to be upset that they googled the price of the bottle of wine I bought to the Mum's social?

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DS has just started primary school. As I work full-time, I've never had much opportunity to meet other local mums, though I know some of them to nod to. Last Friday, one of the mothers organised a social (bring a bottle) at her house and invited all the P1 mums.

It wasn't the best evening for me - I only had 5 minutes to change as I was late back from work, and felt a bit of a mess. Everyone seemed to know each other and made no effort to include me, and one woman had this pointed conversation about how easy one child was - I don't find it easy :( I bought a bottle with me (obviously) - just grabbed quickly from the rack at home. I was given a glass of something I didn't like much - but obviously I didn't say that!! I was driving, so I only had the 1 glass.

Anyway, one of the mums I know slightly through work told me that after I had left a few of the mums there were pretty smashed and googled how much my wine cost. Apparently they have been posting silly comments about it on facebook all week - and it is "the" in-joke of the moment.

Is this normal behaviour? Am I being silly to feel so upset about this? DS seems to have settled well into school, but I can't help think that maybe it was a mistake to send him there if this is how the MOTHERS behave!

It' what the op drinks. It's what she likes to drink. She obviously doesn't think it is expensive. So what? I think it would be ridiculous to go and buy a cheap bottle to prove a point, if 30 isn't an issue for her.

It's pathetic they googled it tbh.

Wish my friends would bring 30 dollar bottles of wine

It isn't pathetic they googled it. I've googled wine I've had in restaurants or wine that has been brought to a party if I really liked it to find out where it came from. It's what they did next that is reprehensible, even if they did think the op is a snooty cow their behaviour is worse.

I would take a £30 bottle - because I'd do as the OP did, grab a bottle from the rack on the way out. No point taking a bottle to a social event if it's not one you'd normally drink! I think it would be v odd to have a separate stash of wine "for taking to places". I cook with my "drinking" wine too.

I wouldn't mind if someone googled it either - but then I live in a wine region so all my bottles are from local wineries, it would be fairly easy to identify!

Agree that the childish in-jokes / fb nonsense that followed is what is unreasonable here. At least you didn't waste the really good stuff on them OP :-)

I'm in Scotland Bisjo and there are plenty of nannies drop off and pick up at DC's school.

Oh and I agree with a PP who said there were horrendous double standards on here. Its embarrassing.

So disappointed by this thread and YA all BU! Please don't drink and drive. If you had lost loved ones by other people thinking drinking and driving was okay you would not be so blasé.

alcoholism.about.com/od/dui/a/impaired.htm

www.drinkaware.co.uk/check-the-facts/alcohol-and-the-law/drink-driving

www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/2096.aspx?CategoryID=87

I was driving, so I only had the 1 glass.

Op's exact words.

And you have no idea how long she was there either...

Off topic, but am genuinely curious about this. If you only have the one child, what do you and the nanny do all day?

What a waste of a good wine on such rude people :(
I can vouch for Naked Wines, we've been using them for about 18 months now. Sign up to be an angel and get discounts on what you buy too :)

They do sound like bitches. Another vote for naked wines. We've had lovely stuff v reasonably . Done it for 2 years only had one we didn't like so they swapped it.

You don't know how long she was there either, pumpkin. Please see the links to understand why "just one glass" is not okay.

I agree re the "it was only 1glass"comments. Might be legal but far more responsible and safer to stick to none when driving.

Vivacia - the OP works full time. That's why she and dh have a nanny.

Or do you think they should they leave 'just the one child' home alone with the wine rack?

OP - these women sound like bitches and it's understandable you're upset by their behaviour.

Ime it becomes difficult to fit in with the school gate clique when you work full time. I gave up the effort pretty quickly - no great loss, I had little in common and that was without knowing what might be going on behind my back.

Fgs over the glass of wine and driving. The body takes approximately an hour to burn off a glass of wine. The OP was undoubtedly there longer than that and would have been perfectly safe to drive.

Again, I refer you to the links, torr. Even if you were correct about the body taking an hour, what makes you think she stayed another hour after finishing the glass?

Torrorosso, Or do you think they should they leave 'just the one child' home alone with the wine rack?

Yes, yes obviously that's the logical conclusion of my question(!).

Back in reality, what does the nanny do all day whilst the child is at school?

What on earth do you mean Vivacia? Op works full time.

Bit of laundry, bit of cleaning, maybe a second nanny job?

What a bizarre thing to pick up on. And seeing as ops child has only been at school for a few weeks, it's entirely likely she's only there for three hours a day.

We don't know how long she stayed, but unlikely she drank a glass of plonk and left immediately. She's clearly an intelligent and sensible woman rather than a reckless drink-driver.

She may have a nanny, but she doesn't need the nanny state coming down over her perfectly legal decision to have one drink at a social event.

Lol. You NOBEND. Thirty quid? You're making a rod for your own back.

I am hardly the nanny state, just someone whose life has been affected by someone who thought it was ok to drink and drive. Please educate yourself on the scientific facts instead of making spurious and nonsensical political arguments.

What a bizarre thing to pick up on. I know reality! I would have thought that somebody who does a bit of child minding and a bit of cleaning would be an au pair, or mother's help. Somebody who drops the child off at school would be a child minder or friend-doing-me-a-favour. "Nanny" puts me in mind of a qualified professional with a full time role within the family home.

I can't believe people are turning on you, OP. As if you bringing a £30 bottle without knowing that wasthe price was somehow a deliberate attempt to rub the other mothers' noses in your relative wealth. I don't earn much but after I got married, I had a few expensive bottles of wine in the house because they were presents.

Nobody has the right to judge someone's intentions like that.

Scotland surely the body starts metabolising the wine from the first sip, rather than the last?!