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AIBU?

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Original poster

to refuse to do dd paper round on new years day

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LucyLasticBand · 31/12/2013 11:30

i did it the other day when she had a party away from home and wanted to ensure she had her christmas tips.
but new years day!
she should have cancelled it already surely?

she wants to go to a party in another town, requiring me to do her paper round and her dad to pick her up.
i have said no on both counts.

OP posts:

diddl · 01/01/2014 11:33

Jeez-I think you deserve the fiver & favours!

Stop being a mug!

ilovesooty · 01/01/2014 11:34

Put the fiver towards a treat for yourself and still call in the favours.

ilovesooty · 01/01/2014 11:35

X post #diddl

KatieScarlett2833 · 01/01/2014 11:44

No way would I do a job of work that DC have committed themselves to.

glammanana · 01/01/2014 11:57

I have laughed my way through this thread remembering the times my DH & I used to take DS1 (now 38) on his paper round when it was snowing and raining so please don't think this is a new thing with teenagers I can assure you it's not my two boys had the "Kevin" attitude long before the"Kevin" mentality became famous.

Original poster

LucyLasticBand · 01/01/2014 12:03

good to hear glamma

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curlew · 01/01/2014 12:36

Fiver and favours, Lucy. Or she'll be a work shy benefit scrounger before you can say "knife"..........

Oh, wait, not she won't. She'll be an adult who knows how to problem solve and negotiate. And who knows what it's like to do and receive favours. And that generally it's better to be kind than not.

mumeeee · 01/01/2014 15:04

Asking your Mum to do your paper round is not solving problems. Especially as it meant her Mum had to go to bed early on News Eve and get up for 6,30 on New years day. That is something I wouldn't do unless it was an emergency. Solving problems is phonimy the newsagent to cancel or swapping with a friend

scottishmummy · 01/01/2014 15:05

You can predict future Moral character from her ability to get mum to do her paper round
Really,you can ascertain her future skilled negotiation and roundedness from this
Astonishing

scottishmummy · 01/01/2014 15:08

Happy new year to you starballbunny,thanks for the thoughtful mention

mumeeee · 01/01/2014 15:35

That should have said phoning. Typing on ny phone. I have done favours for my DDs before but not when it involves doing their paid work for them.

IloveJudgeJudy · 01/01/2014 15:57

I'm glad to see that you negotiated a way for you to do her paper round for her, Lucy. The thing with these types of jobs is that, if you don't do it one time, you risk losing your job.

I'm surprised you had to do it so early, though. DS2 went at just before 9am to do his this morning and he wasn't the last by any means. He's quite lucky, though, as he's got a friend who will usually do his if he can't and the shop are usually really good at getting someone else to do it if he can't and gives them enough notice.

I agree with curlew about giving and taking and helping family members out when you can.

Laquitar · 01/01/2014 16:26

Can you imagine that you work as a hotel or GP receptionist or at a bank. One day your mum or your auntie turns to work because you swaped with them and you stayed home to cook the stew. 'Problem solving'.
It doesnt work like this in the real world. (Mind you it would be fun!).

curlew · 01/01/2014 17:33

Laquitar- in those sort of jobs you couldn't swap in this way. You could, presumably swap shifts with another worker?

Paper rounds are different. It is quite common to swap around- as I said, my ds doesn't actually have a round, but has done friends for them on occasion. The shop doesn't mind, so long as it gets done. And there is such a queue of kids wanting the jobs that if you can't do it one day, the chances are you've lost the job, unless you find your own substitute. Ringing in would probably just result in getting the sack.

IloveJudgeJudy · 01/01/2014 17:35

Laquitar I completely agree with curlew. paper rounds are not regular jobs. You don't get holiday pay, nor sick pay. If you don't do the work, you don't get paid and the shops don't like it if you don't turn up. There are usually waiting lists of other DC trying to get a job so if you let the shop down, they can just let you go and give your job to someone else. You have no comeback. If you worked in an hotel or at a GP's you would have comeback, sick pay, holiday pay, etc.

mumeeee · 01/01/2014 17:50

A lot of Jobs are Zero hour contracts now and not all of them pay sick or holiday pay. My DC'S didn't have paper rounds but if they did I would have told them to treat it like any other job. In fact DD3 had a voluntary job in a charity shop and I encouraged her to treat it as a normal job. Which meant letting them know in plenty of time if she was unable to do her shift.

scottishmummy · 01/01/2014 17:58

There been plenty giving - two paper rounds to be exact
There's been plenty taking - two paper rounds to be exact
Both in v short time period,as in the other day. Both occasion mum did the girls work

dexter73 · 01/01/2014 18:44

I would actually love to do my dd's job for a day. She works in a pharmacists on a Saturday and loves it. She has her regulars who come in and have a chat, and then she has the oddballs (no names mentioned of course as she is strict about confidentiality) which she loves to tell us about!
She has a very good work ethic and turns up for work regardless of what time she has been out to on a Friday night etc., and will do any overtime in the holidays if she is asked to. Perhaps this is why I would have done the paper round, as I know my dd is very conscientious about her job and never lets them down. She even doesn't mind the awful uniform!

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