was this woman bu to complain about my husband?

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My husband drives a van for work. Driving to work in the morning traffic and the car in front of him slowed down as the car in front of her was turning off left, the woman then waited to let another car pull out of the junction.

My husband beeped his horn at her and shook his head when she looked in her mirror at him.

When he got into work, later on that day the company had received a complaint about him - the woman had noted his licence plate and company name and sent them an email.

He now has a mark on his employment record.

Also when I was working I drove through a very big city everyday and if people didn't let people onto the main road from side roads the whole city would grind to a halt.

Whilst I know the horn shouldn't be used in the way the DH did. Neither should the woman in front rewrite the Highway Code! You DO NOT stop to allow minor route to join a major!! It's give way for the minor. It is for them to assess when to leave the junction. I'd be hesitant pulling out the minor road too!!! It's not the done thing to STOP on the MAJOR route.

No one behaved more oddly than anyone else. Gosh. Just get on with life!

Any guesses on how long it will be before anyone agrees with your husband, OP.

On this snippet about his behaviour he sounds like a selfish oaf but maybe he has some redeeming qualities. We'll done to the other driver for reporting him.

I do hope your DH learns from this and becomes a less aggressive driver in future.

Who was he beeing his horn at?

The woman who stopped or the driver she allowed out?

Either way seems neither of them could get out of the way easily/safely.

What was he hoping to achieve?

I wouldn't screech to a halt to let someone out from a minor road, that would be silly.

But it sounds like she'd slowed right down behind someone turning left, then rather than immediately speed up again, the woman let someone out first. TBH I do stuff like that all the time! It's a second of time lost, and might make someone else's journey a lot easier. It's a lot nicer being on the roads when you feel that everyone else is looking out for each other, rather than some horrible rat race.

But I do live up North, this might make a difference: the roads are much less congested. Though that is probably an argument for being more rather than less courteous, when you're driving in more difficult conditions.

Do you drive OP?

Well, if he'd tooted at me for letting someone out on a good day I'd have let another car (or two) pull out.
If he'd caught me on a bad day I'd have got out the car and asked what his problem was.

I do hope your DH learns from this and becomes a less aggressive driver in future

I bet he doesn't. Even if he gets reported again and loses his job I bet he'll still whine about it being someone else's fault.

Bzoo how often do you drive in a city at rush hour, there are very few gaps big enough to safely pull out in if nobody slows to let let people out.

The Highway Code really needs to make it clearer that the horn is there to get people to hurry up, OP. It would seem that most people, other than you and your husband, don't seem to understand this. I'm glad his company takes complaints of aggressive behaviour seriously. I love that you have only commented on the one response that more or less supports you. YABU but not as U as your white van driver husband.

I think I saw your husband today, I slowed down to turn into my drive (having signalled in good time) and he could not wait the extra couple of seconds so overtook me, neglecting to notice the oncoming traffic who had to slam on their brakes to avoid a head on collision. Doubtless he is still cursing me for causing the situation.

Bzoo, where do you live. There are many days I'd never leave my road or turn onto other road were it not for kind drivers that leave you out. It's normal in a city. When I go back to the S Wales town I'm from, no one lets anyone out.

He's up there on my list of twatish drivers that have the cheek to sound their horn at me when they think I should pull out of a junction/enter a roundabout. My car, my kids in it, my choice when I consider it safe to pull out. Sounding the horn only serves to make me wait longer

Oh for goodness sake, she slowed down anyway because a car was turning left, so it was no hardship to let one car enter the road.

Anyway, your Husband's 'reasoning' that the traffic was building up behind her and he wanted to make her aware of that is a pile of bollocks.

The traffic would have been building up behind the other woman too, if no fucker was going to let her onto the road.

What exactly was your husband trying to make the woman aware of? That he's a very, very important person and can't possibly tolerate a few seconds of his time being wasted?

The horn is not there to nag other drivers with.
He is a dick to behave that way - especially as driving is his livelihood.
Hopefully he's learnt something.

I'm not sure if I explained it well -

Woman in front of dh slowed down as the car in front of her was turning off into the minor road, she then waited for a different car to pull out of the minor road to get into the main road (in the opposite lane - no oncoming traffic)

The car pulling out was hesitant, so my husband beeped her for holding up traffic.

I also get the impression that if your DH had been behind the woman trying to enter the road, he would have beeped and her too for not edging out and being 'pushy' enough.

I don't know who asked and not sure why it is relevant but yes I do drive.

Yes I slow to let out if safe to do so. I I do not stop. I would also not want a car shunting up my rear end because it would not be anticipating me STOPPING on a major road

So he used his horn aggressively/incorrectly because he was held up for a few seconds, and she complained. The woman was quite right.

The thing to do when White Van Men behave like this is to slow right down. Really right down. Let everyone in. Make like it's Christmas. You can make the odd gesture back, y'know. Whatever gesture you might feel to be appropriate. Me, I like the wanker gesture. But they have to have started the gesturing first, for that to be appropriate.

Yes, you explained it quite clearly. Your husband's driving was still twattish.

The car pulling out was hesitant, so my husband beeped her for holding up traffic.

And now having 'told her off', he's whinging and bleating about being told off himself?

Aww bless

Time to down a big pint of Get the fuck over it...