To be annoyed at my friend for booking her birthday party...

[Itsmybluminbirthday]

On my actual birthday?

That day is not her birthday.

She knew it was my birthday.

Or am I being childish?

Have name changed.

[Squitten]

It depends on whether you are planning to do anything on your actual birthday. If so, then tell her the reason you can't go to her party and don't feel bad about missing it. If not then I would go.

[Loopytiles]

If the invitation came by email or facebook, you could reply to all and say "great, I'll be 21 again that day, can celebrate that too!"

[Itsmybluminbirthday]

It'll be an interesting night, whatever happens! I plan on being the soul of gentility however.

[CaptainSweatPants]

hmmm
I wouldn't go

I always spend my actual birthday with dh & dcs

Celebrate with friends before or after the actual day

[Whocansay]

Will you? Or will you get drunk and tell her she's a 'cah'...

[magicberry]

I'm a bit surprised how many people on this thread think adults' birthdays are a big deal. Do you all have parties each year?
I wouldn't think of this as a big deal at all, sorry

[Itsmybluminbirthday]

I'm off the booze as pregnant. We haven't told any of our friends yet, so I could choose this night to announce it...

Ok, now I'm just being evil

[ReginaldBlinker]

magicberry Yes, of course I have a party each year! And normally one the weekend before and the weekend after just for good measure. (being completely serious)

bluminbirthday You know you have to do that, right?! It's only fair!!

[miffybun73]

Yes, yes - do announce it on the night. Congratulations :)

[SayCoolNowSayWhip]

Absolutely I celebrate my birthday each year. Any excuse for a crate of wine good party!

And why not?

This year I turned 30 and managed to keep the celebrations going for a whole week.

Why should the kids get all the fun?

[SayCoolNowSayWhip]

And congratulations blumin. You should definitely turn up to the party, be gracious and sweet, and then at an opportune moment say 'No, I'm not drinking, even though its my birthday today, because I is up duffed innit.'

Or something equally erudite

[VashtaNerada]

YANBU, would piss me right off! If turn up with a big 'Birthday Girl' badge, balloons and party hat

[VashtaNerada]

"I'd turn up" obv...

[waltermittymissus]

DO announce it!

Or, failing that, send an email reply but to everyone on the list, saying you're sorry you can't make it but since it's your actual BIRTHDAY you have BIRTHDAY plans.

[MrsWembley]

Oh wow, fucking congratulations!!!! That's an amazing piece of news to share! How far along are you? Is the timing ok to share with RL friends?

How many of the friends who will be there are aware that it's your birthday on that date? Do you think she's forgotten? Is she a cahhhh?

[Xmasbaby11]

YANBU .. it's a bit weird on a weeknight. I'm guessing she is busy the weekend before / after and it is the best time for her.

I'm not sure I would go unless it's mutual friends - purely because I'd want to spend the evening with DH and/or close friends.

[mirry2]

My mil has the same birthday as me. Her dh regularly organises a family clebratonf for her to which I go. Nobody acknowledges that it's also my birthday (although they know) but it doesn't bother me at all. My mil deserves her celebration and all the family around her.

[maddening]

take your own bday cake along - with the news of the baby it'll be your party too (without the faff of organising it)