Football clashes with DD's dance show- DH wont look after our son

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AIBU to expect my DH to miss two football games to look after our son?? My DD is in a dance show in Feb half term, she has two rehersals the two Saturdays before, one is ok as there is no football but the first one and the one of the show he is at football and he wont miss it. I have no one else to look after him as my parents aren't local and my friends who I would usually ask have children in the show so they aren't available. It looks like at the moment I will have to pull her out of the show as I have no cover for my son. My DH has a season ticket and it was a lot of money but we compromised and he goes to the home games but not the away games otherwise he would never be home on a Saturday. He is very organized and has all the dates written up so I know when he is free and I admit when I said yes to the show I didn't actually think about cover for my son. I just think its a bit unfair that she has to miss out, I haven't said anything to her yet as I am hoping maybe nearer the time he will change his mind but I don't actualy know if he will and I have said he has to explain why she has to miss it but he doesn't seem bothered and said that she will realize that he cant miss football and that it was my fault for not checking the dates in the first place!!

So he's going to the show on another night. He is not neglectful of his children and this is purely and simply about the OP expecting her husband to miss a planned and negotiated activity to cover for her carelessness.

Outraged-would be great if people actually read the thread, or at least the OPs posts, wouldn't it?

It would Bowlers, it would.

I'm going to football on boxing day when the In laws are
Coming over. The ticket costs a bomb and I'm not missing it when I never got consulted on the in laws coming or whether it was convenient. Why should he change plans he has already made? I would compromise by taking my son to the football but wouldn't cancel.

don't see why you can't just take your son with you to rehearsal , take a colouring book or some quiet toys for him and a picnic. won't there be other younger siblings there . other mums will help to get your DD Ready. I think Yabu suggesting your daughter miss out on her show.

just saw no siblings allowed. can't you join up with another mum and share rehearsals/child care

Her dance school doesn't have chaperones so your child is your responsibility in all rehersals and shows and aren't allowed to be left at any time.

Seriously? So you will not be able to watch the show at all, because you are expected to chaperone at every show?

I'd maybe look for a new dance school. They don't sound very understanding or accommodating.

Very unusual to need one-to-one parental supervision . What about parents with more than one child in the show ? Asking another parent to do one session for your dd is no different and maybe you could offer for the weekend your dh is at home and/or have their sibling while they get to see the show. fwiw I've never had to attend a rehearsal or exam for dd who has been dancing since she was 4.

Some dance schools do this, d

Whoops don't think it's that unusual

Does each child need their own parent chaperoning them or can you share? - so chaperone for another child as well on one day & have them chaperone for you on the day you can't make?

Love the way that the DH is the unreasonable one yet if a woman has a prebooked event on a calendar it would cause uproar if she was asked to cancel.

He's not missing the show and has offered to collect after football so is being perfectly reasonable.

He works all week so that you dont have to so a few hours to himself for a hobby every other weekend is hardly asking the world.