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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To point out that you do not need to be a twat when replying to people's posts.

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Tweasels · 01/10/2013 14:02

I'm more than sure I've done this myself and I think especially when you're new it may feel the best way to throw yourself into AIBU but it's getting ridiculous.

Some pointers:

  1. read the thread. If it's too long, read the OP's posts at the very least. There is a way to customise so you can highlight the OP's posts to make this easier (on the desktop site, not sure about the app).

  2. if you think the person is being unreasonable, tell them so in a PLEASANT manner and give reasons why.

  3. Give your own opinion not that of the 15 twats posters before you.

  4. Just because you can lift your 6 children out of the car without opening the doors doesn't mean the OP is unreasonable because she finds getting one baby out of a cramped space hard.

  5. forgetting to put something in a post and adding it soon after is not drip feeding, it's helpful.

  6. if someone is being an utter twat, do by all means highlight what they've said to make them sound like a twat. Just make sure you've RTFT first!

Any other pointers welcome Grin

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expatinscotland · 01/10/2013 20:26

And a Hide the Twat function.

And a Sing Kumbaya emoticon.

Maryz · 01/10/2013 20:26

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LittleMissWise · 01/10/2013 20:31

Bore is very naughty!

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BoreOfWhabylon · 01/10/2013 20:33

Bjullying bjitchezzzz!

tharsheblows · 01/10/2013 20:35

expat - a sing Kumbaya button (like 'report this post') that makes someone acting twattishly have to listen to a chorus of the song before being allowed to post a message. For each additional person that presses the button, a verse is added.

BoreOfWhabylon · 01/10/2013 20:36

Your second scenario makes me particularly stabby, Maryz.

BoreOfWhabylon · 01/10/2013 20:36

Love the kumbaya button!

Tweasels · 01/10/2013 20:37

Me too Maryz. The second example especially.

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Highlander · 01/10/2013 20:40

Twatish behaviour on a thread is vaire entertaining Grin

tharsheblows · 01/10/2013 20:41

Although I love AIBU when someone is being treated unreasonably and everyone helps her stand up for herself. I think AIBU is worth it just for that. WIBU to use the empowering? I don't think so.

ZingWantsCake · 01/10/2013 20:43

is banter allowed?

TheBigJessie · 01/10/2013 20:44

If saying "RTFT" qualifies as sanctimonious, though, then, what on this site doesn't? What percentage of content is sanctimony-free?

10%?

Sparklingbrook · 01/10/2013 20:45

No Zing banter is not allowed, at all, ever. You aren't even allowed to think banterish things.

ZingWantsCake · 01/10/2013 20:47

there should be sub-topic on Arts & Crafts dedicated solely to cunting bunting.

Maryz · 01/10/2013 20:47

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Tweasels · 01/10/2013 20:47

Banter is definitely allowed. I think derailment (on appropriate threads) is the best way of keeping the twats at bay. It doesn't half rile them though.

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ZingWantsCake · 01/10/2013 20:50

Sparkling
how about teasing?
or joshing?
what about offering Cake?

Tweasels · 01/10/2013 20:50

One of the people who has been less than pleasant to me on this thread once told me to RTFT (I had btw) so I can only assume maybe only certain people are allowed to be sanctimonious.

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ZingWantsCake · 01/10/2013 20:51

MaryZ

stop derailing the thread about derailing and banter! tsk tsk

Wink
Sparklingbrook · 01/10/2013 20:51

Bribing you mean Zing. Not sure about bribing. Teasing is too open to being misconstrued i think.

Joshing is good but the joshee may be offended.

Maryz · 01/10/2013 20:52

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