is DH being a dick or am I

[Mrschocolate]

DH thinks I am being daft and hormonal (I'm 7 months pregnant)
I think he is being annoying and if he carries on I will kill him.

He has spent the past two Sundays grumping because he wants different veg with his roast dinner. Between them my DCs will only eat sweetcorn, carrots and broccoli and because there is a limited time on Sunday I just make what they all like. But DH keeps saying he is bored, I have told him to make his own if it bothers him that much but he just says he doesn't want too.

Then yesterday I asked him to go and get some Xmas presents we have a set budget for each DC. I had set aside more money for my eldest two and less for the youngest two who are both 1 so they won't notice or remember and they will get lots off family anyway. DH agreed this with me. But yesterday he decided that it was unfair and spent loads on the youngest two and he bought some stuff which they already have. When I pointed this out to him he sulked for hours and refused to take them back.

But when I complain he says I am hormonal and just dismisses me as some mad pregnant woman. So AIBU or is he?

[KeatsiePie]

Glad your MIL is someone you can rely on to be fair and supportive, don't hear that much around MN. That's really nice. Hope lunch went well.

And as everyone has said YWNBU, he was being ridiculous.

[captainmummy]

Can always rely on Joysmum to side with the abusive one!

OP - he needs the bed because he works. Whereas, with 4 dc, inc 1YO twins and being 7m pregnant - you obv don't.

Hope your MIL is on your side.

[eddielizzard]

difficult. find out from mil what prob is and tell her what's going on. the bed comment is horrible.

hugs to you - you're doing an amazing job!!

[whois]

Your DH is being a dick. HTH

[noseymcposey]

Agree that it sounds like there is more to it. I think assuming another woman is a bit of a leap but he does sound stressed/unhappy and you say yourself that this is how he behaves when he is stressed - and is otherwise out of character.

I hope a chat with the MIL helps shed some light on it.

[ZombieMojaveWonderer]

What a dick! Fire bomb the shed

[JinglingRexManningDay]

I have read this thread with my mouth gaping open. What gives this dick the idea that he can treat you like shit on his shoe?
I hope his mother read him the riot act and told him that he is abusing his wife,emotionally.

[HKat]

Hope you're ok OP. Did your MIL help?

[Halfrek]

Hope today went ok OP.

[Mrschocolate]

Thank you all
MIL agrees with me (and you). DH went straight to his mothers from work so I haven't seen him. I hope she is making him see sense.

[teaand5biscuits]

She OP I have just read your thread and I hope you are okay and you get it sorted.
It must be hard to have kept going all day for your DCs whilst thinking about your DH. Good luck to you

[puntasticusername]

Bloody hell. He is being...very strange. Mr PuntasticUsername agrees. Hope the intervention from his DM helps

[SabrinaMulhollandJjones]

OP I can't believe your posts - you have four ( four ) dc (incl 1yr old twins) and are 7mths pregnant? You must be knackered! Your husband is being a dick of the highest order. Sorry.

Let's hope his mother sorts him out.

Btw - a friend of mine has 4 dc including a set of twins, and I know that is exhausting - so hats off to you.

[Mrschocolate]

MIL has just called me to tell me that DH has some issues to think through so he won't be coming home tonight.
Apparently he will come home tomorrow afternoon and talk to me whilst MIL babysits.
I just feel so sad and I feel like he is just trying to torture me making me wait and worry about some giant issue.

[MistAllChuckingFrighty]

This Manchild is speaking to you through Mummy ? You tolerate this ?

Why don't you simply tell him to fuck off. Your life would be much easier, even if you do have loads of kids.

[CynicalandSmug]

I know this won't help but why on earth did you have children with this utter cock? I hope you salvage something. I guess you are happy with a lot of children. Best of luck to you. Maybe you should tell the husband to take a giant fucking hike though.

[Mrschocolate]

He isn't usually like this. He is usually a lovely man who does his fair share with the DCs. Which is really what makes this even more worrying.

[DifferenceEngine]

Take back control

Tell him to stay with mummy till you are ready to talk. Fuck dancing to his tune.

Arsebiscuit.

[Mrschocolate]

I would tell him to stay there but I really want to know what is going on. Even if it is another woman I just want to know so I can have a plan and get sorted.

[Katisha]

Ring him. Say you are not prepared to be made to spend the night wondering wtf is going on.

[Monty27]

FFs! What a prick!

[pianodoodle]

In the meantime you're left holding the fort while he does his "thinking" :(

So unfair. There would need to be some spectacularly good reason to be putting you through this shit although I have no idea what that would be.

I'd be tempted to make him wait until you're ready as differenceengine suggested.

[MistAllChuckingFrighty]

He's really done a number on you OP. Very sad to see a capable woman reduced to accepting communication through her partner's mummy and sitting nicely until he deigns to speak to her.

If you were near me I would come around and box your bloody ears.

My advice is do one of two things at this precise juncture

1. ring his mum's. Tell Prince Poncey to get home right now or you are done for good and he will be telling you what the fuck he is playing at
   
   
2. ring his mum's. Tell Prince Poncey you have cancelled tomorrow's summit meeting, to just send the child support cheques and you will be in touch in due course to arrange contact with his dc's
   
   Anything else right now is utter doormat behaviour and bodes very badly for any kind of crumbs of a future he is willing to offer you.

[wannabestressfree]

I hope your ok. What a worry and utterly cruel to make you wait until tomorrow. My thoughts are with you and have a hug

[lessonsintightropes]

Sorry he sounds like a total bit of a knobber tbh. I'm not sure bringing MIL into it would help, he might feel ganged up on, but I'd definitely need to make this into something serious and get him to change the way he's behaving. Good luck OP