WIBU to move out and take everything

[FarOverTheRainbow]

Bit of background. My OH decided to end out relationship a few days ago. We have 1 DC under 1. I don't want the relationship to end at all, we have our problems and decieded we would give it one last try for each other but a couple of weeks in after telling me he had no intention of ending things he no has. I'm heart broken. We rent a house of his parents and they have said if I stay they will increase the rent to so can't afford to stay so I'm moving out with DD. The tenancy is all in my name. XP has said he is moving in wen I love out so the only things I'm allowed to take is DDs things because he needs the rest. I'm a SAHM mum and he has a good paying job, I think should have most the bigger stuf like fridge, dryer, sofa but he says I have nothing. When we brought anything we both put money into everything and had 1 pit so it was all just "ours" I'm angry I'm being forced out my home with DD and now he says I'm not allowed anything. So WIVU to take it anyway?

Please don't flame me if I am, my heads a mess, I've lost my whole life and now I'm expected to start again from
Nothing while he has everything

Possibly to look at the place and get the chance to check it and say something to you before you leave? Or so he thinks your leaving!

What happened with the bidding? I assume that wasn't successful.

I think it's to be nosey again and see what I've packed ad if anythig a missing

The coucil have bid for me as ill find out over the next few days if I've got a flat or not

Text and say you may be moving in a few days so he can wait until you've gone.

probably because it's a legal requirement to have one...

tell him no, and that you won't allow access for any reason.

that is your right and you need to exercise it.

Do you have a Gas/Electrical Safety Certificate? I can't think you can have if there is no smoke detector.

Look into that sharpish as it's ILLEGAL and criminal not to have that in place.

under NO circumstances let anyone in, anyone to do with him, his family or anyone that you have not specifically invited. Got that?

I don't think I have a certificate he might but I don't, the boiler has been checked every year though.

There's no way I'm letting him in. I lose enough sleep as it is without having that hanging over me too

Tempted to text to say that the Council have requested copies of his valid certificate and can he post you a copy...

but don't, leave it.

Send the text to say that you won't be allowing access for the time being.

I've now ha another message from his dad ( AKA sister) saying that as he hasn't had a response to his text he is now serving me with notice to enter to property on Friday to replace the fire alarm and in occur dance to my tenancy agreement I am
Legally obligated to allow him to enter the property and I don't have to be there while he does it.

Now what do I do? Let him in?

And a message from XP saying "noted, please provide details
Of your solicitor for communication to commence"

How the fuck can he say noted then text! I told him I want no contact. He knows my mums address and can see his solicitor and get ny letters sent there, he didn't need to contact me

What fucking tenancy agreement? I thought there wasn't one?!

Yeh there is that's why they've had to serve me with a section 21

To make things simple can you arrange for your Mum and/or a friend to be there, let him in, and watch him till he leaves?

And you don't need a solicitor for his to contact you, if he had a solicitor he would know that. Just ignore, ignore, ignore.

Why don't you see what WA think? Given the circumstances, definitely have someone there for the duration of his visit while you go and do something nice.

Reply:

"there will be NO access at all without my permission. Rights to Quiet Enjoyment come before contractual law.

If you want to enter MY HOME you will need a court order.

But you knew that didn't you SIL, being a hot shot solicitor and all that"

strike out fail

Hissy knows her stuff, strikeout fail or not

Send that text, Far, and get someone over for coffee and cake so you're not on your own; it'll help stop you getting twitchy. I doubt that he would risk coming anyway, if he got the text Hissy suggested.

I haven't sent anything yet, been really busy packing and had someone round to help so been a productive day.

She went to uni and qualified but then didn't get the next bit to make finish her qualification so she isn't a solicitor now she works beneath them but thinks she knows more because of the course she did if that makes sense? Don't want to give exact details?

I think she's done work as a paralegal before but I know she's working in a firm and doing alot of the paper work and leg work but not sure of her title. She thinks she's very knowledgeable is that even a word? and I've always believed her she seems to not what she's talking about and is very very confident and good with words

She can represent hkm in court can't she? Because you can represent yourself?

She can represent hkm in court can't she? Because you can represent yourself?

She can represent him, but from what you say, she sounds very full of herself and perhaps rather delusional. She didn't become a qualified lawyer herself, but assumes she is better than the actual practising lawyers?! It might do you a big favour if she decides to represent him.