This is just a rant, really. They were in my dream last night so I've been stewing on it this morning.
I thought they were friends of ours, his wife was (I thought) my best friend but with hindsight they were just users, they used to come here for dinner and drinks almost every weekend and leave their DD here, for example, the favour was never returned.
When we were planning our wedding, they asked me if their DD could be a bridesmaid and if he could be our photographer (he isn't a professional, just a hobbyist), a few months down the line they said, oh as payment for being your photographer you can pay for our room at the hotel. I have no idea why I went along with this but I think I genuinely thought they had our best interests at heart and were doing us a favour. The room was about £250 I think, a family room for them and their DD. We also invited her parents (and paid for a meal etc) as they asked us to.
So, the wedding photos were predictably awful, we had a list of family shots we wanted and none of them happened, I have no photos of my sisters at my wedding, for example, and loads of photos of his wife and DD.
He spent a good ten minutes staging a shot that made it look like DH was snogging my mother (with the camera angle), and fucking PHOTOSHOPPED one of DH and my mum dancing to move DH's hand onto my mum's arse. These were the shots he was most proud of and plastered them all over Facebook.
We had to wait about six months for any copies of our photos, and he charged us a fortune for some framed shots, it's only now I work for a print company that I realise how much he ripped us off on those. We asked him literally every weekend for a good six months about the photos before he eventually gave us a disc with them on, and arranged the framed prints at the same time. He charged us £100 for each print, they were framed in plastic frames from Wilkos.
So as not to dripfeed, this is the man who broke into my house and assaulted me while I slept, a couple of years after the wedding. We obviously dont' see him any more and he was arrested for it although not charged. She hasn't spoken to me since and 'can't forgive me' for calling the police. She blanks me at school and Scouts although still has a cheery hello for DH.
So obviously I have that context to it. But I am fixating on the wedding stuff this morning. I am really fucking angry about it and need to have a big old AIBU rant.
They are cunts, aren't they? Or is it me?
AIBU?
to really hate this couple?
Reality · 05/10/2013 09:54
Jesus Christ, OP. These people are utter cunts. You've explained what they've done very matter of fact-ly and we are all appalled. To relieve the anger and hatred you rightly feel, tell mutual friends and acquaintances what you've told us. Not with spite, bitchiness or malice, just when these people come up in conversation. Remain dignified, tell the truth and others will see how utterly awful they are.
Yanbu! I remember your thread from when that cunt assaulted you in your sleep 
which was awful enough without the photograph thing! I hate both of them too and I have never even met them!
I think you should go for the counselling, it will help you so much to unburden yourself and work through the stuff swirling around in your head. They are a pair of arseholes who will go through life shitting on people, they will get what they deserve because these things always come out. You seem to be surrounded by lovely people which is exactly what you deserve 
Oh Reality. .I remember that thread too. I agree with others. It's life changes isn't it? I've just started a job after 11 years sahm and wierdly find myself constantly reassessing my relation ship with my Mum. New light and all that?
You are on my fb (or I'm on yours which ever way you look at it 
) you have a lovely little Reality family and a ton of friends who clearly care about you.
I wish some higher authority could make them apologise to put your mind at rest.
This man is allowed to be around other people's children in a leadership role? Taking photos of them? Putting his filthy hand on your son to 'adjust' his scarf? I would spontaneously combust if a man who had assaulted me even came within a 10 mile radius of my son, let alone touched him.
How do these filthy scumbags get away with it?
Reality
:(
it sounds fucking awful what they put you through, yes, they are cunts, and yes, they deserve the biggest slaps going.
but while I'm here:
"Something DH picked up on and reminded me of this morning is that I earned a funded scholarship to a fantastic school and my parents wouldn't let me go because, mainly, they wouldn't be able to afford to send my sister( and she wouldn't win a scholarship herself.) "
pretty similar to what happened in my family, but at least (finding out the correct details when I was an adult), mine's not quite so bad.
My sister took the entrance exam for the High School and failed it.
I really, really wanted to go to the High School (fucking swot), and I begged them to let me take the exam, and they wouldn't let me "because you'll fail like your sister did and you'll be disappointed"
I know I wouldn't have got a scholarship, because they were very hard to get, but I hated my parents for years for that (not letting me try)
my sister revealed a couple of years ago that she failed deliberately because she knew mum and dad couldn't afford to let her go, and mum revealed that she wouldn't let me take it because she knew damn well I'd pass and couldn't put me through knowing that and not being able to go to the school because of cost.
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