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To take them with me?

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Geckos48 · 20/11/2013 10:29

So my husband is away at the moment, he 'doesn't know' if he will be back tonight.
I've had to mess work around already this week and I dont think they could cope with me missing my shift tonight :(

My calls are in an incredibly rural location and its really safe round here.
WIBU to take the children? Make a little 'nest' in the back of the car and give them their bottles and put them down to bed in the large boot of our people carrier?

I could dress them up warm and I would only be out for around 2hours with them, checking back regularly and driving inbetween calls every half an hour or so?

I dont know what else to do!

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Chippednailvarnish · 20/11/2013 23:17

You missed

Say something outrageous
Say something totally ridiculous
Make crap excuses
Say something outrageous

And repeat

MortifiedAnyFuckerAdams · 20/11/2013 23:41

Loving how she hasnt answered the q about the 25k

Nanny0gg · 21/11/2013 00:05

Sorry, to clarify, you are considering having another baby despite this post: "To be honest I dont know if he will be my husband for much longer (not just because of this but because of other things)" Or do you have someone else in mind? I am really struggling to undertand

You're not the only one...

ShylaMcCall · 21/11/2013 00:57

No, I am the only one struggling to "undertand" Grin

IamInvisible · 21/11/2013 01:26

Surprise, surprise! Geckos has another thread full of discrepancies!Hmm

ihatethecold · 21/11/2013 06:33

I take it she has form for these type of threads then?

baggyoldcow · 21/11/2013 06:48

Hi Geckos, how did you get on ? Feel really sorry for you Sad

baggyoldcow · 21/11/2013 06:57

oops, sorry, only read the first page! I see you didn't go in the end. Well done.

YouStayClassySanDiego · 21/11/2013 07:01

ihatethecold

Yes she does Wink

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Geckos48 · 21/11/2013 07:24

Hi baggy, got on Okay, DH came back last night and we had a good chat about things. Things are okay. I went to a couple of calls last night (just two) when he came home and have a Full day today and two weekend morning shifts (shudder) to make up for not being able to go out last night.

So all is well that ends well I suppose!

I'm okay otherwise, I have a nasty burn on my breast that just wont heal so I am off to A+E today to get that looked at (if/when I get time)

Thanks for your concern. I am okay x

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Geckos48 · 21/11/2013 07:27

I dont need to do a 3-year social work degree to be a social worker. I can do a 2 year MA, so I am just topping up my current BA in order to go down that route. It actually works out a lot cheaper as an MA costs 5k a year and it will only take me a year or so to get the credits I need to complete my degree.

So more of a bump in the road than anything, will certainly still be studying social work as I love it and am very good at it. After all, I work in the same field all day every and have a very professional attitude to working and supporting people.

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RevengeWiggle · 21/11/2013 07:29

Does your DH understand the situation he put you in now?

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Geckos48 · 21/11/2013 07:33

Yes I have explained very calmly (I was quite proud of myself) how bad it made me feel that he felt my job so completely irrelevant that he didnt even bother making sure he told me what time he was going to be back.

Its hit him where it hurts anyway because on my weekend off I am working both mornings so he will have to get up with the kids.

It was lovely to see him actually and we cuddled all night. He got the kids up this morning and brought me a cup of tea in bed, which he does every weekday.

I am glad he is back with me, despite yesterday wishing that he would never come back!

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SolomanDaisy · 21/11/2013 07:38

I'm glad someone has pointed out that doing an OU open degree does not equal training to be a social worker. It means you want to train as a social worker in the future, at which point admissions staff and then tutors should pick up whether someone is unsuitable. Currently no-one has done that.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 21/11/2013 07:39

so all is fine despite the "he's not speaking to me sadface post earlier"
geckos you'e threads are fuller of holes than my dh's socks.

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Geckos48 · 21/11/2013 07:48

No I did half a semester of a social worker degree, went through the selection process and handed in one essay, but my funding was denied (for the first year) because I had already done a HND. So I had to look at whether paying it off in bits, being skint for a year and continuing was the best option and actually, found a better one.

Anyway. This thread is NOT about my career, nothing that any of you say is going to change my career, I am sorry but none of you know me and therefore your judgment is mis-informed and falls on deaf ears.

Yes everything is okay now, we spoke about it all when the children were in bed and worked everything out (you know, he said sorry, I said sorry etc)

Thats what you do in a marriage isn't it?

We have been planning to try for another baby in April for some time, this incident has not affected that, obviously if we have massive problems or any ongoing problems that will affect us.

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ExcuseTypos · 21/11/2013 08:07

It all confusing Gecko.

You did half a term of a social work degree yet at the moment you are topping up a BA so you can start an MA in social workConfused.

And it is relevant to this thread because you clearly have issues with assess

ExcuseTypos · 21/11/2013 08:10

Sorry

Issue with assessing risk, which is very relevant to someone who wants to be a SW.

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Geckos48 · 21/11/2013 08:13

Well it's my life! Sorry if it is confusing for you.

Yes I have a precious HND2

I got into a social work degree course

My funding was denied

I found alternative plans

I left degree course

Now I am working 16hrs a week and will be starting my top-up course in February. I will be on track to begin an MA in social work the September after next. Though I might have another baby which will obviously push that date back a bit.

It is still the plan though :).

I can't see how that is any more confusing than normal every day life, things happen and you find a way around them. It's what everyone does.

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Geckos48 · 21/11/2013 08:16

I can't see how I have an issue assessing risk, my children are happy and healthy and I understand more than most how hard it is to deal with bereavement, homelessness and abuse.

I have a great relationship with service users and get sent out by the company I work for to assess people's care packages which is a managers job actually.

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ExcuseTypos · 21/11/2013 08:23

Well I'm still confused.

You can't go from an HND to a masters in a couple of years.

Anyway you don't have to explain any more. I'm just pleased you've clarified that you aren't actually on a social work degree at this time.
--I'm not even going to comment on your last sentence, the m

ExcuseTypos · 21/11/2013 08:25

The mind boggles.

ptpan · 21/11/2013 08:26

Just looked at this thread again-cant beleive you are still on it arguing!
To be honest I don't beleive much of this whole thing,why on earth would you plan to have a baby half way through a course?And put your plans back again?
No sorry,I think you are talking complete rubbish to get attention and can't keep up with all the stories you are spinning.

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Geckos48 · 21/11/2013 08:27

A HND2 is one year off being a degree. Perhaps that explains it a bit more?

So I am one year off making a HND2 a degree

a Masters takes two years.

So social work degree = 3 years

top up degree = 1 year
Ma = 2 years

so it will take the same amount of time, its just a different way of getting there. But I will probably take an extra year because its a good time for us to have another baby (not trying til April) because I wont be studying for 3 solid years.

We have just found a way to do it that fits in better with our family (no 30mile commute to uni three times a week) and costs considerably less money.

Its actually a really positive thing, though it was horrible at the time. Where there is a will there is a way and all that :) I am excited now, about the modules I can do with the OU to change my BA into an BSC and about doing a MA instead of a degree.

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Geckos48 · 21/11/2013 08:29

I don't plan on having a baby half way through a course, I plan (now) on having a baby in between doing my top-up degree and my masters.

which makes sense really, we both want three kids and we were putting off a third until I finished my 3 year degree.

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