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Original poster

To be annoyed at my friend for booking her birthday party...

68 replies

Itsmybluminbirthday · 30/09/2013 18:38

On my actual birthday?

That day is not her birthday.

She knew it was my birthday.

Or am I being childish?

Have name changed.

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MillyStar · 30/09/2013 18:40

To me you're being childish but that's because I think birthdays are absolute tosh when you're getting older and I don't think it's a good thing! I'm 28 and I'd quite like to stay here!!

Did you want a party too? Can you have a joint one? If you want one that day and she is inviting the same people then she sounds like a cow!

OddBoots · 30/09/2013 18:40

Does your birthday fall on the nearest weekend to hers? Is your birthday a special one that you were planning your own party for?

ENormaSnob · 30/09/2013 18:41

Is it a big birthday?

When is her birthday?

Trills · 30/09/2013 18:41

There are two kinds of people in the world

Those who are old enough to read a calendar, who are also old enough to know that sometimes you celebrate your birthday on a more convenient day that is not actually the day you were born.

Those not old enough to read a calendar, who won't know if people from the first group rearrange their birthday celebrations to a more convenient day.

Waferthinmint · 30/09/2013 18:41

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livinginwonderland · 30/09/2013 18:41

YABU. She's probably done it then for convenience for her. She probably wasn't even thinking about you.

IAmNotAMindReader · 30/09/2013 18:43

YABU and really you know you are.

spatchcock · 30/09/2013 18:44

If you are both over 12, YABU.

FirstStopCafe · 30/09/2013 18:47

It wouldn't bother me

ReginaldBlinker · 30/09/2013 18:47

YANBU. As someone who loves my birthday, I would be so cross if a mate did that to me...

StillNoFuckingEyeDeer · 30/09/2013 18:47

As long as you're invited to the party, what's the problem?

YouTheCat · 30/09/2013 18:48

So does that mean a friend with a similar timed birthday can't celebrate it on the nearest weekend?

You don't own the date you know. What would you do if it was actually on the same day?

HarpyFishwifeTwat · 30/09/2013 18:52

I love my birthday and can't understand the expectation on here that only children get a special day once a year. Having said that YABU. It's the most convenient time for your friend to celebrate her special day.

Original poster
Itsmybluminbirthday · 30/09/2013 18:54

If it was the same day, I'd have suggested we have a joint birthday party.

I am invited, but it would be a bit weird sitting there, celebrating somebody elses.. It's also on a school night. Just seems totally random.

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wigglesrock · 30/09/2013 18:56

Catch yourself on, if course you're being unreasonable. I have about 4 family members, two very close friends and a godson all of whom have birthdays within 9 days of mine - we usually go out/ have parties on a Saturday afternoon/ Friday night, whenever the most amount can get together.

ReginaldBlinker · 30/09/2013 19:02

But it sounds like her friend didn't suggest a joint party... She just took her date. And yes, even weirder if it's not a weekend!

CaptainSweatPants · 30/09/2013 19:04

Does seem odd
Is it a meal out with a mutual group of friends
Because that would be odd

ModeratelyObvious · 30/09/2013 19:05

Maybe she's busy the two nearest weekends?

Original poster
Itsmybluminbirthday · 30/09/2013 19:07

I'd vaguely considered suggesting a joint party.

Oh well! I take the over riding opinion, that I am in fact, unreasonable!

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bundaberg · 30/09/2013 19:10

i don't think you're being unreasonable!

i wouldn't organise a party of any kind on a close friends birthday in case they were planning on doing anything themselves.

SayCoolNowSayWhip · 30/09/2013 19:11

I don't think you're necessarily unreasonable - if she's booked a party, not on a weekend, on your birthday, on a day that's not your birthday..,. That does seem strange.

How good a friend is she? Are either of your birthdays big numbers? Is there a chance she's actually throwing you a surprise party?

SayCoolNowSayWhip · 30/09/2013 19:12

Sorry, *on a day that's not HER birthday.

PenguinDancer · 30/09/2013 19:13

It depends.

If it's a big deal birthday for her and not for you and its the closet weekend YABU

If not YANBU

Minnieisthedevilmouse · 30/09/2013 19:13

Same group of friends? If so that's weird moronic and very snobby I think.

gamerchick · 30/09/2013 19:15

I agree ^^Maybe it's a surprise party for you? [/clutchingatstraws]

Personally I wouldn't care unless I was planning a do myself and we were in direct competition for guests. I dont think there's anything wrong with feeling miffed.. some people care more about their birthdays than others.