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To be hovering somewhere between livid & terrified (DH gone AWOL!)

163 replies

BleedinEck · 30/09/2013 20:26

I called DH this afternoon to remind him I'm out on a course tonight & ask him to put DC's dinner in the oven as he was due home first. Mid conversation his phone cuts out but as I'd said everything I needed to I just assumed he was with a customer & didn't call back. I arrived home at 7pm with starving & tired DC to find the house in darkness & raw chicken sat in the fridge Confused

He's still not answering his phone or replying to texts, my course started an hour ago & kids had to have beans on toast.

DH does have form for disappearing (50% of the time to the pub the other 50% work related) so my initial reaction is to be fucking furious but as time goes on I'm starting to get worried that something awful has happened. Should I start ringing his mates/work colleagues or sit it out a bit longer!?

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SeaSickSal · 30/09/2013 20:39

Laurie you've absolutely no idea that's true.

PissesGlitter · 30/09/2013 20:39

I would start calling friends now
If something has happened then you need to know sooner than later
If he is at the pub i would need time to pack his shit up!!

tripecity · 30/09/2013 20:40

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littlewhitebag · 30/09/2013 20:40

How often does he do a disappearing act?

50shadesofmeh · 30/09/2013 20:41

Oh dear that's awful I hope he turns up,

TigOldBitties · 30/09/2013 20:41

Has he got an iphone, can't you do find my iphone. Thats how I usually track DH down.

LaurieFairyCake · 30/09/2013 20:41

SSS - of course I don't, nor does anyone til he turns up Hmm

NachoAddict · 30/09/2013 20:42

I hope he turns up.

if he's been in the pub then you need a serious conversation about working as a family and respect.

Lilyloo · 30/09/2013 20:42

If he has form for this I would try not to panic yet. Does he have Facebook ? Can you message his friends there or twitter ?

HopeS01 · 30/09/2013 20:45

Unbelievable
Poor you! I really hope he's okay and that you give him a REALLY hard time

Finola1step · 30/09/2013 20:45

If the phone rings out, then it's not a simple case of getting caught up with something and phone dying.

I would start phoning around his mates. I'm sure all will be fine and he will slope in after a few beers pretending all is ok and he just got really confused about the plans for this evening. If that is the case, then some tough questions will need to be asked.

MissStrawberry · 30/09/2013 20:45

I hope it is a false alarm and you have heard from him now.

MortifiedAdams · 30/09/2013 20:47

How have you reacted in the past when he has disappeared? Its basic respect to let you know rpugh times and places of plans change.

Id be 90% livid and 10% what if.

LovesBeingOnHoliday · 30/09/2013 20:48

Hope you find out either way soon

fishandlilacs · 30/09/2013 20:49

I bet it's nothing serious, I bet he's just an inconsiderate idiot who forgot.

What was your course on? How badly has this messed up your plans for you?

HeySoulSister · 30/09/2013 20:49

Another woman?

canyou · 30/09/2013 20:49

I agree f/b or twitter. Hope he turns up soon.

Viviennemary · 30/09/2013 20:50

If he is generally unreliable like this you are right to be furious. But I don't think beans on toast for one night will do any harm to your DC's. Hope you have heard from him by now.

BorisJohnsonsHair · 30/09/2013 20:51

If anything had happened to him you would have heard by now.

As he has form, my guess is that he went for a drink, forgot the time, and is now too scared to come back or answer his phone. Not big or clever and very disrespectful to you.

Mouthfulofquiz · 30/09/2013 21:02

I'd be so so so so so so mad!!!
I like the suggestion above of tracking his iPhone if he has one?

MammaTJ · 30/09/2013 21:05

This would do my nut in!!

When he safely gets home (shich in all likelyhood he will) kill him proper dead!!

thebody · 30/09/2013 21:08

HeySoul! have you thought about a diplomatic career. [sceptical]

have you found him op?

thebody · 30/09/2013 21:09

lol Wink I can't even read.

Lilyloo · 30/09/2013 21:10

Almost identical thread to this last night and it seems he was fine , hope this turns out the same.

ThermoLobster · 30/09/2013 21:13

My DH did this once. It turns out he had been drinking and had passed out. I was virtually sick with worry. Really feel for you and hope you find him soon.