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To be a bit freaked out by DPs behaviour..

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Meanderer · 29/12/2013 23:26

There's a cat that has been coming into our garden and even our house occasionally and frightening our two young cats. They are getting braver at hissing at him but he still dominates them and we think has sprayed scent on them. Today while I was out DP found this cat in the house so shut him in, chased him around shouting at him, then put him in a bath of cold water, all to frighten him off. He'd mentioned before that he was panning to do this and I asked him not to, because it seems really cruel and excessive and also I thought about how I'd feel if someone did that to one of ours..he's an aggressive cat yes but just doing what some cats do. My question really isn't whether he was unreasonable to do it, because I think he was and have told him so..but I'm feeling really uncomfortable that he could do this at all, even though he believes it was right to defend our young cats that way...I feel a bit creeped out by it. Am I being soft and should I be grateful on our cats behalf? I was hoping they'd just eventually be able to defend themselves.

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happytalk13 · 01/01/2014 06:07

Cruelty to an animal is disconcerting. I'd be most certainly thrown by that behaviour.

MrRected · 01/01/2014 06:48

The cold water is bad enough but in the MIDDLE of WINTER.

THAT CAT COULD DIE OF HYPERTHERMIA - assuming your oxygen thief of a DP didn't get the dryer out and towel dry it off after abusing it.

WTAF - imagine if this made the papers. Perhaps it should?

Shitehawke · 01/01/2014 08:39

That would make a thrilling exposé. The headline would be an attention grabbing....

'Wet cat'

NewtRipley · 01/01/2014 09:06

different

nobody kicked anybody.

Pumpkin567 · 01/01/2014 09:12

I'm with Harriet. How will he treat your children!?

Nasty man.

MrRected · 01/01/2014 09:24

Wet, freezing, abused cat - at the hands of a total twat. Would be a bit more accurate Hmm

QuintessentialShadows · 01/01/2014 09:26

Op. how long are you away for when you lock your cats in to go on holiday? Do you have somebody looking in on them ? Feeding them?

QuietTiger · 01/01/2014 13:19

shitehawk it's not the "wetting a cat" that I'd be doing assault for - I've actually given neighbours super soakers to deter my cats from their garden which is quick and effective and also relatively harmless - it's the calculated trapping the cat in the house and chasing it around so it's terrified, then putting it in a bath of water and holding it there that I find offensive and which I consider calculated cruelty. Or do you not see the difference?

If you consider me a loon, that's up to you - I couldn't really give a shit.

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PodPudding · 01/01/2014 13:29

it turned out that my exP used to drown cats when he was a teenager. He is mentally ill, an abuser and into very strange and illegal things like rape porn. I certainly believe there's a link between hurting animals and being not ok as a human being

complexnumber · 01/01/2014 15:03

'Held under water' Did the OP say anything about that? Or are we playing Chinese whispers?

If the cat no longer enters the house, then job done.

I have not heard of any domestic cats dying of hypothermia. Maybe I'm wrong and it is the shameful hidden truth of English suburbs

CuntyBunty · 01/01/2014 15:49

Take things a bit too literally, do you, DifferentName?

fifi669 · 01/01/2014 16:37

Apart from if the DP ran a bath of cold water specifically for this purpose (as opposed to having a sink of water etc for another purpose already there)..... I don't see anything wrong. It's a pest in your home. If it were a rat no one would bat an eyelid if you bopped it over the head. He scared it with the intent on it not returning and harming your cats.

We've seen before in the burning house thread people see them as family. He's hoping to have got the point across without actually hurting the cat. When the OP said he had firm as he shouted at someone casing the house in the middle of the night? Seriously? That's what I'd want him to do!

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