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to refuse to do dd paper round on new years day

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LucyLasticBand · 31/12/2013 11:30

i did it the other day when she had a party away from home and wanted to ensure she had her christmas tips.
but new years day!
she should have cancelled it already surely?

she wants to go to a party in another town, requiring me to do her paper round and her dad to pick her up.
i have said no on both counts.

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pixiepotter · 31/12/2013 15:12

Yes I have an 18 yr old a nearly 16 yr old and 3 younger children, thankyou.
And no they don't go to all night parties at 16.

curlew · 31/12/2013 15:17

What's an al night party?

If your 16 year old goes to a party and sleeps over is that an all night party?

alistron1 · 31/12/2013 15:26

Well pixie, obviously you are a better mother than me ;)

scottishmummy · 31/12/2013 15:32

God you're a pushover.if she doesn't want to work because of party she cancels shift.
No work,no pay it's not an uncommon premise. Time she familiarised self with it

TerraNotSoFirma · 31/12/2013 15:33

They dont go to all night parties at 16.......That you know about pixie

I'm quite sure my mother would have said the same when I was 16 :-)

Catsmamma · 31/12/2013 15:36

Are there even daily papers on NYD?? There never used to be when I worked in a paper shop! I do recall my boss being hugely vexed when they started printing on Good Friday.

alistron1 · 31/12/2013 15:36

For goodness sake scottishmummy. The kid is 16 and it's NYE. I bet you'd have the buggers down the mines until midnight!

Salmotrutta · 31/12/2013 15:39

I find myself agreeing with scottishmummy actually.

If you take on a job you should do it.

scottishmummy · 31/12/2013 15:40

Goodness sake what?if lassie going out,fine.but cancel her paper round
Hoping your mum is a soft touch,who'll do round is really chancing her arm

alistron1 · 31/12/2013 15:43

As I said, I wouldn't do the round for her. But I would call the newsagent on the DDs behalf to cancel.

curlew · 31/12/2013 15:44

I agree. If you take on a job you should do it. Or negotiate a way to get it done in exchange for you doing something else. Isn't that how life works? As I said, I am doing my dd's pony tonight and tomorrow morning. We have agreed that in exchange, she will cook an extra two dinners (as well as the one she normally does) next week, and help me list a whole pile of stuff I need to get on eBay. Win/win, in my book.

scottishmummy · 31/12/2013 15:45

The lassie needs to learn to weigh up action and consequences
A) go out, miss paper round no pay
B) go party, miss paper round ,take taxi money to get home
C) chance yer arm plead with parents to do said paper round and to collect her too

Salmotrutta · 31/12/2013 15:45

Ha!

My DD tried to get me to call in for her once for her Saturday job - I didn't.

That was her responsibility and she was the one who wanted to skive Hmm

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LucyLasticBand · 31/12/2013 15:58

she is trying to get someone to do it for her,
in fact we suggested her friend comes here instead of her going there, but the friend wont.
Hmm
btw the party in another town is just one or two other girls. not a party as such.

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LucyLasticBand · 31/12/2013 15:59

to the person who suggested taxi, i think it is a tenner but new years day would possible be 20.
so not really.

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scottishmummy · 31/12/2013 16:02

Why not?she has a job she's planning a party,she should factor in getting home
Share with others,book a minicab.if you plan your social life you factor in costs

scottishmummy · 31/12/2013 16:05

I had jobs that age,when I went to pals to stay, I factored in cost get home

Graceparkhill · 31/12/2013 16:09

I feel sorry for her customers to be honest. She is letting them down and I think this is a poor show if she has just received Christmas tips.
Final thought -could she notify her customers that NYD delivery will be a bit later-9am say with apologies for the inconvenience?

diddl · 31/12/2013 16:10

If a taxi isn't doable, would her dad really not pick her up?

curlew · 31/12/2013 16:11

[grin]@paying for taxis from paper round money. Do you realise how much they get paid?

OP. Do it for her, if it isn't too much of a pain in the neck. It's th kind thing to do, and being kind is always better, and teaches a better lesson, than not being kind.

Jinty64 · 31/12/2013 16:11

I would do the paper round for her.. It will be a nice walk to clear your head on New Years Day. She can do something for you later in the week.

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LucyLasticBand · 31/12/2013 16:11

she wouldnt dare go in late to work,
i too can't believe there is actually a paper round tomorrw.

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sykadelic15 · 31/12/2013 16:13

Well, she needs to learn to be responsible. So either she does the shift herself, cancels the shift, or you agree to do it for a fee (percentage of the wage or something). If she called off the shift someone else would profit. If she did it herself she'd get all the money. If she needs to pay someone else she still profits but they do too.

As for the party - well that's up to you. Whether you know the people she will be with. Whether you trust her. But asking you to pick her up at 7am... if it doesn't happen all the time I'd do it as a favour, and she'd pay for fuel (well maybe a small token fee).

Of course this all depends on your family dynamics.

scottishmummy · 31/12/2013 16:15

What's the[face] for?you go out you factor in costs,it's about planning becoming a responsible adolescent
Is there a driver who's non drinker going,can they share cab
Presumably she's saved for stuff before,make up,clothes,DVD.its same principle.you want something you put cash aside fir it or make plan to share cost

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LucyLasticBand · 31/12/2013 16:22

no, this is all a last minute arrangement, sadly,she did have another arrangement in place, locally. which was far simpler.

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