I'm not saying It's empowering at all-hang on I think I actually said earlier that the only 'empowerment' I feel is the fact that, well I'm up at 230 am now having a glass of wine and engaging in an interesting conversation, because I can. I don't have to get up early tomorrow . I find it 'freeing' to be a stripper, more than empowering-because I believe in working smarter, not harder. Everyone needs money-and if I can earn in 2 nights what most people earn in 5 days, then I will take the former option. That might be slightly empowering (not my choice of word, though).
I guess I kind of do it for my own pleasure, but not sexual pleasure. I strip because it means that I'm free five days a week and don't have to worry about money or time off or nasty bosses... Those sorts of things havecaused me stress in the past.
As for wiggling your bits, that's a very personal perception.
Okay last time I worked, I only 'danced' for customers for 2 hours in total.This is a pretty typical night. I basically sat on laps, talked, teased my clothes off, pretended I was turned on for certain customers (my regulars aren't bothered!) moved around on the sofas a fair bit to give them different views of my body. Posed on a pole.
Whilst I was doing this, I'm acting. In the back of my mind I'm thinking about other things sometimes, I'm finding funny things to talk about-I'm listening to the guy and trying to make it entertaining, I make him feel good about himself.
As for aspirations, I find it amusing and a bit weird-but I actually did. I went to a strip club on a male friend's birthday and I was in awe of the beautiful women in there, and one of them asked why didn't I do it?I said 'I never could!' I was insecure about my looks and generally , myself.
She said I could and asked me to talk to the manager . I didn't. Then a series of shitty life circumstances happened, and I couldn't stop thinking about doing it-just as a thing to do once to say I had, kind of thing.
I thought about it loads and loads and decided to give it a go.
In between being a stripper I've worked other jobs related to my degrees (I have a BA and an MA) and done a bunch of other things, and I did other jobs before I stripped, I honestly much, much prefer being a dancer-It's not about wiggling your bits 95% of the time, It's acting, making men (and women!) have an experience they're happy with, being a bubbly, fun, attentive person. I sometimes return home from work and my cheeks ache from laughing so much-a lot of strippers are hilarious people, they're a breed of their own. And sure I've met a lot of screwed up girls . But I've also met some of the most intelligent, caring, funny women ever. I feel very lucky to have been able to experience being a stripper. I'm not trying to glorify it, this is just one person's experience. I have never once felt exploited doing the job I do.