4 children 4 dads

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One of my close friends is expecting her 4th baby. She is getting a lot of stick from other people in our group of friends, and even some strangers, because the 4 children have different dads.

AIBU not to see this as an issue? She is a fab mum to the 3 she has. What business is it of other people and does it matter?

So sorry Quint. Don't worry - there can't be many people on here who can honestly say they haven't ever taken an unfair pop at someone just to lance an emotional boil of some sort, and get rid of a bit of pent up rage; I know I have. Very good of you to apologise. Let's all move on now - no more recriminations.

Thanks for understanding.
I just felt I had to come back here cap in hand and all.

By now I think this thread has just about everything.

We just need a little Woody Allen.

This thread even has a weather report

No Quint, it isn't an excuse.
My Dad died on Wednesday, I'm 35 with no parents, I shan't be using it as an excuse to be downright nasty to others.
Those thoughts came from somewhere.

Sorry for your loss, Quint. I hope the funeral brings you some comfort and good memories.

Big hugs to you quint. I am so sorry.

Sorry for your loss Netto.

for Netto. Sorry to hear that.

Netto,sorry about your Dad.

Can we move on.

This thread hasn't been pleasant for a lot of mnetters.

So sorry Quint and Netto.

So Sorry about your dad Netto, be good to yourself.

"I am feeling really embarrassed over the views I expressed here yesterday. Not my finest moment. I should have stayed off MN in the sort of mood I was in, rather than spewing bile on innocent people."
QuintessentialShadows

I feel the same way about the posts I made yesterday, only I don't have any real excuse, a shitty week does not justify what I posted.

I re-read what I had written and do not recognise myself.

Really sorry to all those I upset and offended.

I think I can feel a Kumbaya coming on. Finally. Thank fuck for that.

Get in a circle everyone.

Is it a circle of drinking gin?

I dont hold grudges but this thread went too far

I probably would judge, quietly. 2x2 easily done, just bad luck. 3x3 starting to look like you're a bad picker of men, 4x4 and its almost like a habit, want baby regardless of effect on your family. It's hArd enough to give 3 children attention if you in a couple, let alone unfortunate to be doing it alone. 4 is too much. Poor kids.

Netto

No twerking to Kumbaya, SP!

I have a friend who has 6 kids, 5 by different fathers, 3 of whom live with her Ex MIL!! I don't agree with her life style choices, of her kids being with MIL (who loves them like her own!), or her choices to have a baby "to keep the man"......BBUT.....I would NEVER voice my opinons to her unless her kids were at risk physically etc.....emotionally I fear they will be fairly screwed up later but its still not my place to comment unless asked (which she won't cos she knows I say what I mean if asked!!)

The original post was designed to create a thread that went too far.