JoinYP.....Christ, you make me absolutely die. Can you read? Because the fact I've already addressed everything you keep incorrectly harping on about makes me wonder if you can see the rest of the thread. You sound very well informed. Thank you for making me laugh.
Drop Your Sword...you are spot on. And excellent examples of where genuine insight and fact from me is then twisted by another poster and then they insist that's what I said in the first place. Nice to see how obvious this is to you too. There's a lot of selective reading going on here :)
There's a distinction between fact and opinion. Not that this should need pointing out. All this, oh these are just your opinions...is rubbish. These are factual experiences that unless you have worked for extended periods of time as a dancer, no amount of "interviews" or "research" will even come close too.
My opinion is that guys that use strip clubs are mugs. It is fact that I (yes I...not every dancer in the land, ME) did not ever meet a woman that did not want to be working there. And over the years, I worked with hundreds.
Writer...re security, that's a bit of a strange one. Firstly, it's not a bunch of grizzly bears who haul men out and beat them up if they upset the dancers, as so many think. Don't get me wrong, security are hugely protective of the girls. But they get tipped at the end of the night by the girls, so they basically see what they want too. If they know a girl is a dirty dancer, but they know if they keep quiet she'll tip them £50 at the end of the night, then they ignore what they see her doing.
There's a lot of misinterpretation about this "strict morals" business, so perhaps I didn't put it in the right context. This is one of the ways being a former dancer has affected me, but I think in a good way. Womban got what was I was saying immediately, if you look back, she says she became very prudish too.... What I found is that close contact and nudity had very little value to me. I had the same routine for every dance, the music started, I'd go through the same routine, done. Like cinema, they paid the money, sat there, watched the show. You don't even notice you're naked, when you've done that same routine, with the same facial expressions, the same flicks of the hair, thousands of times. There's nothing personal, it's just another customer, and three minutes later, you're done with them. When I met my DP, I was very aware of every time he touched me. We dated and saw each other nearly every day for 3 months before I slept with him. Non dancer friends would laugh at how I could get naked and put on a show for a customer but would act in such the opposite manner in my personal life. It's like because any guy could come in the club and pay to see me. Sometimes they'd pay thousands. So for someone I liked in my personal life to touch me became a huge deal for me. Having even a cuddle is something I'm very protective of. I'm still like this now. I'm really not explaining this very well, but all of my dancer friends are the same. We are very loyal to our men, most of us have jealousy issues (I can deal with these so they are not problematic, but boy, they are still there), as for being tarts, it's quite the opposite. Again, I speak about clean dancers, I know the dirty dancers would often go home with customers, and frequently have one night stands.