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To be a bit freaked out by DPs behaviour..

290 replies

Meanderer · 29/12/2013 23:26

There's a cat that has been coming into our garden and even our house occasionally and frightening our two young cats. They are getting braver at hissing at him but he still dominates them and we think has sprayed scent on them. Today while I was out DP found this cat in the house so shut him in, chased him around shouting at him, then put him in a bath of cold water, all to frighten him off. He'd mentioned before that he was panning to do this and I asked him not to, because it seems really cruel and excessive and also I thought about how I'd feel if someone did that to one of ours..he's an aggressive cat yes but just doing what some cats do. My question really isn't whether he was unreasonable to do it, because I think he was and have told him so..but I'm feeling really uncomfortable that he could do this at all, even though he believes it was right to defend our young cats that way...I feel a bit creeped out by it. Am I being soft and should I be grateful on our cats behalf? I was hoping they'd just eventually be able to defend themselves.

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Bluecarrot · 29/12/2013 23:29

I really dislike cats but that seems cruel to me. I don't know an alternative but no way I'd do that to any creature :(

ReluctantBeing · 29/12/2013 23:30

He has behaved shockingly. Get a magnetic cat flap so this other cat cannot get in.

AwfulMaureen · 29/12/2013 23:30

What an UTTER wanker. I would be livid if my partner or DH was this cruel. That would totally put me off a man.

Cluffyflump · 29/12/2013 23:30

That's twisted Shock
I expect its against the law too.

I don't think I could love someone who was cruel to animals.

usualsuspect · 29/12/2013 23:31

He put the cat in a bath of cold water?

The cruel fucker.

DoYouLikeMyBaubles · 29/12/2013 23:31

You're not being soft he is being cruel and sadistic.

I would seriously rethink being with someone like that too.

WhatAPallava · 29/12/2013 23:32

I agree that's very nasty!

I think you can tell a lot about someone from how they treat a small animal...

Dollydishus · 29/12/2013 23:32

Beware anyone who is cruel to animals. It's psychopathic behaviour.

SpikeyChristmasTree · 29/12/2013 23:32

I'd be out of the door, OP, and take your own cats with you. What is he likely to do to them if they show normal cat behaviours?

Peekingduck · 29/12/2013 23:32

Nasty git. It's a cat, it's doing what cats do. It doesn't understand his form of "punishment", is just terrified. Anyone who could do this to an animal has a serious cruel streak.
Do what normal people do to keep unwanted cats out of your house.

WhatAPallava · 29/12/2013 23:33

When you give a statement to the police after being assaulted...(not sure if just domestic violence assaults)..They ask "have they ever been cruel/violent to a family pet" (something along those lines)

HeartShapedBox · 29/12/2013 23:34

throw him in a bath of cold water and hold him under the fucking wanker

Peekingduck · 29/12/2013 23:34

Actually, I wouldn't be able to live with anyone that was this cruel to an animal. It gives such an insight into his personality, it would seriously make me re-think a relationship.

HaroldTheGoat · 29/12/2013 23:34

It's very weird and disconcerting. Mostly as well that it was all planned.

GlitzAndGiggles · 29/12/2013 23:34

How would he feel if someone twice his size chased him around and plunged him in a bath of cold water? That's sick as fuck!

Cluffyflump · 29/12/2013 23:35

That is very true pallava.

GlitzAndGiggles · 29/12/2013 23:35

Oops meant to write ten times his size

phoolani · 29/12/2013 23:35

He's put him in a cold bath and shouted at him? He hasn't chopped a limb off or owt? It doesn't sound that cruel to me. But then I'm not that fond of cats. They're certainly crueller than that to small animals and birds. And I'm pretty sure that shouting at a cat and bathing it in cool water isn't against the law.

catsdogsandbabies · 29/12/2013 23:36

Wow very cruel. Microchip cat flap will solve the problem. Amazed he wasn't scratched to hell. Is it true? Having attempted to bath cats for medical reasons they resist pretty effectively.

lilyaldrin · 29/12/2013 23:36

The bath of cold water is excessive - but I have done similar. Scared the shit out of the invading cat, chucked some water at it and not seen it again.

usualsuspect · 29/12/2013 23:36

It isn't what a normal person would do though is it?

SpikeyChristmasTree · 29/12/2013 23:36

You do get that cats are animals, phoolani? And therefore behave as such? Humans are supposedly able to control themselves.

Nanny0gg · 29/12/2013 23:38

Horrible horrible thing to do.

The most he needed to do was spray it with water every time he saw it. Shutting it in was bad enough, but the bath was vile.

I hope your cats never scratch him...

lilyaldrin · 29/12/2013 23:38

Also it's pretty hard to even catch a freaked out cat, let alone get it into a bath - are you sure he really did that?

usualsuspect · 29/12/2013 23:38

Water pistol yes, shouting yes

But putting the cat in a bath of cold water is bloody weird if you ask me.

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