I just don't get it. 
Judging what others do is completely human response, weird that people here shout "though shall not judge" but by doing so judge the OP themselves. I thought MN was a forum to exchange opinions and ideas so why shoot the OP down for doing just this?
I find it very weird that the pro formula lobby seems to increase by the day. 
I am not a nutritionist but giving a young baby formula equates to the baby not having an optimal diet (based on scientific evidence). However, so many people go on and on about how important it is to eat healthily (adults and children alike) but then think feeding formula is just fine or a life style choice.
I think it's so ignorant to not even try to bf or give a newborn colostrum (even if it is just expressed).. It's a different matter if bf just doesn't work or makes mum and baby miserable but to say out right " naaaaaaa can't be arsed" is odd unless you have some deep seated psychological reasons for not wanting to bf.
BF is a matter of public health also, so in a way not just a personal choice as with your choice you may be more of a burden on health service ( as with drinking heavily, being obese, smoking etc etc.). No one knows the long term health and psychological implications of feeding formula. I reiterate formula is a man-made product on the market to generate revenue for big companies like Nestlé. Of course formula has its place and the most important thing is that mum, baby and the rest of the family are balanced , happy and healthy. But if people could, but choose not to bf I find it hard not to be judgemental. I just find it ignorant and it does make me sad.
The comment about OP's friends partner who sees breasts as his own personal play things is deeply worrying. I actually think this is controlling and abusive as another poster has said upthread. So basically breasts are good to satisfy a grown man's bloody fancies but must not be used to feed a helpless newborn mammal. This is thoroughly fucked up.