To take them with me?

[Geckos48]

So my husband is away at the moment, he 'doesn't know' if he will be back tonight.
I've had to mess work around already this week and I dont think they could cope with me missing my shift tonight :(

My calls are in an incredibly rural location and its really safe round here.
WIBU to take the children? Make a little 'nest' in the back of the car and give them their bottles and put them down to bed in the large boot of our people carrier?

I could dress them up warm and I would only be out for around 2hours with them, checking back regularly and driving inbetween calls every half an hour or so?

I dont know what else to do!

Social science is not the same as social work, just like having a plan is not the same as actually doing something. You must have a pretty intense course load planned for OU study btw.

Well I have an extra year to play with so I am not going to be too intensively studying with the OU, going to speak to them about it asap actually, just need to wait for my credit transfer to happen.

I am not planning on doing a Social Science Masters, I am planning on doing a Social Work Masters which is a course aimed at qualifying people as social workers who have already done a degree.

Plus I am 'actually doing' it.

I actually went to uni, for half a semester, I actually went to the interview and was vetted and got in.

I would say that just quitting a the first (rather large) hurdle would be 'not doing' it but I haven't done that. I just found another way and how to make it work for me.

You're a social worker?! What would you do in a job situation if someone left their kids sleeping in a boot and being driven about not strapped in? That's nuts, OP. hope you didn't go.

No I didnt go and I am not a social worker.

Here's a wall for you to bang your head against []

No, I meant the social science degree you were on before. At least that's what you said it was, on the same thread as you said you had an HND which you could transfer for 180 points towards an OU degree. It's admirable that you found a way around your funding difficulties and that you want to gain better qualifications. By 'not doing it', I meant that you are not currently training to be a social worker, which you keep letting people think you are. Which is relevant here because you have demonstrated a very poor ability to make your own risk assessments.

No I did a social work degree which I didn't get funding for.

Not a social science degree.

Seriously people.

I haven't 'let' anyone think anything. I have started a thread about each of the issues I found studying social work, I have hidden nothing. The issue here is people assuming that they know a person because of words on a screen, not because I have kept things from people.

All I have said is I am not happy to discuss my career because honestly it makes no difference and is irrelevant to anyone but me.

I believe I already answered your question about risk assessments. It's something that I do in my current role anyway and I have no doubt that my training will only exemplify my abilities in that area.

Thanks quint

I see the . pick pick picking has started. Bizarre how that happens a lot on here.

I have no doubt that my training will only exemplify my abilities in that area.

It seriously needs to as you appear to rely on MN to risk assess your own parenting for you.

If you are doing risk assessments on service users in your current job when your a carer then your employees are breaking rules, you have to be at least a supervisor to carry out risk assessments and no it's not the managers job, yes managers can carry out risk assessments but it's not in there job role.

You also have to go on an in house training course to carry out risk assessments, under the role of a carer you do not do this.

Your talking utter shit.

You can't even asses a risk on your own baby & toddler without putting them in danger, doesn't matter if you did it or not, it crossed your mind to put a 1&3 year old in the boot of your car, drive around, then leave them in the car, in the dark while you went into service users houses.

You had to ask on an Internet forum for validation that's worrying.

But I didn't think it was reasonable or I wouldn't have cancelled work.

As I said before, I was stressed and confused and worried about letting people down. I didn't do it so that is a good example of risk assessment.

I have two happy and healthy children, I am not doing anything wrong by them.

If people didn't seek other opinions about their parenting then forums like this wouldn't exist.

I could understand this had I done what I thought but I didn't, I didn't even come close.

And anyway, 20 years ago it would have been totally normal so I really don't see how it was so far fetched an idea.

20 years it wouldn't have been acceptable.

Dd1 is 22. She had a car seat form birth, as did every other baby, they've actually been around a long time.

It may have been ok about 40/50 years ago, but there were less cars on the road for one. Also hardly anyone wore seat belts 50 years ago, that doesn't mean anyone would think that's acceptable today.

I'm not sure where all these places where were this was acceptable. I read this a lot on MN about children being left alone/in cars/in bed all the time in the 1970s/80s/90s and yet I know only one child who was left home alone (1960s) and who was taken off his mother because of this neglect.

Geckos- on the one hand you're saying you didn't do it because you saw it wasn't the solution on the other you are saying it wasn't that 'far -fetched an idea.' That's the bit that worries me, that you still don't really see why it was wrong.

I don't think a social worker needs to have struggled with their own children to empathise with others but if they can do, I would hope they could show practical solutions they applied, not condone poor behaviour. The children need the empathy and care. Far too many social workers empathise with shitty parenting in my experience and time after time safeguarding boards report how parents were believed/supported/defended above the needs of the child.

*were

Hang on,you can't say you didn't come close etc!
You spent most of the day telling people their was little to no risk to your children by you driving them around at night unstrapped and sleeping in the boot of your car.
That isn't quite the same as a stressed parent coming onto a forum asking for help with feeding,tantrums etc.
You are contradicting yourself again by saying you werent even close to doing it.I guarantee if most people on here told you it was ok to do it then you would have done.
Your lack of risk awareness for someone claiming to be in a carers position and training as a social worker is astonishing.