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To be a bit freaked out by DPs behaviour..

290 replies

Meanderer · 29/12/2013 23:26

There's a cat that has been coming into our garden and even our house occasionally and frightening our two young cats. They are getting braver at hissing at him but he still dominates them and we think has sprayed scent on them. Today while I was out DP found this cat in the house so shut him in, chased him around shouting at him, then put him in a bath of cold water, all to frighten him off. He'd mentioned before that he was panning to do this and I asked him not to, because it seems really cruel and excessive and also I thought about how I'd feel if someone did that to one of ours..he's an aggressive cat yes but just doing what some cats do. My question really isn't whether he was unreasonable to do it, because I think he was and have told him so..but I'm feeling really uncomfortable that he could do this at all, even though he believes it was right to defend our young cats that way...I feel a bit creeped out by it. Am I being soft and should I be grateful on our cats behalf? I was hoping they'd just eventually be able to defend themselves.

OP posts:
scarletandblack · 31/12/2013 12:01

What do PTKITF and ITWBTSOAF mean? Can't find them on MN Acronyms!

DramaMcLama · 31/12/2013 16:20

I find your dps behaviour bizare and a bit sadistic.

QuietTiger · 31/12/2013 16:37

If my DH did this to a cat, I would go absolutely mental and he would most likely be shown the door, because cruelty is completely unacceptable. What a vile, nasty horrible man. Your DP is not normal.

If I found out your DP had done what he claims to one of my cats, I would be looking at an assault charge against your DP.

There are many "kind" ways to deter neighbourhood cats. That is not one of them.

MostWicked · 31/12/2013 16:52

There are many "kind" ways to deter neighbourhood cats

Like??

CuntyBunty · 31/12/2013 16:58

Poster to kick in the fanjo and let me see, I'll be back in a minute....

CuntyBunty · 31/12/2013 16:59

Idiots twats with brains the size of fleas if I remember correctly. Both referring to cat cruelty advocates on this thread.

YoureBeingASillyBilly · 31/12/2013 17:00

Lion poo in your garden
Windchimes by your window/door
A magnetic/chip cat flap
Putting your windows on a lock/restricter bar.
Clapping your hands to get them to run out
A toddler squealing with glee as it wobbles towards the furry 'toy'
Newborn baby screeching
Making sure there are no over flowing bins, food lying inside or outside your property.

Im sure there are more if i gave it some thougt but trapping a cat in your house, chasing it round while shouting and then putting it in a bath of cold water are all avoidable. People manage to avoid to this on a daily basis.

SolidGoldBrass · 31/12/2013 17:01

A quick squirt with a waterpistol to chase off an uninvited cat is one thing (startles the animal but doesn't hurt it) but what this man did sounds so calculated that yeah, I'd be having serious doubts about him.

Shitehawke · 31/12/2013 17:16

Wow, assaulting a man for wetting a cat. Do you think you sound normal saying these things, quiet?? Cos you dont. You sound like a fucking loon. All these wild claims by weirdo cat fanatics threatening violence/death to people who wet or shout at their cats are a worrying trend on catsmumsnet.

NewtRipley · 31/12/2013 17:20

Shite

You seem a bit obsessed with one poster. Lots of people are disagreeing with you.

Shitehawke · 31/12/2013 17:23

Um, first time I've responded to this poster actually. You on the other hand.......

CuntyBunty · 31/12/2013 17:31

I'll be setting my pussy on all you cat abusers.

NewtRipley · 31/12/2013 17:40

Shite

Oh sorry. My mistake. Just you seem to be generically referring to everyone as looks and cat-loving weirdos

NewtRipley · 31/12/2013 17:40

loons even

Shitehawke · 31/12/2013 17:58

If the cap fits, newt.

LiberalLibertine · 31/12/2013 18:08
NewtRipley · 31/12/2013 18:18

Crazy Cat Lady

harriet247 · 31/12/2013 18:20

Ummm do you have kids op? This might be the sortof thing you need to set some fucking boundaries on.. I mean is he going to be that dad who punches the teacherfor giving dd detention / strangles scott over the pond for kissing his princess?
*this was my best friends dad in school

Also, I do not believe he did what he said unless he is covered in scratches. So maybe he is pretending to be billy big bollocks to impress you

LiberalLibertine · 31/12/2013 19:03

Grin newt. Yours looks fabulous dahling.

OTheHugeManatee · 31/12/2013 20:14

The other night, Ginger Bastard from next door let himself in through our newly-installed catflap, ate all our young, nervous cats' food and terrorised them all night. Around 6am DH woke up, realised what was happening and went in the warpath. Ginger Bastard was chased round the house three times with a broom, and might have had a kick aimed at him once or twice.

He has not been seen since. Ginger Bastard is a bully who thought there was nothing bigger or meaner than him in our house and has had this misapprehension corrected. Our cats can now relax in our house.

I will not be leaving DH. I think there are a lot of overblown reactions on this thread.

NewtRipley · 31/12/2013 23:42

OT

I would recommend (as I did earlier in the thread), a cat flap that detects your cats' microchips.

You are anthropomorphising the bully cat a bit.

NewtRipley · 31/12/2013 23:43

Also,

Despite the fact that the cat who kept getting into our house had been scared out of his wits by my DS, he still came back, hid under the bed and sprayed everywhere.

DizzyZebra · 01/01/2014 00:27

Othehuge The cat isn't a bully. Its behaving as cats naturally do. Which is admittedly compromised of incredibly annoying, disgusting and just vile habits. But if you have cats too, and you let them roam freely, you cant really complain or go around punishing the animals when its people like you who put them there in the first place.

SinisterBuggyMonth · 01/01/2014 00:59

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differentnameforthis · 01/01/2014 02:53

Idiots twats with brains the size of fleas
Poster to kick in the fanjo

The lovely side of MN. Where you can't wet a cat, but you can kick a woman in the crutch.