To be a bit freaked out by DPs behaviour..

[Meanderer]

There's a cat that has been coming into our garden and even our house occasionally and frightening our two young cats. They are getting braver at hissing at him but he still dominates them and we think has sprayed scent on them. Today while I was out DP found this cat in the house so shut him in, chased him around shouting at him, then put him in a bath of cold water, all to frighten him off. He'd mentioned before that he was panning to do this and I asked him not to, because it seems really cruel and excessive and also I thought about how I'd feel if someone did that to one of ours..he's an aggressive cat yes but just doing what some cats do. My question really isn't whether he was unreasonable to do it, because I think he was and have told him so..but I'm feeling really uncomfortable that he could do this at all, even though he believes it was right to defend our young cats that way...I feel a bit creeped out by it. Am I being soft and should I be grateful on our cats behalf? I was hoping they'd just eventually be able to defend themselves.

I haven't read the whole thread but frankly your DH makes me sick, as do the other posters condoning his behaviour.

I would be worried how he might behave to another child who bullied yours or similar. What a cunt.

Can I chuck a bucket of water over a cat if its already outside to teach it to stay away from the garden? Im assuming the issue is with the cat going from the warm house to the cold outdoors?

Oh god yeah if he chucks cats in baths he would probably drown a bullying child in the pond

Cop the fuck on would ya

I think the issue is with a grown man imprisoning a cat, running round shouting at it then dunking it in a cold bath.

Yep, thats the issue

I really really don't like cat's but would never do something like that either.

Your partner is a cruel prick.

Please let us have his details so we can call the RSPCA - or better still put him through the same trauma he inflicted on a defenceless animal.

But it's not the cold water that's an issue - it's fine to squirt a cat with a water pistol! The issue is the bloke trapped and yelled at an animal to scare it while running it a freezing cold bath to dunk it in. The cat had no way of escaping or being able to think "fuck this I'll leave", unlike if it had been squirted at with a water pistol or smacked on the bottom with a wooden spoon. He'd mentioned wanting to do it before and it's disconcerting that he went through with it.

I don't think he meant to be abusive, he was trying to stick up for his own cats, but then I don't think anyone who is abusive means to be - he probably doesn't even realise his own behaviour was bizarre and as his DP I'd find that worrying. My God what a fucking thick pillock he must be. I don't think I could be with someone like that either, it was sadistic behaviour.

Is it wise for him to have pets? All animals are going to be unpredictable, even the most docile ones. Perhaps the kindest thing to do for the cats would be to rehome them if he can't prevent himself lashing out at animals.

Cruelty issues aside it's fucking WEIRD.

Evil bastard

His "overdeveloped protective instincts" (mentioned earlier by you) could easily get him into trouble OP.

Nothing is likely to enrage more than someone being horrible to your child. I'd be worried he would be the Neanderthal who confronts a child or their parents in the playground over some perceived or real injustice.

It's the premeditated nature of what happened that's disturbing I think. That's if it's true (OP seems to have performed a hit and run)..but then again there are some peculiar and unpleasant people in the world.

As a cat owner that has had to do the bathing them thing (never again unless I have to) I find it quite hard believe he could have done this without being scratched to pieces.

good point flippinada

"He bloody held it under the cold water to scare it"
DoYouLikeMyBaubles, the OP actually said "then put him in a bath of cold water" not "held him under". Personally I find it very hard to believe that he could've caught the (probably frightened) cat after chasing it around and shouting at it.

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"OP seems to have performed a hit and run"
Well, if all the psychologists here are correct she's probably been tortured and murdered by her "psychopathic" DP. That's obviously the next step for him isn't it

IME it's not unusual for people to start threads on controversial/upsetting topics and then bugger off and/or (more likely) sit back and enjoy the ensuing shit storm.

These threads are good for spotting pta. (Posters to avoid)

This is very true usualsuspect.

True. It's also a good thread to spot PTKITF.

And ITWBTSOAF

I would actually be scared of him now and want to live away from him. But that is how you feel isn't it OP?

I still say he was wrong just on the basis that he is hypocritical.

Even a slight grumble about the cat would be hypocritical tbh nevermind the random dunking.

And no, I'd not let you be quite dead so you could 'fess up to your moggy brutality. Cruelty to cats is an offence though you know?

So is cruelty to humans, and I bet you would be in more trouble from the police than Shitehawke

If you were locked in somewhere by someone and held down in a bath of cold water after being chased round inside and shouted at would you just be a bit miffed because you were wet? Or would you be a bit more traumatised than that?

probably not as traumatised as they were, seeing me wondering around their house uninvited

Yes, different, death threats actually ARE a criminal offence....but this fact seems to have been totally ignored by the cat weirdos in favor of getting hyped up over a wet cat.

I find your dps behaviour bizare and a bit sadistic.

I find your dps behaviour bizare and a bit sadistic.