is DH being a dick or am I

[Mrschocolate]

DH thinks I am being daft and hormonal (I'm 7 months pregnant)
I think he is being annoying and if he carries on I will kill him.

He has spent the past two Sundays grumping because he wants different veg with his roast dinner. Between them my DCs will only eat sweetcorn, carrots and broccoli and because there is a limited time on Sunday I just make what they all like. But DH keeps saying he is bored, I have told him to make his own if it bothers him that much but he just says he doesn't want too.

Then yesterday I asked him to go and get some Xmas presents we have a set budget for each DC. I had set aside more money for my eldest two and less for the youngest two who are both 1 so they won't notice or remember and they will get lots off family anyway. DH agreed this with me. But yesterday he decided that it was unfair and spent loads on the youngest two and he bought some stuff which they already have. When I pointed this out to him he sulked for hours and refused to take them back.

But when I complain he says I am hormonal and just dismisses me as some mad pregnant woman. So AIBU or is he?

[toffeesponge]

In my book a wobbly is you forget to pick up his pizza or didn't put his wash on. Not all the shit he has dished out.

We will have to agree to disagree so that the OP thread does not become me and you arguing, Jolleigh.

[attheendoftheday]

Wow, what an enormous arse. Three lie ins in a row and you didn't get any? And you're pregnant? Horrendously selfish!

Regarding the rest, he's being petty over the veg and I'd just ignore it (if he brings it up again just repeat your offer to make his own), but he needs to return the excess presents.

The housework comment would piss me right off too. How can he possibly justify his expectation that, in addition to having all the lie ins, that he also expects ti have leisure time while you do the cleaning? Totally outrageous!

[KungFuBustle]

[passedgo]

1 year old twins two more, 7 months gone with the next AND you work two nights a week. Hats off to you girl.

You must be exhausted, but it does concern me that he might be goading you. Are there any other examples?

[DorothyBastard]

It doesn't sound like he is being a dick, more like he is a dick. A massive, total, permanent dick. A selfish, patronising, gaslighting dick.

[MadAsFish]

I only work two nights a week

Only? Only? You have four children, and are 7 months pregnant! This twat doesn't know he's alive. Needs a kick in the arse.

[Mrschocolate]

passedgo No more apart from the constant complaints about anything what's on tv, the weather,the cold, other drivers etc. It's like living with a stereotypical grumpy teenager really.

He has just come in made himself a cup of tea. Told me I forgot to buy tea bags and shouted at the dog. I told him he was supposed to buy those on Saturday and he said it was all my fault because I didn't tell him. I showed him that it was in fact on the list I gave him. He said he was fed up of my hormones. I said I was fed up of his attitude and he should just piss off back to his bloody shed. He stormed out and now I am in bed.
I swear I will kill him if he carries on.

[Anniegetyourgun]

A kind act could really bring him back to reality and make him realise he's been an arse.

A kind act like... letting him lie in for three days in a row, including the day he's supposed to take the kids swimming? Oh, she already did that. And he came back to reality and realised that... Muggins would do it all if he threw enough of a strop.

[Tikkamasala]

Blooming heck OP, its definitely your DH being the dick? He sounds horrendous, lazy and just a nasty piece of work. I hope he is not always like this? Seems to treat you as his servant?

[Anniegetyourgun]

Wait, wait, wait: he shouted because you didn't buy something when he is the one who went shopping and it was clearly on the list. And you're the one being blamed for being hormonal? You know, he is so doing this so he won't be expected to do anything at all when the next baby comes. You'll just be humbly grateful if he behaves a little less like a dick. At least that's the plan.

Don't exert yourself, you have quite enough to do already; just give me your address and I'll kill him for you, no trouble.

[Mrschocolate]

Urgh!!! He just came back in and told me that he should have the bed because he is working tomorrow. I told him to go to his mothers if he wants a bed but I was sleeping here. He said he would sleep on the sofa then but I was being unreasonable because he works so he deserves the bed as he paid for it. I told him to just go.
I can't believe he is being so horrid. He has never been like this before.

[ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged]

Wow. He is being horrid isn't he? Will you be able to sleep tonight? Is there anyone who can help with the kids tomorrow?

[Jolleigh]

Trying to chuck a pregnant woman out of her bed? I'm now with everyone else. Tell him to fuck off out.

[passedgo]

OK you've told us twice now that you'll kill him. You're getting there.

I'm not the best person to give advice as my relationship was much the same. Grumpy old man, trying to blame me whenever anything went wrong. I try to defend myself, he gets sulky or fights back. It all just gets worse rather than better.

Later I had to tell my children that this is not how normal people behave. Normal people say, eg, 'oh dear there aren't any teabags, shall I pop out and get some'.

As I said I'm not the best person to give advice but thank goodness you have a shed.

[QOD]

Wow. He's really got the arse and being an arse

Sorry op, no advice, my dh is a grumpy twat and I just go all passive aggressive on him. Doesn't solve anything though

[Kewcumber]

my idea not looking so far fetched now is it....

[Mrschocolate]

I will be fine tomorrow he isn't really there to get the DCs ready anyway.
Sleeping tonight will probably be okay too because the twins have been waking up early so I could use the sleep.

[passedgo]

X post. Your last post is just tragic. What a spiteful hateful man. Ask him whether he actually likes you? Because he is treating you like an enemy, not like the mother of his children. (x5)

[SoftKittyWarmKitty]

Fucking hell, he definitely needs to go to his mothers. Permanently.

[Mrschocolate]

I think I would rather he went to his mothers to be honest because she will tell him he is being a sick and will probably kick some sense into him.

[ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged]

Ha. I like the sound of his mother. Send him there.

[ocelot41]

I'm really so shocked by this - he PAID for the bed? What the hell is going on with this man? Is he panicking about no 5 coming so he's decided to revert to a (spoiled, mean) child himself? Honestly OP this is not normal behaviour....

[DrinkFeckArseGirls]

Sorry, OP not helpful but I always wondered why women keep this kind of sort at home. That's more work. And stress than doing it yourself.

[Mrschocolate]

This really isn't normal for him and I am worried that there is something much bigger going on that he is not telling me about.

[passedgo]

Perhaps you should ask him. He really should be ashamed of his behaviour, whatever the excuse. You are 7 months pregnant with his child. He should be worshipping the ground you walk on not making you sleep on the sofa.