 · 31/12/2013 19:10

No,but she might not learn you cannot bunk off work,and get mummy to do it fir you

It's not really something people have to learn Scottishmummy.

scottishmummy · 31/12/2013 19:11

Well she won't learn that lesson,seeing her mum will do the paperround

Iamsparklyknickers · 31/12/2013 19:14

Could you pick her up at 6 and drop her to do the paper round.

Still a pain in the arse, but a much warmer and quicker one for you.

curlew · 31/12/2013 19:25

"I'm not impressed by hyperbole about selling ponies and diabetic guinea pigs"

but you are impressed by hyperbole about a 16 year old failing to develop a work ethic because her mum does her paper round for her in exchange for some other favour so she can go to a party on New Years' Eve! (Oh, and a word to the wise- that diabetic guinea pig thing? A joke.)

scottishmummy · 31/12/2013 19:26

Word to wise,your delivery and composition is so inane I couldn't tell diabetic Guinea pig was your idea of joke

Topseyt · 31/12/2013 19:28

My 15 year old has a paper round, and she has to do it tomorrow too, but they are allowed to go in and do it at 8.00 am instead of at 7.00 am. She has then arranged a couple of days and the weekend off so that she can recharge her batteries in time to go back to school next Monday (we usually arrange a few days off for her during school holidays).

You are very admirable, agreeing to get up at 6.30 am to do her round. I have never taken my daughter's place.

curlew · 31/12/2013 19:33

"your delivery and composition is so inane"

ravenAK · 31/12/2013 19:38

I'd do it, but negotiate re-payment in terms of hoovering, babysitting etc. No big deal. In fact, I'd quite enjoy having a reason to get up & go for a walk

Actually being able to pitch an attractive job-swap is also a life skill, surely? She should have this all ready: 'Right mum, you do my paper round & I'll .'

mateysmum · 31/12/2013 19:42

If she has a job then she needs to be responsible and do it. I think it sends the wrong signals if she can just get you to do her job when she has something better to do. If the NYE party is a matter of life and death for her, she needs to take responsibility for telling her employer.
Pick up - I probably would, just to make sure she got home safely.

alistron1 · 31/12/2013 19:42

If it was me I'd take a hip flask to make the round more bearable ;)

pregnantpause · 31/12/2013 19:44

I'm sorry, but I agree with Scottish mummy. I'm always baffled at how babied teenagers are when they come to work, and it's stuff like this that leads to the lazy entitled employees that we have revolving through our office. At sixteen you are what I consider old enough to be responsible for your own employment. (perhaps I'm jaded by the fact that at sixteen , I had a job, a flat and bills to pay, alongside going to sixthform college)

curlew · 31/12/2013 19:58

So no room for negotiation at all then? Have you never swapped shifts at work? Covered for someone if they needed to dash off half an hour early? Have you never.......wait for it.......done anyone a favour???????

StillaChocoholic · 31/12/2013 20:00

I agree with scottishmummy. It's her job therefore her responsibility.
At 16 I had a job and if I needed to call in sick for any reason it was me that had to do it, not my mum. I knew that if I wanted to go to a party but had work the next day I'd have to either go home early or I'd be grumpy at work the next day and I'd have to arrange my own way home. It was my responsibility and my mum would quite rightly have told me to sod off.

curlew · 31/12/2013 20:05

Must be awful to have no room for negotiation, kindness and favour doing in your life.

scottishmummy · 31/12/2013 20:06

Will no one think of the ponies?

Laquitar · 31/12/2013 20:29

Help and kindnes yes. Outside of work. I.e.you have a hospital appointment and your friend gives you a lift. You move house your mum might help you with packing.
But realistically your family doesnt help you at work. You can negotiate with boss or swap shifts with colleagues. You dont bring your mum in.
So at 16 i think its good for her to learn the real life.

Lift is different, i would do that.

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LucyLasticBand · 31/12/2013 20:32

she has done this for 18 months + so tomorrow will be the second time i have done it, might take the dog with me though.

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mrsjay · 31/12/2013 20:37

I am helpful and kind curlew just wouldnt do a paperround doesn't make me unkind

curlew · 31/12/2013 20:57

Nobody will say whether they have ever swapped a shift or covered for a colleague or negotiated an exchange of favours....because they are all tripping over themselves to "out hard" each other!

scottishmummy · 31/12/2013 21:00

You're tying yourself in knots imagining how it is for others
No one is tripping over themselves to be Phil Mitchell

whatever5 · 31/12/2013 21:06

I agree with you curlew but then I don't intend to encourage my children to do a paper round (or any other paid job) while they are at school in the first place.

curlew · 31/12/2013 21:07

No I'm not. I understand only too well the "you made your bed, you lie in it" mind set.

To be serious for a moment, it's the "they've got to learn" school of parenting that I think produces hard, "always look out for Number One" people.

scottishmummy · 31/12/2013 21:36

Oh do ease up on the will no one think of the weans.school ard knocks
16 is old enough to know if you don't go to work cause you got better offer
That's fine,but don't get your mum to do your job for you

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