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82y old MIL expects me or DH to put in her suppositories when she comes for xmas?

372 replies

tiredpooky · 20/12/2013 12:22

she is constipated last few days and wont even try to put them in herself. (Always been a helpless lady last 20y i've known her, expects others to 'do' for her)
I mean I am right arent I? Totally inappropriate and gross. DH says he wont and I have never got on with the lady...
{makes wretching sound}
she knows she can get the district nurse, but we get the impression that as she is coming here anyway, we might as well do it for her........
has she no shame?

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VivaLeBeaver · 20/12/2013 12:35

I've had to do it for people in a professional capacity but wouldn't be keen on doing t to my own mum. Why can't she do it herself like most people? Is she that incapable? Seems a waste of a district nurses time. Tell her to have senna tablets, movicol, etc instead.

ENormaSnob · 20/12/2013 12:35

Best xmas dilemma ever Grin

Is she a nice mil?

HarderToKidnap · 20/12/2013 12:35

Of course you should do it. I understand the laugh factor of the post but in all seriousness, get your bloody gloves on and help an elderly member of your family at Christmas. Organising the nurse will be a nightmare and you doing it will also free her up to spend a bit more time with someone who doesn't have anyone at hi his time of year. YABMU.

revivingshower · 20/12/2013 12:36

Lol can this be real? Well if it is it is not good for you to use those things all the time. Stick to one of the oral ones.

Kerosene · 20/12/2013 12:36

Suddenly, my MiL xmas health dilemmas look like nothing at all....

SugarCaneShortCake · 20/12/2013 12:37

How did this topic of conversation come up? I would do it - but then I was a nurse. I recommend asking the district nurse to do though - for the sake of everyone's dignity and comfort. Some things cannot be un-seen Xmas Grin.

PuppyMonkey · 20/12/2013 12:38

Grin I can just imagine Madonna performing this task.

KringleCandleLover · 20/12/2013 12:38

Can't she blutack it to something and just keep sitting down until it disappears...?

That has made my eyes leak.

Kundry · 20/12/2013 12:38

Well I'm a doctor and I wouldn't do it. I am health professional at work, not at home. And the District Nurses are overloaded with people who can't physically help themselves without throwing in someone who just doesn't want to so i don't see why they should either. She'll be fine with some Movicol.

Just ewwww.

Thisisaghostlyeuphemism · 20/12/2013 12:38

Oh.

You poor thing.

"It's Christmas time, there's no need to be afraid."

But there is.

stubbs0412 · 20/12/2013 12:38

This is the best read so far!!!!!
I might save this up for April 1st!!!!!!
However no way would I be doing that!

susiedaisy · 20/12/2013 12:38

If she can wash herself, put her own shoes and socks on, walk around the shops and get in and out of a car etc then she really should be able to do it herself. If her mobility, balance, joint movement etc is compromised and she uses a walking aid, raised toilet seat etc etc then I can understand her wanting someone else to 'help'. Do you have any nursy friends that could step up!!!

MammaTJ · 20/12/2013 12:39

I would but then I have done care work for a very long time and am now a student nurse which you are all bored of me telling you, but I cannot help but say it 100 times a day.

I can understand you not wanting to though.

I would even pop in and do it for her if you were my neighbour.

moondog · 20/12/2013 12:39
Banacek · 20/12/2013 12:39

I so would not.

Gamerchick Grin

MrsDeVere · 20/12/2013 12:41

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bigTillyMintspie · 20/12/2013 12:41
FreddieStarrAteMyHamster · 20/12/2013 12:41

Jesus Christ I have heard it all now

HaleyDunphy · 20/12/2013 12:43

^Oh.

You poor thing.

"It's Christmas time, there's no need to be afraid."

But there is.^

Grin Grin

Prune juice allllllllll the way, baby.

HuglessDouglas · 20/12/2013 12:43

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tiredpooky · 20/12/2013 12:44

fully independent lady no health problems
stubborn rigid and impossible IMO

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WreckTangle · 20/12/2013 12:44

No!

No way.

No fucking way!

Not in this lifetime!

NO!

susiedaisy · 20/12/2013 12:45

Wreck GrinGrin

Op then no I wouldn't do it for her!

WildThong · 20/12/2013 12:45

Ha ha Xmas Grin I am visualising my dh face if the subject even came up! it would be Xmas Envy coloured!
No way I would do it either. I'm afraid some plain speaking is called for.

Ghanagirl · 20/12/2013 12:46

Sorry for your problem, but I'm sitting here with tears of laughter at some of the repliesGrin