To feel like I live in a completely different world to most mumsnetters?

[FloozeyLoozey]

No one I know can afford to be SAHM. Wages over 20k are seen as damned good, not disparaged. Anything over 30k makes you well off. I don't even know where Lancashire's private schools are, or anyone who hires a tutor. Nannies are another urban myth that don't exist around here, it's all after school clubs and nurseries. I feel completely alienated from this place at times. Am I just a common northerners out of place on mn who should migrate to netmums, because the shockingly snobby attitudes at times tell me I should.

It's not the absence of a nanny that invites snobbish attitudes on here. It's having bad grammar.

Nannies, cleaners and private schools are/were part of my life. It's all the threads about Christmas eve hampers and snuggling up in your onesie and present buying for your aunt's sister-in-law's brother that leave me nonplussed. Oh and reusable san-pro.

I loved admired respected nodded my head at SM's posts loads before I even read that post Jingle.

I think I'm the exact opposite of what a MNer should be sometimes.

But I feel out of place everywhere so I wouldn't take my advice!

I wouldn't take my advice either Kitty.

Or trust me as far as you can throw me.

It's a online forum not a hippy commune,don't need to like posts,or agree
Fact it's funnier when you disagree, heightens the differences
I post because I want to.no one is my bestie,no one is my enemy.trust nae fucker

It's having bad grammar.

then it is followed by a thread that ends up about an education system letting people down

I simply won't be told off by an online horah about my posts.

I love the fact that we are from such a wide range of lifestyles. I am probably in the middle financially, some are richer than me, others not but I don't see that it makes anybody better or worse than anybody else.

I am also in Lancashire. I can assure you that there are private schools in the county and people who use tutors and nannies, that kind of stuff is not exclusive to the South although it may be less common. I'm with Matissy though that it pisses me off no end when people suggest that Northerners are automatically poor and common.

I have had 2 dds through school one left one nearing the end I heard my first RL they have a tutor for X subject the other week never heard of it before ,

I'm also in lancashire and can tell you it has some very good private schools. I also know people who employ nannies and some who comfortably are sahp. There are plenty of jobs were the salary is over 20k and plenty who earn over 30k but I am also very aware that some people struggle, that some jobs pay a pittance and some families need both adults working to survive. The area I live people are either very comfortable or struggling badly there doesn't seem to be much middle ground or at least that's how it appears.

You can trust me SM

It's the constant whirl of activities I read on mn,mandarin,violin,tap,horses
All of which render the mutha too busy too work,gosh no she's got to drive
It's a window on life that isn't mine.and that's the joy.the glimpse of someone else

Floozy I think maybe you are an inverted snob?

I'm in the North, two respectable professional salaries & a nanny - but that's because she used to be our CM until we both bred sufficient children for it to make more sense for her to just work for us - so not as poncey as it sounds.

We'd have to make some fairly drastic lifestyle changes to accommodate a SAHP - we have a large, draughty Victorian house, & that would have to go for a start. That said, I do my food shopping from Approved Foods & buy clothes from charity shops or ebay, & I know the local prep school well enough from friends' & teaching colleagues' experiences to give it an extremely wide berth...

We're probably scruffy arse middle class .

Of my two closest local friends, one has a 'property portfolio' & the other has just spent the last year living from hand to mouth in a soggy static caravan. The first undoubtedly has an easier life on a day-to-day basis (although she has other problems) but all three of us have more in common re: values/outlook on life than differences...

I love that you have so much of a brood that the CM can just work for you raven

Whenever I look in that window, whoever's there always seems to be hammered

So draw the curtains

I would SM, but they have blinds!

Like you got draw the curtains!
och blinds,nowt to do
Sling them a rubber

We have a small-to-medium brood of 3 each, mrsjay. It'd probably be even easier if I just married her .

I am a sad mother then.

My child does no out of school activities.

we live on benefits at the moment,

Life is, oh, hang on, pretty okay. We eat nice food, he has books aplenty, he can go online a play stupid teenage games with his mates.

He has no interest in doing fifty thousand out of school stuff. He wants to come home, chill, do homework, hang out, watch tv, read books, do a bit of onscreen time. He is 13.

I have no car, no anything to promote stuff out of school. If he wants to do it, he has to take the bus by himself.

Oh yeah, he has severe dyspraxia as well.

I pretty smart, well educated, have rooms lined with books...

nothing more to say really. except I do know that our current circumstances (financially) might well invite ridicule an contempt.

I say, fuck off. My boy is loved, supported, and does well at school.

I mean to marry money next time!

I just love nosying at everyone tbh.

I'm in the middle financially, but have worked my way up over 19 years in the same job, have lived all over from the north of Scotland to the south of England, rent my house and have a cleaner now but was only managing whilst juggling credit cards when my kids were small.

I only came on mn coz I'm off work long term sick, and it's not only kept me from going insane, it's opened my eyes to many different worlds.

monica tbh i am just nosy too,