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Who WBU? Mortifying train incident.

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MikeReepySpooksard · 03/11/2013 17:18

Ds, 15 months, has an unfortunate hair pulling habit. Today on the train he got hold of the hair of the teenage girl sitting in the seat behind his and yanked it. She screamed 'get the fuck off me' and glared at him. She kept turning round and glaring at him the rest of the journey.

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IamInvisible · 03/11/2013 22:38

As the OP, and presumably her DH, know that her toddler pulls hair they shouldn't have allowed him to stand on the seat and get close enough to pull the girl's hair, imo. Her DH should have been watching him really, really closely and stopped him as soon as he out his hand out. As he couldn't be bothered to do that, the decent thing was to apologise. But he couldn't be bothered to do that either.

Yes, I am a parent. Yes I have taken my DC on trains, buses and planes. No they have never pulled a stranger's hair.

Bigfingers · 03/11/2013 22:42

Neither have mine but it's hardly a stretch of the imagination that it might accidentally happen!!! Especially with an older DC to also watch really closely. Very unforgiving thread, this.

Screamqueen · 03/11/2013 22:43

I actually cant believe your DH didnt apologise OP!! Thats the most shocking thing about this, no matter it was a toddler and obviously they had no clue it was wrong, then in that case its the parents responsibility to apologise!

TheHouseonHauntedHill · 03/11/2013 22:44

the most shocking thing

Calm down dear, the whole thing really is not that shocking.

gobbynorthernbird · 03/11/2013 22:44

Oh lordy. Somebody yanks (ie pulls with some force) your hair on the train. Do you think 'I should be nice and polite, just in case', or ''who the fuck is that they have no business touching me they'd better let the fuck go'? The girl would have had no idea it was a toddler, the OP has no idea it was her toddler.

IamInvisible · 03/11/2013 22:45

Yes, Bigfingers accidents can happen. The decent thing to do is apologise.

gobbynorthernbird · 03/11/2013 22:48

Also, please remember that those of us with DCs are talking about how we would react to our DCs at the time. I have said (shouted) something along the lines of 'oh, fucking hell' when I was being headbutted by a DSC, and I could see who was doing that. I cannot imagine what my reaction would be if I didn't see it coming, or who it was coming from.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS · 03/11/2013 22:49

Oh my fucking days. Your 15 month old was not being unreasonable. What a shocking way for the teenager to address him. It was obviously just 'one of those things'. The girl has issues.

gobbynorthernbird · 03/11/2013 22:49

PS, I should point out that DSC was a tantrumming toddler at the time, and although they didn't mean to hurt me the action was deliberate.

fluffypillow · 03/11/2013 22:51

Oh boo hoo, the girl had her hair pulled by a baby. NO BIG DEAL. Total over reaction on the girls part, and she was very rude and nasty.

YANBU op.

TheGinLushMinion · 03/11/2013 22:51

Ffs Hmm she had her hair pulled by a small child , get a fucking grip love.
Yes the child was too close if he could reach but fuck me, over reaction much???

I would've apologised but then drawn her a map to the other side of fuck for glaring repeatedly at my 15 month old ...

gobbynorthernbird · 03/11/2013 22:55

Again, she didn't know her hair was pulled by a child.

Bigfingers · 03/11/2013 22:57

Yes he should have apologised but maybe he was a bit taken aback by her reaction, and his first impulse was to check what his other older DC had heard, etc etc, then the moment has passed. Just think it's all a fairly understandable situation and can't see why anyone would get so angry at the op and her dh!

TheGinLushMinion · 03/11/2013 22:59

I could give less than a shit if she knew-she knew when she turned around which is the point she should've been embarrassed by her twatty reaction Hmm
She certainly knew while she continued glaring at the child, no?

Mimishimi · 03/11/2013 23:02

If the parent knows the toddler has a hair pulling habit and hasn't taken adequate measures to prevent it happening (eg reading a book or playing with their phone whilst leaving said toddler to their own devices), the parent.

Her language wasn't great but I'd excuse it for the fright she probably got.

gobbynorthernbird · 03/11/2013 23:03

How did she know it was the kid and not the fully grown bloke?

TheGinLushMinion · 03/11/2013 23:08

Geez, I am an actual gobby northern bird but I think faced with a bloke & a toddler I'd have thought ''shit that was an over reaction" & realised it was most likely the small child who was responsible...

gobbynorthernbird · 03/11/2013 23:09

Facing away so you couldn't see who it was?

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS · 03/11/2013 23:10

She gave a 15 month old repeated 'evils' throughout the journey. As I said, she has issues.

gobbynorthernbird · 03/11/2013 23:12

She gave parents of a 15 mo evils. Don't give women shit for speaking out when they are touched by strangers.

HaroldLloyd · 03/11/2013 23:13

IT WAS A TODDLER.

gobbynorthernbird · 03/11/2013 23:14

SHE DIDN'T KNOW IT WAS A TODDLER

TheGinLushMinion · 03/11/2013 23:16

}{ this is a grip, please take it Grin

HaroldLloyd · 03/11/2013 23:17

I would rather a Brew Grin

DownstairsMixUp · 03/11/2013 23:17

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