To have 3 children sharing a bedroom?

[fedupandexhausted]

My eldest had a friend to play on Friday and told her she felt sorry for her because she has to share with her sisters.

They do moan abit sometimes as one is tidier than the others but generally is ok. We only have one bathroom which isn't prob at the moment but may be in the future??

We could afford a larger house but have decided against due to costs and hassle.

But, this comment is niggling me.....Aibu?

[ifyourehoppyandyouknowit]

Shit for the 16 year old, presumably the 1 year old will still be waking in the fairly regularly? Why not just keep the one year old in your bedroom?

[ALittleStranger]

Yes and look around you amicissimma, I'm guessing you live in the first world. First world problems are problems here.

Oh well, your kids, your family's loss. But no child of mine etc. Seriously, I think it's shitty. And selfish of their parents, the baby doesn't stay with them but their near-adult daughter has to suffer? Nice!

[livinginwonderland]

Pretty much everything on MN is a first world problem

[stopprocrastinating]

My mum grew up sharing a bedroom with her two sisters. She shared till she got married. Mum always enjoyed the company and it was the norm then (1950s). I think it's okay, but perhaps standards have changed?

[5madthings]

I think age wise it could be a problem, I have 14 and 11 yr olds in one room and 8 and 5 year olds in another, that works fine but I wouldn't put a baby and one is a baby, in a too, with a teen.

[Akray]

Have 5DC. Baby in with me and DH. Other 4 have their own rooms with king size / super king beds and by choice, 3DD share a bed in one room - ages 11, 5 and 3 - they just seem to like snuggling up at night. DS has always liked his own space (age 8) and sleeps alone most of the time though occasionally 3year old will sleep beside him. Bedrooms just used for sleeping with all toys etc in playroom and as long as all sleeping and happy, they can sleep where they like . I think it's lovely that by choice they sleep together........

[Butwilliseeyouagain]

I feel bloody sorry for a 16 year old sharing with a 7 and 1 year old. That sounds shit.

[ringaringarosy]

surely it depends on the 1 yr old?maybe they sleep through,my first two never woke in the night once they got past about 6 weeks,personally i would keep the 1 yr old in my room too but i say that as someone who has plenty f rooms but still chooses to co sleep with at least 2 of them every night!

[Trigglesx]

I don't see that having a 16yo and a couple younger children in one room are an issue. If I had that situation, then I would let the 16yo go into my bedroom when they needed to study. It's really not that complicated.

[WorrySighWorrySigh]

The OP has said that they could afford to move for more space but choose not to as they dont want the expense or the hassle.

This is fine so long as the children are happy. It stops being find and becomes selfish behaviour if the children arent happy.

For some children privacy is important, having a room that you can go to away from others does matter for some. This isnt about being granted some space to do X/Y/Z it is having space which is ones own.

The problem for older children is that if a room is normally shared then whenever they want some privacy there will be a gaggle of siblings outside the door saying What are you doing? That isnt privacy.

[gotthemoononastick]

I had three girls sharing.They fought like rattlesnakes sometimes.They had chalk lines designating their spaces.They read and sang in bed and told stories too.They are on three continents now and truly joined at the heart.

[Miabelle12]

Hi there,
Just looking for some advice really, I live in a 2 bedroom apartment with 3 children.. all girls.
My eldest is 13, middle 7 and youngest 1.
My eldest seems to be constantly stressed out with the other 2 and frustrated over getting quiet time for homework etc. I just wonder what are the guidelines to qualify for a 3 bedroom? I have searched the internet time and time again but only find guidelines for two children sharing, can anyone help? Thanks so much In advance for taking the time to help.