To feel like I live in a completely different world to most mumsnetters?

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No one I know can afford to be SAHM. Wages over 20k are seen as damned good, not disparaged. Anything over 30k makes you well off. I don't even know where Lancashire's private schools are, or anyone who hires a tutor. Nannies are another urban myth that don't exist around here, it's all after school clubs and nurseries. I feel completely alienated from this place at times. Am I just a common northerners out of place on mn who should migrate to netmums, because the shockingly snobby attitudes at times tell me I should.

I haven't read the full thread, but one of the best things about Mumsnet is that there really is someone here from every single walk of life you could think of, and most threads have a huge range of opinions and experiences, many of which I never would have even considered.

Bollocks is it London centric either. It is actually nothing like the reputation that precedes it.

I am a SAHM, one of the reasons is because my salary would not of covered child care and travel expenses. Does that make me snobby ??

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I feel totally the opposite to the OP - I feel like MN is mainly comprised of people struggling to pay for heating and a food shop.

Lancashire isn't all dark, satanic mills you know

We've got Waitroses and everything (though Booths is far superior)

taking, I think if you look on teenagers and bereavement and see the issues that people are dealing with, that cross all social classes, you will see what MN is all about. The help and support is fantastic.

Funny you should mention dark satanic mills and booths catgirl because all though Lancashire does have both I can't think of any booths in the mill towns

Lancashire has the ribble valley...far posher than parts of Cheshire and many places down south.

the rubble valley posh?
I loved nearby and wouldn't have called it remotely posh! What parts of the ribble valley would you call posh?!

Rubble was a predictive text fail and not a deliberate one!

The villages around Clitheroe and Whalley, You know, where small stone cottages cost around a quarter of a million, where fancy gastro pubs abound, where clothes shops require a gulp before you look at the price tag. Where the golf course car park is full of the most expensive cars around, where ladies lunch and where flower shops are flower boutiques. Those places.

Clitheroe, hurst Green, Ribchester that general area has some very nice properties they are all the ribble valley.

Plenty of people I know have had to be SAHM because they would earn less than they'd have to pay the childminder/after school club. A very common arrangement is for one parent to work in the day and the other to work nights/weekends. Hardly seems like entitlement to me.

I don't feel alienated... I'm a student, pregnant at 19, will be raising the baby on benefits and in a council house/on housing benefit - none of this is what I aimed to do with my life, I still have my ambitions, they're just going to take a bit longer and a bit more work to achieve. I'm still at university studying a 'doss' degree, live in the north (well, North Wales), fucking hate the name Clementine and shop at ALDI not because it's an experience in 'poor people shopping' and a change from Waitrose, but because I can't afford to shop anywhere else. except dinosaur turkey from Morrisons. There is always enough to buy dinosaur turkey from Morrisons.

I feel quite at home here because I'm an opinionated loud-mouthed bitch who specialises in pointing out cuntish behaviour - nothing to do with income or personal circumstances. You don't have to be rich to look down on people

I'm a Northerner (well midlander) living darn sarf.

I think the fact that there's rich and poor, WOTH and SAH parents, older and younger people here is what makes it tick. What makes it interesting.

Erm, I won't class Clitheroe as posh. And quarter of a million for a cottage sounds reasonable.

I live down South and although I know those with nannies who shop at waitrose (my nct lot) and where the private schools are (I'm a teacher so I should really) my life is very removed from that world. I work part time but only because my DM has DD, I couldn't work and afford nursery here. I do earn over 20k pro rata but only just, and no where near 30k

I have to say I don't feel alienated here though. I've read plenty of threads about people struggling to pay for heating or DC Christmas presents.

I think there's a wide range here, that's why I like it

I live in the south east. I am a single parent, working full time. I have a 'good' job with a salary slightly above both the median and the mean but will never be able to afford to get out of my rented flat. My ds goes to an independent school, I shop in lidl and at approved foods and spend a lot of time figuring out how to stretch a week's food shopping into a fortnight. I drive a car that people actually laugh at and would rather eat pizza than employ a cleaner.

I've been on MN for a decade and believe me, it is WAY more diverse than it used to be. But even then, it would've been silly to generalise. And the north/south thing is just stupid. I'd love to move up north - my standard of living would go through the bloody roof!

BuffyxSummer,
I know that many families dont have 10 or 20 pounds a week for a cleaner. I am one of those.
Still if you do have this money and you spend it on a cleaner it doesnt mean that you are 'rich', 'posh', 'lazy cow' etc. To have a cleaner you need to not be very poor. But you dont need to be filthy rich and certainly not posh. Posh families have daily housekeepers.

Please feel free to reread my post. I said it often comes across that people have no idea how much money that is to poorer families and that is misread as being snobby. I didn't say anything about being posh, lazy etc so no clue why that's aimed at me.

"I dont get the issue about cleaners. You can psy as little as 20pounds a week."

You might not be able to afford a cleaner but this comment implies £20 is little to pay a week for one. For many it's not, so they might read this as snobby because it doesn't show much understanding of how much £20 actually is to them. I used it as an example.

I'm not northern enough for a a Booths , my nearest one is an hour and a half away..

I am aware that I live in a totally different world - but isn't that the joy of MN?

The thing that I find uncomfortable about Mumsnet is the fact that you quite often sound like Miranda Hart in my head and the sense of absolute entitlement to life being run for everyone else so as to suit the poster. More than snooty, verging on arrogant. Sorry, I feel better now, ta,

Such fun!