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To think if one child is a different race to his entire class...

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freshsweetberry · 02/12/2013 08:19

has never been invited to a party, a playdate and is racially abused and bullied, that actually, there probably is some racism going on?

I've spoken to the school numerous times, and they've refused to let me change his school. So he's grown up with no friends, bullied and now he has low self esteem.

I've got to confront them again, but I feel that it's a totally pointless exercise.

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freshsweetberry · 02/12/2013 10:05

misfitless I have contacted the school numerous times. I've been told it's not their culture to have parties and they only invite family around (this is rubbish my other kids have been to plenty of things with members of this religion!). The have dealt with open racism but deny he is being bullied, despite the fact he's not ever been included.

I tried to move school earlier and was told the headmistress would have to sign a consent form. She refused to do this to my horror. I'm still waiting for a call back from the school, their policy seems to be deny deny deny, and brush over.

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freshsweetberry · 02/12/2013 10:06

He's on an online game as well they've threatened him on there and bullied him and tried to get him to not play that game.

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Nanny0gg · 02/12/2013 10:07

freshsweetberry If you answer the questions that have been posted you may get more helpful replies.

Just a thought.

Oh, and as far as FB is concerned - you can protect him from all this!

PlentyOfPubeGardens · 02/12/2013 10:08

You need to step up and take action to protect your DS from what is happening.

Print off everything from FB and show it to the school. If they do nothing, take it to the police

keep your DS off facebook

find him a new school

This shouldn't have gone on for four years.

gamerchick · 02/12/2013 10:08

I still can't get over you are allowing your child to be bullied on your Facebook and are acting like you're helpless.

mrsjay · 02/12/2013 10:09

is he playing minecraft you can block them he does not have to play on their game, YOu do not need to let him suffer like this they are children why are they ruling your life. get him moved and get him off facebook and whatever game he is on he does not need to add any of these children to this game they are not his friends

Birdsgottafly · 02/12/2013 10:12

"Show the school the stuff that's been put on fb and print off, too; "
"The Police get involved with online bullying"

OP, be prepared for a sever telling off, you are allowing a child to use an adult account.

You may not realise but you can sign into inappropriate content on "You tube", "Yahoo" and into some Porn etc sites using you FB account.

There are loads of inappropriate stuff in FB alone and you security setting must be shit if he can be found in the odd occasion he is on there.

You are doing nothing to protect him, tbh. Addressing all that us going in would benefit you both.

Most "strict" religions certainly don't allow their children to have unsupervised online times.

SootikinAndSweep · 02/12/2013 10:13

Can you tell us what sort of school it is?

mrsjay · 02/12/2013 10:14

You are doing nothing to protect him, tbh. Addressing all that us going in would benefit you both.

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Most "strict" religions certainly don't allow their children to have unsupervised online times.

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monicalewinski · 02/12/2013 10:15

Just saw your last post re online game - sorry to be harsh, but I think you are enabling it by allowing all this online interaction tbh. Block the bullies and stop allowing your child to be bullied in his own home.

He's 10, he's still a child and it is your job to be the grown up and stop him being exposed to this at home.

Thatisall · 02/12/2013 10:15

fresh how are the children bullying your ten year old online?

Misfitless · 02/12/2013 10:16

Please can you answer the following questions, OP?

What country are you living in?

What is your nationality?

Why have you chosen to send DS to a school that appears to be a faith school if you do not share that faith? What is the faith in question?

I'm not asking these questions to make trouble, or to be racist, but it seems to me if you answer these questions honestly, people may be able to give you some more helpful advice.

Birdsgottafly · 02/12/2013 10:17

"He's on an online game as well they've threatened him on there and bullied him and tried to get him to not play that game."

Does he have X Box live?

Having access to this sort of stuff, under 10 is known to give young children anxiety and even depression, it is being seen more and more in lads.

Have you seen and heard what goes on during these "games"?

Sounds as though lots of changes need to happen.

wishful75 · 02/12/2013 10:18

I this is a wind up people.

wishful75 · 02/12/2013 10:19

think this is a wind up, stupid sausage fingers.

Misfitless · 02/12/2013 10:19

I'm with you there, wishful75, me too.

mrsjay · 02/12/2013 10:19

not sure yet but

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freshsweetberry · 02/12/2013 10:20

I'm in the UK, the LEA decided that he had to go to this school as the area is oversubscribed.

He is off fb and that game, and I have threatened to print it out. I have contacted the school and am waiting for a call back. He does not have x box, we have parental controls and he's a sensible boy. I think being excluded and bullied for four years is more likely to cause anxiety and depression than fb content to be honest

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gamerchick · 02/12/2013 10:20

I hope it is.. jesus!

musicismylife · 02/12/2013 10:21

Froub

So make sure you are 100% sure of your facts and have evidence before you accuse probably 30 other dc and their parents of being racist. The only thing worse than discrimination of any type is someone unfairly accusing others of discrimination

Froubs, just because this happened in your case, what on earth makes you think that it is the same situation in the OP's case. What a shitty thing to say!

heidihole · 02/12/2013 10:21

Why are you ignoring all the questions on how your son is in some sort of Jehovah's Witness school where no one celebrates birthdays!

mrsjay · 02/12/2013 10:23

why did you what is wrong with you you said he ws being bullying online then you said you stopped it now you are saying it is not as bad as all that and then the LEA wont move him , i smell BS

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freshsweetberry · 02/12/2013 10:23

I'm staying away from talking about faith as its a contentious subject. I have many friends and people I like respect and admire in this religion. My other kids have close friendships with people of this religion. It seems to be just the culture of this particular school that is the problem.

Sorry folks its not a wind up, and I'm not going down the mentioning the religion route as that will lead to lots of outraged members of that religion flaming me for whatever reason.

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merrymouse · 02/12/2013 10:24

Every other school in your area is oversubscribed? Have you contacted alternative schools? Are you on any waiting lists?

weirdthing · 02/12/2013 10:25

Could you pull him out and home ed him?

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