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AIBU?

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Original poster

is DH being a dick or am I

207 replies

Mrschocolate · 17/11/2013 20:44

DH thinks I am being daft and hormonal (I'm 7 months pregnant)
I think he is being annoying and if he carries on I will kill him.

He has spent the past two Sundays grumping because he wants different veg with his roast dinner. Between them my DCs will only eat sweetcorn, carrots and broccoli and because there is a limited time on Sunday I just make what they all like. But DH keeps saying he is bored, I have told him to make his own if it bothers him that much but he just says he doesn't want too.

Then yesterday I asked him to go and get some Xmas presents we have a set budget for each DC. I had set aside more money for my eldest two and less for the youngest two who are both 1 so they won't notice or remember and they will get lots off family anyway. DH agreed this with me. But yesterday he decided that it was unfair and spent loads on the youngest two and he bought some stuff which they already have. When I pointed this out to him he sulked for hours and refused to take them back.

But when I complain he says I am hormonal and just dismisses me as some mad pregnant woman. So AIBU or is he?

OP posts:
TheRealAmandaClarke · 19/11/2013 08:04

An you send the DCs to MiIL? Any if them?
That way you get to have some well deserved head space before and after his lordships return.

ll31 · 19/11/2013 08:12

Didn't see previous thread but sounds like it may be connected. Hope all goes well today, hope you're both ok.

3asAbird · 19/11/2013 08:23

Sorry you going through shit time.

what you mean op he went missing? for how long? where? did anyone know where he is?

Is he having a breakdown/

do you have any other family and freinds nearby that can offer support?

You have so much on your plate.

veg Ii know lazy but birds eye steam fresh veg in pouches, they do supermarket own brand and takes 3 mins in micro. y husbands fussy over veg we don't have sunday lunch every sunday so he must be deprived.

presents-do you have receipts take some back? just thinking extra money may come in handy if everything goes wrong.

Whats mil like? all sounds very odd.

I would be fuming. Hope you get to bottom of it.

WhereMyMilk · 19/11/2013 08:42

Hope all goes ok with the chat later, and you get some kind of reasoning from him for his shitty behaviour-though whatever the problem is, he should just be communicating with you like a grown up, not taking it out on you-twat. Him that is, not you!

FastWindow · 19/11/2013 08:52

Thanks dejavu sadly although I was not familiar with the term, I am horribly familiar with its effects.

TheDoctrineOfWho · 19/11/2013 09:08

Good luck with the chat later. You deserve better than this.

mitchsta · 19/11/2013 09:16

He's being a complete dick.

Objection · 19/11/2013 12:18

Flowers come and update us when you can OP. I hope everything is okay.

Catchhimatwhat · 19/11/2013 12:59

Good luck.

stillenacht · 19/11/2013 17:06

Hope you are ok OP

ChilliJo · 19/11/2013 17:39

Just wondering how you're doing, OP.

puntasticusername · 19/11/2013 19:28

Wondering here too. Hope you're alright.

HeffalumpTheFlump · 19/11/2013 21:16

Just read the thread. Hope you are ok op. hope the chat talk went ok.

Original poster
Mrschocolate · 19/11/2013 21:22

Thank you all.

So we talked and he said that he was chatting with a woman a few weeks back and she gave him her number, he told her that he was married and left it. But after he went missing (he was mugged and our car was stolen) he wanted to get in touch with her again. He arranged to meet her through Facebook on Thursday but decided that he didn't want to risk our marriage.
He then felt guilty which is why he bought the presents. He was in a mood because he felt bad and he was confused.

I told him to stay with his mum until I have had time to think about what he has said. He swears that is the truth but I am not sure what to think.

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MistAllChuckingFrighty · 19/11/2013 21:28

I am not surprised you feel unsure. That story stinks to high heaven.

toffeesponge · 19/11/2013 21:30

What utter bollocks.

He took her number - should have deleted it. Then after he was mugged he decides the person he really wanted to shag was a random stranger?Hmm

EirikurNoromaour · 19/11/2013 21:31

Hmm
I also smell bullshit
I smelt bullshit on the car story, too. (I looked it up, sorry). There's something very weird about all this.

muffins · 19/11/2013 21:31

I have also been in a position where I was pregnant and found out DP had been chatting to other women. I think you know in your heart/gut the truth, whatever that may be. Sorry you are going through this OP

Katisha · 19/11/2013 21:32

Well it might be the truth but it still raises questions. Why would he want to contact her after the mugging for a start.

puntasticusername · 19/11/2013 21:40

Hmmmmmmmmmmm

If it is the truth, is it the whole truth and nothing but the truth?

Agree, something doesn't quite seem to add up here.

Original poster
Mrschocolate · 19/11/2013 21:43

Apparently he contacted her again because he needed a confidence boost.
Even if the story is true he was still talking to another woman even though he knew that she wanted something more than that.

OP posts:
LlamaLover · 19/11/2013 21:45

Hugs. How are you feeling? What do you want to do from here?

MistAllChuckingFrighty · 19/11/2013 21:46

What a moron he is. How can you stand him ?

I don't believe his original story actually (I remember it, and how dodgy it sounded) but people get mugged every single day. They don't then go sniffing round random members of the opposite sex for a "confidence boost"

he must think you are really, really stupid

TheRealAmandaClarke · 19/11/2013 21:48

Sorry mrschocolate
Take your time.

toffeesponge · 19/11/2013 21:49

How pathetic. He needed a confidence boost from a near stranger?