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AIBU?

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Original poster

To point out that you do not need to be a twat when replying to people's posts.

250 replies

Tweasels · 01/10/2013 14:02

I'm more than sure I've done this myself and I think especially when you're new it may feel the best way to throw yourself into AIBU but it's getting ridiculous.

Some pointers:

  1. read the thread. If it's too long, read the OP's posts at the very least. There is a way to customise so you can highlight the OP's posts to make this easier (on the desktop site, not sure about the app).

  2. if you think the person is being unreasonable, tell them so in a PLEASANT manner and give reasons why.

  3. Give your own opinion not that of the 15 twats posters before you.

  4. Just because you can lift your 6 children out of the car without opening the doors doesn't mean the OP is unreasonable because she finds getting one baby out of a cramped space hard.

  5. forgetting to put something in a post and adding it soon after is not drip feeding, it's helpful.

  6. if someone is being an utter twat, do by all means highlight what they've said to make them sound like a twat. Just make sure you've RTFT first!

Any other pointers welcome Grin

OP posts:
Maryz · 01/10/2013 23:24

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MrRected · 01/10/2013 23:32

Well I have been a prize TWAT on here in the past 24 hours. I offered a reasonable - BUT DISSENTING view on a thread. To be fair very few people even mentioned my opinion - which is fine by me - I was responding to the OP. There is always one though.

After 11 years on this site I totally cracked it and told somebody to fuck off. I don't regret it. If somebody had been such a bitch to me in RL I would have done the same.

ZingWantsCake · 01/10/2013 23:34

she wasn't a bitch MrRected,
you overreacted.

and your post was deleted for a good reason..

MrRected · 01/10/2013 23:43

Actually she was a bitch. IMO.

Original poster
Tweasels · 01/10/2013 23:50

Oi. No calling anyone a bitch on my thread. I'm a dictator don't you know!

MrRected I wasn't on the thread so I don't know the ins and outs but whether you're right or wrong it's just not cricket to talk about someone in that way when they can't put their side forward.

I think we're all a little emotional at the minute.

OP posts:
justmyview · 01/10/2013 23:50

ZingWantsCake - fair enough, didn't realise people did it for a reason. Mark away, in that case

Balaboosta · 01/10/2013 23:51

Twunts, cunts, twats, prats and twits - bring em on! One and all, part of life's rich tapestry and the wonderful cacophony of voices - some strident, some dulcet - that is MN. For failing to embrace this, YABU. But for standing up for civility - have Cake

MrRected · 01/10/2013 23:53

Perhaps I will get myself deleted twice in one day. Fuck I have the rage about some random person on the Internet presuming to have any clue about my life.

I realise that this is all totally mad.

Virtual rubbernecking has lost it's appeal.

Balaboosta · 01/10/2013 23:54

A non-sequitur obvs. I have RTFT but went off to stew on it in the bath.

MrRected · 01/10/2013 23:55

Sorry OP for derailing.

nickelbabe · 01/10/2013 23:56

I totally agtee agree with you, teasels.

and am desperate to know who you really are.

(but ob iously have not readthefucking thread because it's 5 pGees and I should have been asleep 3 hkirs ago•

and fuck it I cannot type on this shitting tablet with its touch screen

Original poster
Tweasels · 01/10/2013 23:56

What a beautifully written post. I'll take your cake with thanks and eat it in the civilised manner you'd expect from me.

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Original poster
Tweasels · 01/10/2013 23:57

That was to Balaboosta btw

OP posts:
juneybean · 01/10/2013 23:58

Ah ha! So I wasn't being inwardly aggressive to read RTFT as read the fucking thread. Some softer MNers read it as "read the full thread"

nickelbabe · 01/10/2013 23:58

and I just got your namechange comment Blush

AnaisHendricks · 02/10/2013 00:00
Original poster
Tweasels · 02/10/2013 00:06

MrRected - no apology needed and I'm happy to be derailed. New day tomorrow eh. People just misunderstand stuff on here. It wouldn't have been personal I'm sure. I just know I wouldn't like being called a bitch from another thread.

nickelbabe, I'm just me. Sorry to disappoint. I'm so unknown I can say this shit without bothering to namechange ha ha. Now off to sleep with you Smile

OP posts:
poppingin1 · 02/10/2013 01:45

"...it can he annoying when someone posts AIBU and then proceeds to get the hump when told yes you are,

if 15 posters have already said the same as me then it just means there's a consensus of opinions, so what!

I always lift all my children through the sunroof so what's your point re the door?

fucking HATE drip feeds, i.e ' my mil ignored everything I say and is rude and on page fucking 6 we are told that 'mil is profoundly deaf!!'

highlighting sentences is aggressive but fun."

Yup, that about sums it up.

ginslinger I never knew how deep in denial some people live till I joined MN.

If you ever see me becoming the OP of a thread entitled "I know IABU but...", PM me a slap will you Grin

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 02/10/2013 06:17

I think it's very amusing that some people oj the thread are accusing the OP of censorship and in effect fighting for the right to be a twat Grin

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 02/10/2013 06:18

Err on the thread. .it's early

Pagwatch · 02/10/2013 06:38

What do we want?....to be a twat....when do we want it....NOW!

OrchidLass · 02/10/2013 06:52

YANBU but it's clear that some people enjoy it. The passive aggressive ones are the worst, they make me cringe because the poster obviously considers themselves very clever when in fact they've made themselves look like a prize nob.

Sparklingbrook · 02/10/2013 06:58

I think it's time for 'T**t-Free Wednesday'. What does everyone think?

Fenton · 02/10/2013 07:26

That would be lovely Sparkling, I mean twat-free every day would be great but too much to hope for.

At least if it was Twat-Free Wednesday it would break up the week a bit.

Gets my vote.

usualsuspect · 02/10/2013 07:27

I think Spsrklingbrook should type twat.

Go on be a devil.