4 children 4 dads

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One of my close friends is expecting her 4th baby. She is getting a lot of stick from other people in our group of friends, and even some strangers, because the 4 children have different dads.

AIBU not to see this as an issue? She is a fab mum to the 3 she has. What business is it of other people and does it matter?

Peach all I could utter reading about father a and b was WTF - I will never be able to get my head round this sharing of intimacies amongst direct family members.

At OP, YANBU and good on you for not being a false friend. Many would judge probably even me but we all have our own lives to live. Consciousness only knows the choices I have made in life would have angels weeping...

for kotinka

Well as a child of an '8 by 3' mother I have to say that I would judge. Not from a morality point of view but from the point of view of the children.

In an IDEAL world, children would grow up with both parents raising them in the same home, in a secure, solid, loving relationship which the child can later model on for his/her own life. To have not been able to do that with 3 children and 3 different fathers, would make me wonder how long the relationship will last with the father of her 4th DC and what the fall out will be again on her older DCs. She certainly seems to be prioritising herself above her DC which is very sad. I wonder what father figure she had herself?

Children really need to grow up knowing and having close contact with their fathers if at all possible. I believe it is a biological need that only came apparent to me when I became a parent myself. My mother stopped him having contact and the split was very acrimonious.

Why would you repeatedly subject your DC to rejection (father figure leaves/no contact from real father) and loss? I am assuming all her previous relationships ended amicably for the children not to have been affected? Unfortunately it is the MOTHER's responsibility as she is the one ultimately 'carrying the can'.

Wonder how the oldest will feel about it when they are older? As DCs we accept almost anything to enable us to survive. The shit hits the fan when we become adults and realise how much we have been screwed up!

Kot Just seen your above comment. Thank you, I'm fine though. Just think it would be better if thread was deleted as dont need my family set up on the net unless MNHQ will delete my posts.

SP, report your post and write why in message.

Darius Danesh in case he feels left out, although quite the opposite of tight pants.

WTF!

Its like a mini hotdog in a mini bun.

a lot like this

I would have expected more to be fair.
Could be a grower, I suppose.

Baby meerkats!

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Speaking of hedgethings, made me roar with laughter the other day when someone posted it to cheer Chaos up.

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Wow - so many mistakes in my first post! Whoops! :-D

*5 kids by 3 dads
*Dad of oldest daughter DIED after she was born

I hate iPhones!

I have to say though, most of my judgement is reserved for any dad who fathers these kids and then fucks off. At least these so-called "4x4's" are bothering to stick around and raise these kids!