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To think if one child is a different race to his entire class...

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freshsweetberry · 02/12/2013 08:19

has never been invited to a party, a playdate and is racially abused and bullied, that actually, there probably is some racism going on?

I've spoken to the school numerous times, and they've refused to let me change his school. So he's grown up with no friends, bullied and now he has low self esteem.

I've got to confront them again, but I feel that it's a totally pointless exercise.

OP posts:

friday16 · 02/12/2013 19:03

I've known lots of Muslims to celebrate their birthdays.

www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/home-life-8/faith-religion-97/441731-birthdays-islam-all.html

Alisvolatpropiis · 02/12/2013 19:07

Erm?

FreakinScaryCaaw · 02/12/2013 19:21

So now you can move him? That's quick.

Floggingmolly · 02/12/2013 20:01

For four years you've accepted the head teachers claim that you're not allowed to remove your child from the school; and the very same day you start this thread you are suddenly "given permission". Wow.
But now you're going to ask him to decide whether he wants to move or not...

FreakinScaryCaaw · 02/12/2013 20:20

My thoughts too Floggingmolly.

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freshsweetberry · 02/12/2013 20:21

I think that there are some on here who are really quite destructive, and I really want to stay away from that.

For those who want to pick holes and disbelieve and ridicule and insult for perceived slights, good luck. Enjoy wasting your emotional energy in that way.

to those who have helped thank you! It has made a difference! Have a good night all.

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FreakinScaryCaaw · 02/12/2013 20:29

Wasting emotional energy? Hardly.

candycoatedwaterdrops · 02/12/2013 21:09

I apologise too fresh. Was grouchy and took it out on you.

Zipadeedoodah · 02/12/2013 21:41

Er, not destructive or wasting emotional energy....just perplexed about your problem solving....if you don't want input then why post? And the comments are constructive ....why let a child of 10 on FB? Why expose to online gaming? Why not check who makes the decision as to what school that attends ? That is not destructive questioning, merely absolute amazement that these simple measures to offer safe guarding and a road out of your predicament haven't been taken. And you're welcome.

royalmailspecialdelivery · 05/12/2013 12:59

Ok firstly I am not on trial for allowing a child to use a bin weevils type game, millions of parents do, the sites are moderated and I was sitting next to him.

I get that mumsnet routinely flames people without noticing they have feelings so a little biscuit to the flamers
For those who have tried to out me and even googled schools, albeit with the best intention, firstly you could have endangered a child, secondly no I do not live in East London. I changed some details precisely because I DIDN'T want my already victimised son to be outed. Thirdly its a very contreversial subject, I am not racist and was trying not to offend any member of any religion at all. As I had changed the details the guesses were all wrong!

I want all of you to think how you would feel if your happy 7 year old was isolated and never invited anywhere by anyone and told nothing he did was good enough for years. How you would feel watching a child turn from happy to bitter.

I honestly don't understand why some people on here attack as if they hate the poster, would you use so much vitriol in real life? Alot of the answers just wanted to attack me personally, couldn't care less about the child or what he was going through. If you are on mumsnet to shout at people asking for help, I suggest you are on here for the wrong reasons.

FraidyCat · 05/12/2013 13:08

I realised my guess about location was probably wrong when you said there was another school to go to. Hopefully I at least showed that your circumstances weren't as unlikely as some seemed to think.

royalmailspecialdelivery · 05/12/2013 13:18

There are quite a few schools nationwide which are almost exclusively monocultural both white english and certain other nationalities

tinkertaylor1 · 05/12/2013 13:58

Tbh op This thread is strange and I agree that 29 children, a whole class is bullying your child, is a tad bizarre. I just don't think it is racial. A whole class of ten year olds - no.

I think some of the responses to other posters that have queried your op have been given some what of an attitude.

He's been at the school four years, in this time he's never had an invitation anywhere, although one friend does come round sometimes, eats our food generally gets him in trouble by annoying the neighbours and then defriends him the week after and gossips about him

^^ if this is the attitude you have maybe your son has it and isn't very popular.

I think being excluded and bullied for four years is more likely to cause anxiety and depression than fb content to be honest

^^ what a strange place to put a bloody winky when talking about your son being bullied, which leads me to think this is bullshit anyway.

Took my mind of the sound of the wind ripping tiles off my roof!

tinkertaylor1 · 05/12/2013 14:12

is that an epic NC fail!

Zipadeedoodah · 05/12/2013 14:26

Or..... You could look at it in the way that it was meant which is that we are SO concerned about a child going on games and online sites that aren't really suitable for a 10 yr old that we questioned you on that .
I really think this is a very odd thread a lot of it I just don't understand ie how you thought that it was the head teacher's decision as to what school your son attended and the rest

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